So I owe you guys an update for helping me thorugh my breakdown :p

Well, apprently I was indeed being an overdramatizing idiot because she isn't gonna date the guy at all!
However, she doesn't seem ready for something serious yet either, so I guess we're back to where we were before. I can defintely live with that for now. Big thanks to everyone really, I wasn't thinking straight and definetly needed your help to pull my shit together

Thrill

2599 Posts

May 14 2012 19:19 GMT

#23

On May 13 2012 21:25 Arcanefrost wrote:
We were like Rachel and Ross from Friends, just two people who are so obviously great together.

We were both gonna be at the same party, so I planned on kissing her there. Only after half an hour there she was making out with a random douchebag who she barely knew (I don't even know him at all, but you can instantly see that he is a massive jerk by the way he acts). My heart just broke.

You're kidding with this right? Remember Paolo from Friends?

1. She has no idea you feel this way.

2. She has no idea you were "planning on kissing her that night".

It's literally the exact same situation.

RedJustice

United States1004 Posts

May 14 2012 19:32 GMT

#24

Told youuuu.

Anyway, glad it is working out (so far). Even if the relationship was crappy everyone needs some time to move on, and it's probably best for both of you in the long run if she takes her time. Glad you are feeling better, and crossing my fingers for you. ^^

qrs

United States3637 Posts

May 14 2012 20:14 GMT

#25

On May 13 2012 21:25 Arcanefrost wrote:
I smashed the bathroom mirror out of anger (sorry club owner).

You should pay for that.

beetlelisk

Poland2276 Posts

May 14 2012 20:54 GMT

#26

After reading blog like this you would think girls should read TL to decipher "nice guys" for dating more.

obesechicken13

United States10467 Posts

May 15 2012 03:52 GMT

#27

You'll regret it when she gets another bf

beetlelisk

Poland2276 Posts

May 15 2012 04:13 GMT

#28

On May 15 2012 12:52 obesechicken13 wrote:
You'll regret it when she gets another bf

No shit sherlock :/ how about saying something actually constructive like other posters did?

OpticalShot

Canada6330 Posts

May 15 2012 14:32 GMT

#29

First advice is ALWAYS PUBLISH YOUR GIRL PROBLEMS because hundreds of drama-hungry internet warriors (like myself) always appreciate something fresh to bite on. Always true and always will be true, so continue to update us =)

Okay regarding the actual girl or the girl problem, rather, so she drunk-made-out with some random douchebag and you felt bad. Both understandable. The fact that she had that moment of sadness in her eyes (which could have been your imagination but I'll take your word that it was for real) also works both ways - she was conscious enough to notice who you are and have a moment of recollection, but that also means she was "conscious" while making out with a random dude. Whatever.

You've got to control your anger better (smashing shit doesn't solve the problem), and you've got to make your intent clear to her. Don't rush things, but don't expect her to make everything better by herself either. Good luck!

Otolia

France5805 Posts

May 15 2012 17:10 GMT

#30

People who looks to be truly happy are not happy because of fate but because they fight every day for their love. Stop being a coward, tell her how you feel about her ex-boyfriend, your feelings. If you get rejected, then so be it.

Servius_Fulvius

United States947 Posts

May 15 2012 20:21 GMT

#31

On May 15 2012 03:44 Arcanefrost wrote:
So I owe you guys an update for helping me thorugh my breakdown :p

Well, apprently I was indeed being an overdramatizing idiot because she isn't gonna date the guy at all!
However, she doesn't seem ready for something serious yet either, so I guess we're back to where we were before. I can defintely live with that for now. Big thanks to everyone really, I wasn't thinking straight and definetly needed your help to pull my shit together

Seems like I missed the party.

After reading the OP I was going to say something to the effect of "She's rebounding; give it time".

Now I have one question: Did you tell her how you felt? It sounds like you may have, or you could have asked if she's dating the dude from the party. Both would give the same information. Ultimately it would be good if she knows where you stand (sounds like you're willing to give her time to recover from the breakup) so you don't go through the same thing months from now when a new guy comes around.

Carson

Canada820 Posts

May 15 2012 20:45 GMT

#32

"sorry club owner"

yeah, dang. If it were me, I'd offer to pay for it, because that's a douche-move.

Otherwise, I wish you the best.