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th2pun1sh3r
United States107 Posts
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Acnologia
Australia410 Posts
On September 18 2011 15:16 tenacity wrote: Tell them you will have other guests in 2 days, so u need the room? Yeah that's what i was thinking | ||
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HornyHerring
Papua New Guinea1059 Posts
On a more serious note, you can't really get rid of them without insulting their parents, coz they'll sure as hell tell them you kicked them out. So I'd suggest just making their stay less and less comfy. Cut the playstation, give them dry bread and water to eat. All and all I guess if you'd just talk to them about it they'd understand. Saying 'dude, you've come here for a work experience and all you do is sit on your ass all day long. dude get real or gg no re'. But sinde they let you stay at their place for a month, you cant kick them out, you might just wanna make em move a little. | ||
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Sablar
Sweden880 Posts
Not that truth that they are bm, annoying and unwelcome. But instead all those things in nicer words, from the perspective of what you need instead of what is wrong with them. Probably needs to be made clear and not some vague "it would be nice if.." "maybe next..". Hinting obviously isn't working. | ||
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Aphasie
Norway474 Posts
Edit: Leave the blog conspicuously open and hope they read it! | ||
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domane
Canada1606 Posts
On September 19 2011 00:15 Aphasie wrote: His parents would feel thankful or upset about his treatment by association.You don't owe him shit, you owe his parents for what they have done for you. You are talking about different human beings, but its only association telling you otherwise. fuzzy_panda: I recommend that you tell his parents everything. Check for anything suspicious about his trip. They arrived on Monday. We took them to dinner, gave them the only spare room of the house (which is actually my mum's office where she runs her business). My dad took 3 days off work to show them around Auckland and buy a car, my mum took the effort to arrange jobs for them…etc. So we buy all the food, drinks and shit they need for them. Then because they didn't bring more money, of course they couldn't afford a car with 30 dollars. So we had to wait 3 days for a bank transfer. This caused them to overstay until Saturday. Now they've got their car and can drive around, but STILL won't fucking leave, even though we keep hinting at what their plan is, when they want to work etc. They say they will stay until next Wednesday. That's 10 fucking days, 3x longer than what he asked me for. They're the worst guests I've ever had. Every day they just sit in my house and play Playstation. They say they want to explore Auckland, but today is the first day they've fucking gone out. The past 4 days they just stayed home. Then when my mum or I cook food they don't even say thank you, they eat it and just leave all the washing and cleaning to us. Today I came home and found EIGHT fucking unwashed glass cups in the sink and 3 dirty plates and forks/knives. It's getting extremely frustrating and I'm just so fucking pissed off today. How do you make them leave without basically resulting to kicking them out and being a dick? His parents were very nice to me and I stayed with them for a month. I think they probably aren't doing this maliciously, but just because it's their first time ever out of their own mommies houses and don't know how things work in the real world. Like they just had no plans at all. They thought it'll be quick to do international bank transfer, easy to find a car and work...etc. We've ended up having to plan things for them. The thing is I'm totally keen to just lay it out in front of them, but both my parents disagree with me vehemently. They say that his parents did a lot for me and they are forever grateful to them, so even though we are looking after them for longer than expected we should still treat them well. Your parents don't want to kick them out or rebuke their behaviour. At least convince your parents to set obligations - dish-washing, laundry, cleaning, chores - that the guests have to perform for the rest of their stay. Also confirm their departure date (Wednesday). On September 18 2011 14:58 s.Q.uelched wrote: (1) Call his parents, tell them about his(/their) behavior and discuss it with them. (2) Have your parents set them some house-rules and if they don't follow these simple rules, kick them out immediately. | ||
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LaSt)ChAnCe
United States2179 Posts
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Kolgrim
Lithuania31 Posts
You are lucky you just need to confront them and kick them out, I have to live with one who just whines to my parents how he is deppressed and shit, so I can't kick him out. Don't let these people stay, get rid of them A.S.A.P. And don't feel sorry for them, they are not thankful for your hospitality. | ||
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3FFA
United States3931 Posts
