EPTWhen do you think the starting age for dating is? A lot of popular kids at my school started dating in 6th grade. And so far, the people in the Asian group have not started dating yet. Do you have any advice/tips for me?
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Lightningbullet
United States507 Posts
When do you think the starting age for dating is? A lot of popular kids at my school started dating in 6th grade. And so far, the people in the Asian group have not started dating yet. Do you have any advice/tips for me? | ||
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Raeleigh
Canada902 Posts
It's not your friends decision when you start dating, but yours. (: If you find a girl you like, and she likes you, and you feel comfortable and ready to date her, ask her. I didn't start dating till I was about 15 though, just because I was comfortable or really ready for it, haha. .__. | ||
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yourwhiteshadow
United States442 Posts
just want to get laid or take care of BBS (blue balls syndrome)? well, then have fun, take girls out and make sure they're having fun, and then have even more fun. don't try too hard... when the house is empty and parents are gone, do your thing. looking for a serious relationship? well, you're in 7th grade, don't look for a serious relationship. lol | ||
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Stenstyren
Sweden619 Posts
If you see a girl you like, talk to her. In 7th grade everything will be very light and you will be "playing" dating more than actually doing so. When you get a bit older, stop with the dating stuff and try to score chicks at parties etc. A relationship isn't bad per see but make sure it's serious beforehand. Don't worry about it too much, you don't just begin dating out of nowhere. Just go with the flow, it's not like you can take out an ad in the local newspaper. | ||
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Hynda
Sweden2226 Posts
There is no stress what so ever some people don't start dating untill they are well into their 20's and are fine with that, while some start at 13 and stick with it for the rest of their lives. Start dating when you find someone you actually want to date, and actually wants to date you, regardless of age. | ||
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Lightningbullet
United States507 Posts
On February 04 2011 08:55 yourwhiteshadow wrote: you need to figure out why you want to start dating... just want to get laid or take care of BBS (blue balls syndrome)? well, then have fun, take girls out and make sure they're having fun, and then have even more fun. don't try too hard... when the house is empty and parents are gone, do your thing. looking for a serious relationship? well, you're in 7th grade, don't look for a serious relationship. lol also because I always fail to BBS rush | ||
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sc4k
United Kingdom5454 Posts
 . You get: fun & learning experience...as long as you don't get too neurotic and always take a step back and remember everyone is young and no-one expects to spend the rest of their life with you...Also, even if you do get a little fucked up, it's all part of the learning experience so it's a good thing to do it when you are young. I just repeat, don't get neurotic  | ||
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Kyuukyuu
Canada6263 Posts
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yourwhiteshadow
United States442 Posts
On February 04 2011 08:57 Lightningbullet wrote: also because I always fail to BBS rush well, lol you need to learn how to read girls. if you wanna BBS rush, find a party with a bunch of alcohol, the girls there will...well, i dno that's borderline unethical/illegal. start talking to girls and just have fun. take it slow if you haven't experimented. chances are the girl you're with will want to experiment too since they gossip like crazy and her friends probably talk about what they've done. also, don't let the search for a perfect BBS rush build order screw over your grades and stuff. try to have a balance. after school activities are a good way to interact with other people, especially girls. | ||
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Karliath
United States2214 Posts
There's no point doing it before, as you won't be emotionally prepared and it will probably just end up weird and uncomfortable, ruining your perspective on dating (not that drastic). However, don't wait "until you are ready," because that day may never come, and you don't want to realize that until it's too late. | ||
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hacklebeast
United States5090 Posts
that's just me though, and I am considered by no one to be an authority on dating. | ||
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Turgid
United States1623 Posts
I'm one of the nerdiest dudes you'll ever meet and I have a hot girlfriend whom I love very much. How? Patience and being a generally nice guy. | ||
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Backpack
United States1776 Posts
