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On September 16 2012 05:48 Antylamon wrote:
I am not autistic, but I experience several symptoms of autism. I attend groups with people who have ADHD, Aspergers, etc. because of this, mostly for myself but somewhat because it makes autistic people feel more normal.
I sound a lot like you, especially since I was a super-hyper Pokemon fan for a good 4 or 5 years. Although I have the antisocial thing more than you do. I basically have no friends at my school because at least 75-80% of the people there are, to be polite, people that I *really* disagree with in mentality. I only have one or two friends there and a couple other friends who go to a different school.
Oh, and I've been obsessed with SC2 since it came out. I probably forgot that because I'm surrounded by people who are also obsessed when I'm on TL. Ironic isn't it?
Although one difference I can easily tell between you and me is that you're fine with your decision not to have many friends, whereas I sometimes question myself. This is especially because I am a huge fan of Earthbound and PMD2, and I am a brony. All of these stories (although MLP doesn't really have a story, LOL) emphasize friendship, which I completely agree with. Although I prefer to have one or two very close friends, even though my friends aren't really that close...
All that added on to the fact that I'm not really interested in having a gf (I'm disgusted by mankind's perverted interests) makes me a hypocrite. :/
You dislike 3/4 of the people you know? If you want friends, you can't really be too picky; plus, having a wide variety of friends can be really helpful. I mean, if you know a guy with a pickup, someone that's good at getting ladies, a really smart guy, someone who knows fitness really well, etc. you have a ton of people that can help you in a lot of ways. It sounds like you are searching for people who are just like you, or antagonizing the "cool kids."
Are you really not interested in a SO or are you too nervous/ not confident enough to try?
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I'm in high school and I moved into the neighborhood just after elementary school. I had a lot of friends in elementary school. I never really bothered trying to get new friends, but then I got a bit distanced from my friends.
The problem isn't that I dislike all of them, I think I worded it incorrectly. I just don't know them at ALL. I didn't even try to know them; I'm using my limited knowledge to judge them, which is really all I can do at this point.
Also I got traumatized in middle school by the first friend I tried to make.
Enough about me, though. It's the OP's thread.
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You don't sound antisocial at all, just shy.
Hell, you have almost 5k posts here, that alone says you're not antisocial.
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Well the fact that I'm more comfortable without physical people around me is something. As for being shy, not really - if I have a reason to talk to a stranger I won't have any issue with it. I guess maybe it's to be shy to not really know how to approach someone with a generic conversation-starter or whatever.
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I'm very much a lot like you. It is not necessarily aspergers or autism, those disorders have to do with understanding people and recognizing emotions/facial expressions etc.
Much akin to you, I prefer my alone time, introverts get tired out by interacting with others but recharge when alone. I am inside my head a lot, other people irritate & disturb me. Its nothing bad / detrimental if you get by, just another way of living life.
It has been a result of fallacious assumptions made by a predominantly extroverted society that their way of living is superior & healthier to any other.
That being said, I don't condone sitting in a dark room playing World of Warcraft for 5 days straight.
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You're an introvert.
There's nothing wrong with introverts.
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hey if you want to change yourself, then all you need to do is act like the kind of person you want to become.
and im not just talking about some random crap ppl say like "you only live once" or "just do it" or what not
you know how smiling produces endorphin and in turn it makes you happy? ppl usually think feeling happy - > smile
but it can be the other way around.
its the same with being confident and outgoing. in this case, acting like your confident and outgoing
produces more testerone and decreases cortisol, which makes you more risk loving and feeling confident. its called
power posing.
but then if you are happy where you are, i see no reason to change at all.
just my 2 cents.
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I really don't want to be anybody else tho =P
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Your girlfriend is probably cheating on you. Just a heads up.
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I'm the same way basically... how'd you get a gf if you don't socialize much? I need to know the secrets man!
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On September 16 2012 15:12 IMoperator wrote:
I'm the same way basically... how'd you get a gf if you don't socialize much? I need to know the secrets man!
Well we were essentially kids in high school and in our particular case it didn't start so artificially. We became friends largely because I spoke English unlike a vast majority of people here. She was dumped onto a French school with very basic and insufficient knowledge of the language, so I helped her to get around. That's how it started anyway, sorry to disappoint x_x
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On September 16 2012 22:19 Djzapz wrote:Show nested quote +On September 16 2012 15:12 IMoperator wrote:
I'm the same way basically... how'd you get a gf if you don't socialize much? I need to know the secrets man! Well we were essentially kids in high school and in our particular case it didn't start so artificially. We became friends largely because I spoke English unlike a vast majority of people here. She was dumped onto a French school with very basic and insufficient knowledge of the language, so I helped her to get around. That's how it started anyway, sorry to disappoint x_x
aww 
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You'll find yours. And if all else fails, get rich.
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dont worry so much about the quantity but the quality of friends
also 'This may sound cheesy but I think I would be forever alone and severely incapacitated if I were to lose her.' really unhealthy. your whole relationship there sounds kind of unhealthy tbh, but it is hard to take away a whole lot about that from a few paragraphs. but generally, you shouldnt be with someone just because you're scared of the other side
also it isn't a big deal to do what makes you happy if it is internet stuff (it's obviously the case for most of us nerds on here) but you gotta have balance. make it a point to challenge yourself and go out for brewskis every now and then to keep balanced. if you're not doing it for the social aspect (which you should) do it because networking in college is just about the most important thing you can do at that age
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Our relationship is healthy, not worried about that. I don't know what gives the vibe that you got, but I'm guessing I failed to forward my thoughts properly somehow. I'm not with her "just" because I'm scared to be alone or anything like that. It was just some reasoning about my condition and my "limits", so to speak.
Some may argue that our relationship is unhealthy based on what I said because we don't go out much with a lot of friends, but we do go out quite a bit just the both of us - and we spend a lot of time together at home. Been together 6 years and we're happy 
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eh, it was just a take away from a brief paragraph about that mostly because what you said and what you didn't say (anything positive about her)
i wouldnt read too much into it hahw
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On September 18 2012 00:20 QuanticHawk wrote:
eh, it was just a take away from a brief paragraph about that mostly because what you said and what you didn't say (anything positive about her)
i wouldnt read too much into it hahw
I understand. I made a conscious decision not to talk too much about her because that's not the point of my thread.
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