Yet again...

Bunn

Estonia934 Posts

December 28 2011 23:22 GMT

Yet again is christmas and the start of a new year is ruined for me and my mother. Every year at least for the past 3-4 years father gets drunk. What happens then? He gets annoying, retarded, violent and whatnot. This year is not different, only it seems that it's gotten a bit worse. That's probably because he has made some sort of own wine brewery(?), and has drank a huge barrel of it in 1 week(or a bit more) + buying beer and vodka.
Maybe that's also the reason why I'm afraid of ever getting drunk, as perhaps I may turn out to be the same? Oh well...
Sorry for the meaningless blabbering, just wanted to get this off my chest.

I hope you don't mind my English skills, and that you had a merry christmas, and will have a happy new year.

AegonC

United States260 Posts

December 28 2011 23:26 GMT

I have the same problem with my Uncle. It can be hard to deal with, but I've found the easiest solution is to take away something that will hurt them: your affection. If he really loves you, he'll stop what hes doing if you stop talking to him or stop showing him affection. It can be easier for descendants of alcoholics to become alcoholics themselves.Just trust yourself and realize that you'll have to be very careful around alcohol if you don't want to degrade into the same state as your father.

Pulimuli

Sweden2766 Posts

December 28 2011 23:43 GMT

Christmas is a holiday for the family and for the children so i never drink alcohol during christmas because i feel like it is very unnecessary.

Tough spot, you can always hope he comes to his senses and stops before its too late. The only good thing coming from this is that you'll probably learn not to behave like that when you get a family of your own

Yanami

Germany49 Posts

December 28 2011 23:45 GMT

If you don't depend on him, financially, move out with your mother.
My father got a real prick after I realized he's an alcoholic. I didn't talk to him about it but well. He threw me out of his flat (after a fight, because I was on a bad mood that day) a month ago. Now I'm living with my mother again.
So.. from what I've had..I'd rather tell you to get out of it before it gets YOU out. >_>
And about the drinking thing: Don't worry, you know what happened to your family because of the alcohol. So you will naturally be more careful about it. I don't drink, almost, at all. (I get drunk after one little Tequila, so there's no need of drinking masses..XD)
As AegonC said, trust yourself. You'll learn from what you've gone trough.

Happy Christmas to you, too. And a happy new year, in advance.

eXigent.

Canada2419 Posts

December 29 2011 00:10 GMT

I went through this for the 19years I was at home. My mother cannot control her alcohol , and drinks daily / gets shitface drunk 3-4 times a week. All you want to do is be happy, but that 1 fucking person is ruining everything without even realizing it. Best thing I did was get the fuck outta there , and never look back. Good luck man, I feel for ya.

Flamingo777

United States1190 Posts

December 29 2011 03:24 GMT

You can drink. No matter what people say, you are more in control of your actions when drunk than what people think. If you move out and are in a situation where you are offered alcohol, take a sip, but start slow and learn your boundaries/limits! Unless you have severe mental deficiencies, inferiority complexes, god complexes, etc, you should be fine. Don't cement your perspective on drinking based on one person's inability to drink safely, and/or excusing his violence on a bottle of alcoholic liquid.

Cheers! I hope your situation gets better, but unless there is some sort of serious intervention, I don't see it happening, and I hope it stops before it can get worse.

DrTJEckleburg

United States1080 Posts

December 29 2011 03:36 GMT

My uncle has been an alcoholic since he was thirteen so I was constantly exposed to the abuses of alcohol at a young age. I promised myself even at that age that I would not allow myself to do the same by not drinking. As it turns out I drink now, but I didn't even start until age 21 and it's very light drinking on my part too. One thing I still maintain is that some day down the road when I have children, I will stop for them. If anything, allow yourself to break the chain of abuse by not exposing your children to such events.

Glad to get that off my chest too, thanks!

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