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Euronymous
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
Australia9 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-05 03:47:54
June 05 2012 10:38 GMT
#1


Th1rdEye
Profile Blog Joined December 2006
United States1074 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-06-05 12:24:31
June 05 2012 12:23 GMT
#2
Well, its not a good sign if she hasn't replied to your messages.

You should know from instinct if when you asked for her phone number if she was really interested in you or just giving it out to satisfy you at the moment, for some women have no spines.

Hanging out with her, studying, and acting friendly to her are all semi-mistakes imo, once you're friend zoned its hard to get out of that.

^ obviously you want to be friendly, but not to "FRIEND"ly


Anyway, if you're writing a blog on TL about it, you're probably pretty obsessed with her. I don't know for sure, but it sounds this way. And girls seem to have a radar for that.
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r.Evo
Profile Joined August 2006
Germany14080 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-06-05 12:42:36
June 05 2012 12:41 GMT
#3
First of all this is one of the cooler girl blogs I feel myself replying to. The most imprtant part is that you're already at the point that you understand that to get something you aren't used to getting you have to change your behaviour. With that alone you're already ahead of the curve. (Also I can identify myself with the Metal guy who is getting friendzoned. Was like 10 years ago, but anyway. <3)

I allow myself to make excuses to myself, telling myself that i'm too depressed to get into the whole 'game' of love at the moment.

Good job, you know that it's an excuse.

I decide to cut the crap and ask her to hang out over the holidays and she enteres her phone number.

Good job again.


So now it's the week of exams: I've sent her a few messages and she hasn't replied to one so i decided to wait untill after we are done with exams.

Please explain what "a few messages" are for you. How many, what general content? In what intervals? (Trying to figure out how "pushy" you might seem to her.) ... In general while messages can work in awesome ways (in fact I think most people just are horrible at writing them), I'd usually go for a call instead. Nothing big though.


**TL;DR Is it possible to shatter bad first impressions with a girl? If so, how? I have a timid/shy impression with a goth girl (whose number I have) i share a lot in common with and I want to use my new found healthy mental state to break the mold.**

You don't have a bad first impression with her. If you did, she wouldn't have given you her number and she wouldn't have hung out with you. Coming across as a bit timid and shy is not the end of the world. From your description you didn't really do much so far so it shouldn't be that much of a deal.

Unless you're going to add something important (especially in case you bombed her with like 50 SMS in 3 days =P), here's my suggestion:

#1. Worry about your exams. (=P)
#2. Once they're over (2-3 days) call her and ask if she wants to go for a drink or something similar.
#3. Remember that the difference between a friendship and a relationship is that couples have sex. Friends usually don't. Sexual attraction is, among other things, built by getting to know each other on a physical level. Don't be scared of escalating and/or touching her in general. =P

gl hf, keep us updated. ♥


PS: Random comment from my gf after she saw your pics: He still looks like a panda who's gonna eat kids for breakfest. =D


Edit: Please ask yourself if "Again i'm not too worried if she declines anymore" is really true. From what we know you barely know that girl and seem pretty into her. Usually that's a bad sign.
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Euronymous
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
Australia9 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-05 03:48:08
June 05 2012 13:23 GMT
#4
r.Evo
Profile Joined August 2006
Germany14080 Posts
June 05 2012 14:22 GMT
#5
Ahh, gotcha. Yeah, just don't worry about her not replying, no need to bring it up in the future even. Two weeks is a time period where I'd usually try to let her hear from me to avoid her flaking afterwards. Unless you see each other at uni anyway just some generic stuff aka "omg I just listened to xyz that shit is so awesome" or just any kind of random smalltalk, either via call or message. Just throw her a bone in a week or so, doesn't even matter if she responds or not.


A good idea. I'd obviously care, and it'd be a shame, but I already have stuff going on with other girls.

Stop worrying. I dare saying this isn't even really blogworthy since you don't really have a problem. =P
"We don't make mistakes here, we call it happy little accidents." ~Bob Ross
Fishgle
Profile Blog Joined May 2011
United States2174 Posts
June 05 2012 14:26 GMT
#6
On June 05 2012 21:23 Th1rdEye wrote:
Anyway, if you're writing a blog on TL about it, you're probably obsessed with her. And girls seem to have a radar for that.


xD the sad truth about girl blogs
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FlaShFTW
Profile Blog Joined February 2010
United States10184 Posts
June 05 2012 16:10 GMT
#7
On June 05 2012 23:26 Fishgle wrote:
Show nested quote +
On June 05 2012 21:23 Th1rdEye wrote:
Anyway, if you're writing a blog on TL about it, you're probably obsessed with her. And girls seem to have a radar for that.


xD the sad truth about girl blogs

at least they wont see these blogs right??????? xD
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