EPTAfter about 6 months the new school year started and we started hanging out a bit, became close again and we eventually started talking after she approached me and hooked up. However, this wasn't fated to be as we had some issues to deal with while we were on winter break, namely this girl that liked me was also one of her close friends and brought up some big issues causing a whole bunch of drama and during this time period we decided to just be friends.
For the next few months we continued with our normal lives, but eventually we became close again. At this point, she once again declared her attraction for me (term is attraction not, i like/love you) and we at this point became friends with benefits. Overall I was okay with this relationship as we began with the oh of course there are no strings attached and we were closer to soul mates/bestfriend than dating. (She actually declared us to be soulmates in that we feel that we are that close to each other, we trust each other, etc.)
The current phase of our relationship is that she came back from spring break with a boyfriend and I wasn't sure where that left me in our relationship. They have a long distance relationship and respecting him and her I decided that yup we would just be friends again I'm okay with that. Somehow, we are continuing our relationship and eventually she stated that she wasn't sure what to do. She wasn't sure how she felt about her "boyfriend" and she also wasn't sure how she felt about me. She knew that she was attracted to me, would always want to hang out with me, and would also continuously get jealous if I was hanging out with other girls.
Eventually, the problem came down to this, I feel like my relationship with her is that we are close friends (perhaps best friends almost soulmates). I am attracted to her yes, perhaps I do like her. But when I think of dating her, I do not necessarily feel like I need to, but when I think of her dating someone else or being with someone else I don't want that either.
I was hoping that you guys at team liquid could help me out in this predicament. Should I continue to sit back hope that our relationship continues and just let her decide what she wants? Or should I be more upfront with what I think and be more active and actually pursue her. Any other advice and help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for the help TL!
