EPTSocial Recluse Tries Girls - Finds Problems - Page 2
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Arthemesia
United States292 Posts
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Kal_rA
United States2925 Posts
On October 18 2011 03:58 Lucumo wrote: Hm...how about a threesome? I actually thought that was where the story was going when Lucy asked him to kiss Linda.. Haha. On topic: I dunno man.. Hard spot, but I'd say go with Lucy. It just won't be fair to Linda (unless its not a serious relationship... then just do whatever). Don't lead her on if your into someone else. | ||
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Harrad
1003 Posts
On October 17 2011 11:04 rift wrote: a "social recluse" with two girls who fell in your lap, I have a hard time feeling sympathetic  damn right lol. i'm like the op except that im like 10x more pathetic and i dont really play games anymore, minus the girls obviously and a childhood friends that would drag me anywhere. so all i can say dont squander your new found luck by being an immature, indecisive "d-bag" as you put it. sounds really cliche, but you dont know what you got till its gone. | ||
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Aldehyde
Sweden939 Posts
All the advice has been top notch of course. This is TL after all, can it be anything other than top notch? I had already pretty much decided to just be honest but I felt like I just needed to vent. Still, I hope I at least managed to not bore you for the duration it took you to read the whole thing. On October 17 2011 23:48 Hawk wrote: Pretty much, yeah. Besides, at that age, you should be thinking with your dick and not your head, just like every other 19 year old out there. Let your dong guide you op! He has laid dormant for far too long for your head to be messing this up. Hah, thanks for that. Made me laugh  | ||
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Ushio
Canada868 Posts
The moment you quit on Lucy is the moment you lose | ||
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iSometric
2221 Posts
Probably, if Lucy likes you idk why she wants you to like Linda when they are at the club with you instead of having a fun time with u.. | ||
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annul
United States2841 Posts
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
On October 18 2011 06:40 Aldehyde wrote: Wow, this got a lot more attention than I thought it would! All the advice has been top notch of course. This is TL after all, can it be anything other than top notch? I had already pretty much decided to just be honest but I felt like I just needed to vent. Still, I hope I at least managed to not bore you for the duration it took you to read the whole thing. Better update us on the situation afterwards then! | ||
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FFGenerations
7088 Posts
my first and final thought for now is: Who cares if you like Lucy? She obviously doesn't like you. When will guys learn that just because you fancy someone and hang out with them it doesn't oblige them to fancy you back She knows you like her but is laid back and wants you to have fun so she got you pussy with her friend. Go ahead and work out how to make Lucy like you (HINT: be masculine and cool - not the whiney confused needy boy you come across in the OP) But whatever you do dont fuck up with something stupid. This is all fun and games and if you cant take the heat then dont be a party pooper and spoil everything (the girls will hate you for it) gl, dont think about this shit its not worth it lol | ||
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Itsmedudeman
United States19229 Posts
On October 18 2011 02:12 Magrath wrote: You've got your answer right there. She most certainly wouldn't dump you on to her friend if she liked you. Lol why not? If she liked him why would she try to get him into a relationship with someone else? In any case you should eventually just talk to her before it becomes too late. Better to get disappointed than to regret it for the next few years. | ||
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Aldehyde
Sweden939 Posts
On October 18 2011 17:28 FFGenerations wrote: k id love to read more but i gotta go already !!! spent about 4 hours reading about DC Multiverse lolol my first and final thought for now is: Who cares if you like Lucy? She obviously doesn't like you. When will guys learn that just because you fancy someone and hang out with them it doesn't oblige them to fancy you back She knows you like her but is laid back and wants you to have fun so she got you pussy with her friend. Go ahead and work out how to make Lucy like you (HINT: be masculine and cool - not the whiney confused needy boy you come across in the OP) But whatever you do dont fuck up with something stupid. This is all fun and games and if you cant take the heat then dont be a party pooper and spoil everything (the girls will hate you for it) gl, dont think about this shit its not worth it lol Oh wow! Even if I may seem whiney in the post I really shouldn't complain about this problem that I have. It's pretty much the best kind of problem a guy can have. I sure am confused though but then again, this is my first experience with relationship thingy problems anyway so I'll get the hang of it soon, I hope. I am very much aware that Lucy doesn't necessarily like me just because she hangs out with me. That'd be stupid! Overall, I don't think too seriously about this. I am not looking for a serious relationship which I will have to tell both Linda and Lucy anyhow. Most importantly this was just me venting and seeing if anyone would read this whole rant. Seems like a fair few did and that's awesome. | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14080 Posts
Coming from a background in pickup, social engineering and coaching people with similar.. issues as you, here are my two cents: You're 18, have no past experience with girls whatsoever. Dont cling to one girl. Test out what's fun for you. Stop looking for the one true love until you have some experience under your belt. Try and see the whole thing a little bit more relaxed and learn to enjoy the moment. I'd like to point out that - since the girls were totally over you - you MUST be doing something right. No matter what it is, you're way ahead of the typical "I never had a gf virgin" (which isn't that uncommon btw) What I would suggest to you, if you want to have fun, no hurt feelings and a good time: Make sure to establish a proper frame towards both of the girls. "Frame" meaning your view on the whole relationship thing. Right now they decide when and if action starts and they would decide whether that'd be a one night stand or a relationship. IF YOU FUCK UP REPRESENTING A PROPER FRAME, THATS WHEN HURT FEELINGS WILL ARISE. What I recommend to you is conveying something along the lines of: "Yeah, sure I can see myself in a relationship if the right one comes along, but I definitly won't let some fun slip out of my hands." Judging from the way you described the girls, if you properly convey to Linda that you're available for something more "casual", she will go for it and there won't be any hurt feelings from her side any time soon. You get some experience & fun, so does she. All good. Also, YES SHE WILL GO FOR IT. How so? When she saw you hesitated she went to kiss you. A girl that's "totally in love" or "a totally unsexual being" will not do that. Period. Also I'd like to ruin the image that relationships start with admitting that you're in love. A relationship starts with sexual desire, not more, not less. No sex, no relationship. Women are sexual beings by nature. - It's your job as a man to lead and protect them along the way, making them feel secure enough to let it out. If you like to be a whussy that doesn't accept the fact that women enjoy sex to have an excuse for their own shyness, feel free to do so. Personally, since I experienced similar situations myself, I'd like to add that that exact scenario you're in right now is an insanly perfect setup for a threesome.. Since I'm totally jelly since it took me a few more years than you to get to such a point feel free to shout if you want to go down that route. In that scenario with those girls it'd be rather easy to set up. Feel free to shout more specfic questions here or via PM, you seem to be a pretty easy "case", so I'd be glad to help. Random sidenote: I was giggling when I read the part about you being confused that she just continued when you told her that you had no clue what to do. Admitting weaknesses is incredibly sexy. Since you somehow seem to generate attraction all around you I can tell you, these girls would gladly teach you a thing or two. (; Random edit: Erh, yeah. You kinda missed the (current) shot with Lucy. However, if you manage to get a casual thing going with Linda she will be available again. Why? Cause you "missing the shot" was her assuming that you're just TOO shy. If you manage to prove that point wrong you're back in the game. Random edit #2: STOP CALLING YOURSELF A SOCIAL RECLUSE, YOU OBVIOUSLY ARE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT, EVEN KNOW ONE KNOWS WHAT AT THIS POINT. THANK YOU VERY MUCH, YOURE INSULTING PEOPLE WITH REAL PROBLEMS IN THAT AREA. =P | ||
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Aldehyde
Sweden939 Posts
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