On September 19 2011 04:34 Kolgrim wrote: I know these kind of people, they are leeches. My brother is like that (23 years old). they don't clean after them selves, don't do any chores, don't work or pay for anything. And they think it's their fucking right. I don't even get a "thank you" for paying his god damn debts. You are lucky you just need to confront them and kick them out, I have to live with one who just whines to my parents how he is deppressed and shit, so I can't kick him out. Don't let these people stay, get rid of them A.S.A.P. And don't feel sorry for them, they are not thankful for your hospitality. Link your parents to this blog and tell them how you feel. @OP: On September 18 2011 14:58 s.Q.uelched Wrote:Call his parents, tell them about his(/their) behavior and discuss it with them. It were his parents that provided you a place, Also talk to your parents, then let them talk to the boys. It's your parents' place after all. ask that your parents set them some house-rules and if they don't follow these simple rules, kick them out immediately. They should be old enough to get the idea. This is exactly what I would do. Underlined in the quote is wording I changed, bold what was underlined in the original post. Don't give up on convincing your parents. Topic for discussion: Should he just call his parents even if his own parent's don't agree? | ||
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Fatal Fury
16 Posts
http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewpost.php?post_id=11160720 | ||
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fuzzy_panda
New Zealand1681 Posts
The problem with Asians is that they're always afraid to offend anyone and as a result they end up getting walked all over by the Aryans - whether it be in jobs where instead of being promoted to managerial roles they're stuck kissing white managerial ass in accounting and convince themselves it's because they're being good at what they do since they were good at maths at school or in relationships where the nerd gets cuckolded by the girl who's only with him for the gifts, or supermarket lanes when another customer pushes in front of them and they're too polite to put their foot down. Don't let your parents keep you down. Grow some balls... The balls your father never passed on to you because he's a pushover: wtf dude? this has nothing to do with me being Asian. if it were my house i would've kicked them out ages ago. my parents are doing this because they are grateful that his parents looked after me for a month when i went to germany. they feel like they should be able to talk to these guys like they are adults, and so they simply imply and hint at things. most mature adults understand hints quite easily | ||
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Pika Chu
Romania2510 Posts
You're making a big fuss out of something you should have a better understanding of. From what you wrote, it looks like that guy is nothing but a spoiled brat, a not so well socially integrated guy. He lacks understanding of even basic social issues. I think his friends may be just like him. They aren't doing it on purpose, or being bad or trying to walk over you, they just don't get it... what it seems normal for some, it's not for others who are socially non-adapted. I mean, Jesus they came with 30$?! Imagine them as kids who just now meet the real life. You should have more patience, you did stay at his place for a month, even if you are of course acting a lot better and have basic understanding of social relations and needs for living with someone. I understand your frustration but honestly it's not that well founded. You are more mature, maybe you can help them in a non-offensive way to explain some things about "life" and how to act. They will eventually going to shape-up and understand some basic behavior notions. | ||
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qrs
United States3637 Posts
On September 18 2011 14:17 fuzzy_panda wrote: Are all Germans like this? On September 19 2011 17:55 fuzzy_panda wrote: wtf dude? this has nothing to do with me being Asian. | ||
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deathly rat
United Kingdom911 Posts
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fuzzy_panda
New Zealand1681 Posts
thank you for pointing out my hypocrisy. I retract anything derogatory i said about Germans in my first post (and seeing how i was there for a year i know for a fact most of them aren't like this). I was just going off on a rant and i guess i went a bit overboard | ||
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qrs
United States3637 Posts
On September 19 2011 20:54 fuzzy_panda wrote: I'm impressed that you're not being defensive about it. Props.thank you for pointing out my hypocrisy. I retract anything derogatory i said about Germans in my first post (and seeing how i was there for a year i know for a fact most of them aren't like this). I was just going off on a rant and i guess i went a bit overboard | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
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Dhalphir
Australia1305 Posts
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PassiveAce
United States18076 Posts
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fuzzy_panda
New Zealand1681 Posts
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