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Hey fellow tl'ers.
Long time flerting with the idea of creating a blog, and here i am now, at 6 A.M. writing stuff up so i can feel a bit better.
Short introduction, my name is Hugo, i'm Brazilian and am 21 years old.
As odd as you may think this is, Brazil is not a great place to be. Not for me at least.
I just graduated on the finest gastronomy school in the country, my familiy has a solid financial situation, i'm finally back home again (cuz i had to travel out of the state to do the college stuff)... but, weirdly enough, i don't feel like home at all...
Fighting with my mom all the time (think i might have changed a bit while i was out huh?) over stupid things, have no will to get a job whatsoever (even tho i'm totally capable of, and my profession is really in need on the market at the present moment), dont feel like going out, my brother is having a baby with his gf and has his own family now..
I dont know if you can tell, but i'm kinda freaking lost.
I dont wanna stay home, and get sustained by my mom's income, i'm sick of that already, i experienced what leaving by myself feels like and i just cant stand living with my family anymore.
Don't get me wrong, my family is THE BEST, my mother is a single one (divorced from my dad like 15 years ago) and raised me and my brother all by herself, she gave nothing but sweat and blood to raise us, and i'm really thankfull for that, but i'm starting to think that i'm the one who's not the BEST for my familiy anymore.
Maybe it's time to "grow up" a bit and go live by myself, with my own salary, but as i said, living here in Brazil doesn't appeal to me no more. I dont see me having a better life living alone in Brazil than with my familiy.
I recently watched Tasteless RealTalk with JpMcdaniels at youtube, and tasteless way to describe seoul really made me wanna see how it is all like... a completely different (and by that i dont mean necesseraly good), non-violent place, where you can work and set your mind straight...
Maybe that's what i'm in need of... but not sure... Maybe it's the childish toughts everybody has once in a while, about moving out and all of that crap, maybe it'll go away in some weeks... but all i now right now is that i'm felling really blue, and i dont know what to do to feel better about myself and my plans for the future.
If you read all the way through here, you are a hero, thanks! 
  
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Italy12248 Posts
Finding a job abroad is always a possibility if you feel like moving out, and at least in Europe it's actually really easy. I guess it would be a bit more complex in Brazil, but even then moving to a city in the US or Canada at the very least should be doable no?
Personally, when i get done with college i don't think i will stay in Italy.
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I don't like Seoul so much. It's great if you're light-skinned and skinny or physically fit. They'll idolize you over there. They take to you a lot less if you're darker or overweight. So if you're white and aren't fat, go for it.
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Ge a job.. in Brazil. Save up then go. Gastronomy = chef right? Easy working holiday visa in Australia.
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i've actually considering heading to australia, heard there's plenty of good job oportunities there and all the australians i met till now are super nice people, i'll consider the idea, thanks
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I'm not an experienced human being at all, but I'll state my opinions on the matter anyway.
I think you need to endure Brazil for a few years and get some job experience and bank some money. Don't know if your mother will let you stay home when you have a job, but that'll probably make saving money easier. Going to an English-speaking country (like Australia previously mentioned) could be a good start. If you wanna live in Korea you might need to learn the language a bit before going there. If nothing else, maybe working abroad will force you to learn more about yourself and how you work - maybe you'll even realize that Brazil is where you belong. Who knows? It will still look good on your CV with work experience abroad.
As a funny side note, my mother is a chef and a smoker, and she has always said during my child days: "Never start smoking, and never become a chef!" :p
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Start local bro, Seoul isn't some fantasy place where happiness flows like a river...
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@vgijamven
haha, that's prolly a good advice, work in kitchen is heavy as hell, it's not a coincidence that kitchens work sorta like armies rsrs.
ya, all u wrote made a lot of sense, i've had a consolidated idea of traveling abroad for a long time now, as my profession requires that for a decent cv (as u mentioned), but now that i'm home i feel that urge a lot stronger in me... I think you made a lot of sense, maybe Brazil IS where i belong, but i just dont know that, and traveling will only make me sure of where i belong, and IF i belong anywhere, who knows. Anyways, those were good advices and i apreciate the time u took to come and help me, really do.
@OpticalShot
Ya, that's probably what i'm going to do anyways, even if i wanted to leave right now, dont have the cash for it. Also know that Korea isn't a place where happines flows like a river hahaha, i'm considering Seoul a place to live, just like i'm considering Sidney in Australia, Tokyo Japan, London England... all good cities and completely different cultures that would help me getting to know myself a bit more. I apreciate the advice, thanks
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Make yourself a plan like this:
a) Earn money until you saved xyz and then go travel to see what it's like out there.
or b) You could work+travel, if you're a good chef then I think it would be pretty easy to travel around and find works there.
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