EPTedit: i didn't even read that closely but if someones dating three people at once someones a ho.
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Probe1
United States17920 Posts
edit: i didn't even read that closely but if someones dating three people at once someones a ho. | ||
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Subversive
Australia2229 Posts
On November 08 2011 17:26 SarR wrote: If you can bone other chicks, then go for it. This commitment bullshit is just burdensome pseudo-moral nonsense that some bronze age stoner made up....just like the bible. Your girl wants commitment ? Try not to get caught. If you get caught then tough luck, for her that is. She can either choose to stay or leave. If she stays, please re-evaluate your game so as not to get caught. To make things easier you could just avoid the commitment thing altogether. Friends with benefits type of thing. On November 08 2011 20:57 SarR wrote: She is keeping her options open without considering the emotional cost you have to bear for her actions. This to me is very selfish. If I valued someone, Id give then my all and risk finding out later that it was not meant to be. There is more honor in that. What she is doing clearly shows how little she values you. She doesn't deserve your understanding. The discrepancy in these two posts is deliciously ironic. On November 08 2011 20:32 SpoR wrote: it was actually her who was afraid of the labels. They don't mean shit to me in the literal sense of the words. I'm more interested in the idea of being committed, loyal, and exclusive than saying we're bf/gf. It just so happens that the generally accepted term for those ideals are bf/gf. Yeah you've basically nailed it in one. As everyone has said, it just comes down to communication. Only you know if she deceived you or not. Sounds like you're leaning towards she didn't. I voted No for the record. Not because I see dating multiple people as fine in any circumstance, but simply because I think it comes down to values and communication. If someone dates multiple people but is reasonably upfront about it, or at least doesn't hide it and deceive their partner, then no problem. Honesty is the important factor. | ||
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craz3d
Bulgaria856 Posts
Also, keep in mind that the same goes for the girl: if you aren't fucking her or fucking her well enough, she should go and get sexual satisfaction elsewhere. | ||
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SarR
476 Posts
On November 08 2011 22:13 Subversive wrote: The discrepancy in these two posts is deliciously ironic. How so ? Please elaborate. | ||
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
You really don't see it? The fact you say the guy should go fuck other girls but for the girl she should stay committed? | ||
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
On November 08 2011 16:54 ReachTheSky wrote: I've cheated on every chick i've dated hahaha HAHAHAHAHA AWESOME BRO HIGH FIVE! On November 08 2011 16:58 Asrathiel wrote: If one person believes that they are in an exclusive relationship, and the other person is not upfront about the fact that they don't feel it's an exclusive relationship, then yes, it's cheating... if they're both fully aware of it and happy and understand that either of them can date other people if they wish, then it's all good. Exactly this. There's nothing wrong with dating multiple people, as long as both people know it's not an exclusive relationship. It's no excuse for one to say that they never said they were exclusive, even though they knew the other person thought they were. Dating multiple people is pretty common, I don't know how common it is to fuck multiple people though. You're basically saying you should fuck everyone and anything you can, just try not to get caught, but even if you do, 'lol'. Then you say that dating multiple people has an emotional cost on the other person, and that doing so is seflish, and you would prefer to have honor by giving a relationship your all. Fuck everyone, big lols =/= Honor in relationship | ||
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
Problems happen when two people assume two different things. The easiest solution is to state it clearly... | ||
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SarR
476 Posts
On November 09 2011 00:42 Salv wrote: You're basically saying you should fuck everyone and anything you can, just try not to get caught, but even if you do, 'lol'. Then you say that dating multiple people has an emotional cost on the other person, and that doing so is seflish, and you would prefer to have honor by giving a relationship your all. Fuck everyone, big lols =/= Honor in relationship Apologies. I should have clarified that those two views are mutually exclusive ideas. My first post is what I've come to know as the safest route for one's emotional well being when dealing with women. However, my seemingly contradictory post after is basically like saying "but if you want love, loyalty and all that true love stuff romantic stuff then.....". In other words, its like another route one can take that may work the way you want it to. So to condense everything: Hey bang as much chicks as you can...dont get caught....yada yada yada.....but if you really want something solid and true, the best way I believe is to get someone while they are still innocent otherwise you're almost guaranteed to get hurt. Yet another way of putting it: Be as emotionally distant and care very little with the majority of females who most likely are damaged goods but if you happen to get one who is not spoiled yet, then you may take the chance with your feelings(loyalty, love etc). Hope this clears it up. | ||
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FFGenerations
7088 Posts
On November 08 2011 16:45 SpoR wrote: It seems so silly to have to have to have this talk with potential girlfriends though. This is what gf/bf is to me, is this what it is to you? This is what dating is to me, is that what it is to you? But I guess you have to find a way to have this talk before getting serious. And that's where I went wrong. I just assumed we both agreed on what was going on and that words mean the same things to everyone. Just like Love means 1000000000 different things and people have no clear definition of it if you ask 100 strangers. on one hand you gotta be mature and laid back with particular values that allow you to do that and on the other you gotta listen to your emotions and take a stand it helps to remember that attraction works differently to her than it does to you, which means that even when you are finding her adoreably sexy, she herself might just be annoyed and bored! i think this is how a lot of breakups happen, leaving a lot of confused men behind | ||
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ImDrizzt
Norway427 Posts
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SpoR
United States1542 Posts
On November 09 2011 04:39 ImDrizzt wrote: hehe, I'm so going to steal the rhyme xD i made it up, credit is due | ||
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Asrathiel
Australia377 Posts
On November 08 2011 17:26 SarR wrote: Your girl wants commitment ? Try not to get caught. If you get caught then tough luck, for her that is. She can either choose to stay or leave. If she stays, please re-evaluate your game so as not to get caught. To make things easier you could just avoid the commitment thing altogether. Friends with benefits type of thing. Fuck that, if that's the kind of thing you want then be upfront about it. I'm sure there are plenty of women who'd want that too... if 'your girl' wants committment and you don't, fucking tell her that, don't be an asshat like this guy. | ||
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SarR
476 Posts
On November 09 2011 17:07 Asrathiel wrote: Fuck that, if that's the kind of thing you want then be upfront about it. I'm sure there are plenty of women who'd want that too... if 'your girl' wants committment and you don't, fucking tell her that, don't be an asshat like this guy. WTF are the throwing insults at me for ? You looking for a boyfriend ? If you cant be more civilized then STFU plz. | ||
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