On February 04 2011 08:44 Lightningbullet wrote: AS you know, a lot of gaming and Starcraft nerds are Asian. But this may be a disadvantage in America. For example, girls really don't find Asians that attractive. Just to give some info, I am in 7th grade and I a semi-nerd. I like math , chess, and gaming. And while some of my friends, aren't into girls, I totally am. (but with homework, math and games, I don't have too much time) When do you think the starting age for dating is? A lot of popular kids at my school started dating in 6th grade. And so far, the people in the Asian group have not started dating yet. Do you have any advice/tips for me? All of your concerns about being Asian or semi-nerdy will go away once you get older. In middle-school, girls all have this pre-conceived idea of what the "ideal" man is. The handsome/popular/tall/athletic/rich whatever guy that you always see on TV and in disney movies. It's still pretty bad in high-school, but there will be a lot more girls who understand what they actually want in a guy. You'd be surprised at how many dorky girls there actually are ^^ Basically, just wait it out. If you start dating in middle-school just because you think you should be dating, you're going to be unhappy a lot because you (most likely) won't be bonding well with girls who don't understand how relationships actually work. | ||
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Wr3k
Canada2533 Posts
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EmmaStone
United States8 Posts
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lastmotion
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LazyMacro
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Jonoman92
United States9102 Posts
On February 04 2011 08:44 Lightningbullet wrote: Do you have any advice/tips for me? Find a girl you like, pull her hair, run away. | ||
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Haemonculus
United States6980 Posts
Don't let fear of some imagined discrimination get you down! I think I was in.... 7th grade when I went on my first date. Obviously it's all really silly/goofy at your age, as neither of you can drive, and getting dropped off by mom or dad at the movie theater is kinda funny in retrospect at my age now, lolol. | ||
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EPO
Canada341 Posts
also fyi being into math, chess and gaming makes you more than just a "semi-nerd"... imho. | ||
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tonight
United States11130 Posts
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Megaliskuu
United States5123 Posts
On February 04 2011 09:59 tonight wrote: Dating isn't really the right word to use for a 7th grader. It's more like... private play time. Well, actually, that doesn't really sound much better either. Talking alot and holding hands basically | ||
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Never.Die
Japan189 Posts
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lixlix
United States482 Posts
You think Genghis Khan worried about this shit? No he was too busy killing dudes at 10 years old and taking over his tribe as a teenager. "White girls don't like Asians? I'll take over Europe " | ||
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Jlab
United States217 Posts
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Grobyc
Canada18410 Posts
I completely disregarded that until gr.12 or so when I began "open" to dating, mostly because I felt I was too busy with other things to find time to do it. I feel I've learned from relationships of my close friends though, so personally I didn't really feel behind in the learning process. edit: ignore the whole asian thing. that should have no effect on your decisions. | ||
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Chairman Ray
United States11903 Posts
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The_LiNk
Canada863 Posts
On February 04 2011 10:30 Chairman Ray wrote: Asian? No dating until you finish University! For practical reasons too might I add. | ||
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SpoR
United States1542 Posts
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iamho
United States3345 Posts
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Roe
Canada6002 Posts
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Lightningbullet
United States507 Posts
On February 04 2011 10:42 SpoR wrote: Any asians I've known who have dated outside their race have been with semi unattractive short blonde girls. They try with all kinds of girls but usually just end up having a lot of girl friends who friend zoned them for life. DArn...well I guess she is a bit more brunette than blonde... | ||
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Lightningbullet
United States507 Posts
On February 04 2011 10:45 Roe wrote: it won't be "dating" in the adult sense until you're, well, an adult. but Maybe suggest doing homework together after school at her place, grabbing pizza for lunch, play some chess with her etc. NO good at playing chess with my school s people. I pwn every single one of 'em who wants to play in about 15/20 moves. Thats the equivalent of making a few banelings and taking down their wall. make more units, and kill their workers. And then just snooze to victory. In fact those kids don't even have a chess rating. | ||
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blahman3344
United States2015 Posts
High school is where majority of kids start dating. I would probly suggest waiting until then. edit: well if you're more worried about academics over dating, wait until college, imo. | ||
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whojohnisgalt
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Elegance
Canada917 Posts
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AyeH
United States534 Posts
On February 04 2011 08:44 Lightningbullet wrote: AS you know, a lot of gaming and Starcraft nerds are Asian. But this may be a disadvantage in America. For example, girls really don't find Asians that attractive. Just to give some info, I am in 7th grade and I a semi-nerd. I like math , chess, and gaming. And while some of my friends, aren't into girls, I totally am. (but with homework, math and games, I don't have too much time) When do you think the starting age for dating is? A lot of popular kids at my school started dating in 6th grade. And so far, the people in the Asian group have not started dating yet. Do you have any advice/tips for me? WTF? White girls don't care if you are Asian most of the time. I've dated ALL white girls and all of them were attractive/fit individuals. It doesn't matter what your race is, it matters more who you are as a person. Don't blame it on your race. Only stuck up whores and sluts who think Asian men don't have big penises don't like Asian men. | ||
