Right I have the paperwork filled out.

Unfortunately the courts cant *force* shared parenting, which is the only thing that would work with my schedule. So I have the paperwork for full custody and the paperwork for visitation rights.

I don't plan on actually filing them now though, as I have pretty firmly decided the Army is where Im going for now.

The best I can do is see him on leave and send money to the mom.

KeksX

Germany3634 Posts

December 07 2011 10:24 GMT

#22

Sorry if this offends you in any way but after reading the OP I immediately thought of this:
http://i.imgur.com/drYUf.jpg

I mean, I think it's not quite the same, but hearing that she's trying to take adventages out of being the mother etc makes me mad.
I know a lot of stories and have quite the experience with my parents as well with this..

So yea, whatever you end up doing, I wish you the best of luck and that you not only find the right woman but also the job you really WANT to do.

shadowboxer

United States224 Posts

December 07 2011 10:35 GMT

#23

I honestly wish women weren't so goddamn attractive so we wouldn't have to put up with this kind of bullshit. If only they were hideous they would be SO easy to ignore...

Keep your chin up man, the military is a GREAT place to get your life on track and as long as you have a career direction to take with them, you'll be in a great place in 10 years. Your son will truly appreciate you when he looks back and saw that you didn't fall into the same trap so many have and that you persevered through a hard time in your life for yourself, but more importantly, for him.

Good luck with everything and keep us posted man. I'll be proud to have someone like you protecting me and the people I love.

LingBlingMuta

United States382 Posts

December 07 2011 10:38 GMT

#24

@ Keksx none taken buddy, I pretty much think this how women think. I actually laughed when I read that. We are no more than poor smucks.

@shadowboxer Thanks for the support man!

I appreciate all the feedback thus far guys thanks.

DJWilma

Canada740 Posts

December 07 2011 10:39 GMT

#25

I have to say how much I fucking hate the who legal system being rigged in the mothers favor, I'd even go as far to say I would love to see laws changed. On the fact that if a woman is pregnant with our child, it is 100% her decision to keep it or not. If she keeps it, you have to pay, if she doesn't, you lose your child. We should only have to pay for the kid while shes pregnant, since we did get her pregnant but after birth its up to her what she does with it, so we should be liability free.

Sorry that was a little of subject.

Dude just keep in there, I know the one thing I cared about most was just having my dad around when I was young, so you need to do whatever you can to fix you, so you can be the best you for him. Fucking take your wife to court too, you may not get sole custody, but 50/50 is better than what she is doing to you right now. You have every right to see him at this point until the courts are brought in. So as long as you can be civil with your ex (and she isnt fucking crazy) I'm sure you guys can work something out for the what is best for Jackson.

And please, if you do get shipped out, come home safe, nothing is worse than growing up with a picture as your father figure....

LingBlingMuta

United States382 Posts

December 07 2011 10:44 GMT

#26

@DjWilma

Well I have did alot of research and Im going to try to get something in my contract where I can get shipped to Korea, that would be awesome to get a taste of another culture, and hopefully attend a GSL :-)

The only reason I don't plan on turning in the paperwork I have filled out is, if I didnt join the military I would still be in school full time for atleast another year, I feel like sacrificing 2 years with my son in the long run is going to be the best thing for the both of us.

BearStorm

United States795 Posts

December 07 2011 10:46 GMT

#27

I think it's great that you are proactive in trying to improve your life. Your will must be very strong to be in your situation and decide to join the armed forces. Best of luck man!

DJWilma

Canada740 Posts

December 07 2011 10:51 GMT

#28

That would be sick if you could do that, do what you think is right. How old is your son? Because though you may miss the first years of his life, he really won't remember as he will be developing mentally, but with the grace of technology, thinking your ex is okay with it, you could always skype call with her while shipped out to see your son, and him growing up, the amazing part about technology. And no matter where you get shipped to, make sure you bring a video camera and document as much as you can for your son, he will LOVE to watch videos of where his dad has been.

If this helps, you have further solidified my position on marriage and having kids. I think I might just put my time towards helping raise my nephew (hes 8 month old, and besides his parents, I'm the next best thing, or so he acts like it, his name is Jacob if you were wondering

)

Juliette

United States6003 Posts

December 07 2011 10:53 GMT

#29

I'd just like to say best of luck to you. my family is kinda going through some custody related things, and while I can't really imagine how that feels I can still offer my support.

Looking forward to another blog ^^

LingBlingMuta

United States382 Posts

December 07 2011 10:58 GMT

#30

@bearstorm thanks <3

@DjWilma He is going to be 3 soon, I plan on talking to my son's grandma, (ex's mother) and setting up some sort of skype schedule etc, when I figure out exactly how everything is going to play out.

@Juliette Thanks for the support, its great just being able to open up to random strangers and it actually helping me with my decision.

KeksX

Germany3634 Posts

December 07 2011 11:00 GMT

#31

On December 07 2011 19:35 shadowboxer wrote:
I honestly wish women weren't so goddamn attractive so we wouldn't have to put up with this kind of bullshit. If only they were hideous they would be SO easy to ignore...

Can't live with them can't live without them, right? Sorry, had to respond to this, funny yet somehow TOO true answer. But luckily there are women that are not like this, I guess some people just end up being very unlucky.

DJWilma

Canada740 Posts

December 07 2011 11:01 GMT

#32

We LingBlingMuta can you keep up posting blogs about the developement of your situation, cuz I would love to keep tabs on how your doing

LingBlingMuta

United States382 Posts

December 07 2011 11:22 GMT

#33

Yeah, Ill post another in a couple days letting you know about the contract etc, what ever is going to happen there.

Oh no + Show Spoiler +

Boxer threw away his Code S slot!!!

Goodnight everyone, thanks for the support!

Skilledblob

Germany3392 Posts

December 07 2011 11:27 GMT

#34

am I getting this right.

You want to quit your education to join the military because you think they will help you through hard times? I am sorry for what happened to you and I really dont like this mother favoring either but what you do is not "sort out your life" what you do is running away from the problems. This is never right and will not help you and probably leave you with a lot of regret.

Finish your education, get a good job and get your son back that's what you should do and not run away to the military because they surely wont help you and even keep you longer away from your kid.

On a not so serious side you could open up a biker club in southern california

LingBlingMuta

United States382 Posts

December 07 2011 12:02 GMT

#35

Trust me your not the only one thinking like that, I have actually thought of that as well.

I just feel the joining up and doing my 2-3 years will help pay for school and ease my financial burden, while at the same time providing for my child and getting to absorb the world.

You can look at it how you will, I absolutely respect your point of view, I just feel like this *short-term* sacrifice is going to shape me into a better person for the long haul of life.