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
Just wait until high school, it's not like you are missing out on anything... | ||
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
On February 04 2011 10:01 Never.Die wrote: Need to grow confidence and approach those girls bro. And WORK OUT! It totally helps. For one, it boosts your confidence and it makes you grow a body that women will get turned on by. Good luck and don't ever be shy and never apologize to other people for what you want. I agree with this. Check out the TL fitness thread, totally do SS bro. Start early, lift heavy, use those hormones. Or just play sc... | ||
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Rinrun
Canada3509 Posts
I got a confession in the 6th grade and "went out" with her. In other words we said we liked each other and talked on MSN a crap-ton; the regular elementary stuff. It really isn't a relationship. Don't worry, your time will come, why rush a great thing that you will enjoy (and hate- see: many girl blogs on TL) for the rest of your life. Plus enjoy what you got right now- cause you will never go back to your carefree days. Oh how I miss those... but I digress.  | ||
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Linx_101
Canada166 Posts
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nayumi
Australia6499 Posts
1. Find a girl you like. 2. Walk up to her and slap the shit out of her consciousness and go "THAT'S FOR RATTING ME OUT U LITTLE BITCH!!!!!111 U JUST DON'T MESS WITH [insert ur name]" 3. Apologize and say you thought she was someone else who ratted you out to the teacher 4. Tell her that you told your other friends about this too and they are waiting for her on her way home so it'd be safer if you walk her home for today. While walking the lady home you can try to work your magic and talk her into sex, or ice-cream but i guess it's up to you. | ||
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MapleFractal
Canada307 Posts
So whens the time to start dating? Whenever, those awkward moments are going to happen, Its just part of being new to dating and the opposite sex. Just gotta nut up ask a girl you like out and the absolute worst thing she can do is say no. As far as being Asian goes, I have a friend that only dates Asian guys. The fact you seem uncomfortable with it will cause you more problems them the opposite sex. It just stems back to being confident. Be confident, and genuine, acting cooler or differently then you are will never work. There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance, god knows I've crossed that line before, just remember that. Arrogance generally never gets the girl. | ||
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Lightningbullet
United States507 Posts
On February 04 2011 12:20 Linx_101 wrote: Is no one else doubting that this guy's in gr. 7? How old do you think I am? | ||
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Lightningbullet
United States507 Posts
On February 04 2011 12:29 MapleFractal wrote: There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance, god knows I've crossed that line before, just remember that. Arrogance generally never gets the girl. I've bypassed the line a million times. It seems really thin to me. I somehow do it unconciously and notice to late. I think the main reasons girls don't really like me is because I kind of arrogant, so I might be viewed as a show-off. And because I can be VERY loud. :/ | ||
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lixlix
United States482 Posts
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hacklebeast
United States5090 Posts
On February 04 2011 12:22 nayumi wrote: Here's how you do it 1. Find a girl you like. 2. Walk up to her and slap the shit out of her consciousness and go "THAT'S FOR RATTING ME OUT U LITTLE BITCH!!!!!111 U JUST DON'T MESS WITH [insert ur name]" 3. Apologize and say you thought she was someone else who ratted you out to the teacher 4. Tell her that you told your other friends about this too and they are waiting for her on her way home so it'd be safer if you walk her home for today. While walking the lady home you can try to work your magic and talk her into sex, or ice-cream but i guess it's up to you. Hell, if the rest of that works, go for sex AND ice cream. | ||
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Loser777
1931 Posts
Man this thread makes me feel like a loser. Oh, wait | ||
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Lightningbullet
United States507 Posts
On February 04 2011 12:49 hacklebeast wrote: Hell, if the rest of that works, go for sex AND ice cream. I did mention that I was a 7th grader, right.... | ||
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lixlix
United States482 Posts
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mizU
United States12125 Posts
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mizU
United States12125 Posts
On February 04 2011 13:07 Lightningbullet wrote: I did mention that I was a 7th grader, right.... On February 04 2011 13:10 lixlix wrote: what, 7th graders don't like ice cream? LOLS | ||
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funnybananaman
United States830 Posts
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On February 04 2011 08:44 Lightningbullet wrote: AS you know, a lot of gaming and Starcraft nerds are Asian. But this may be a disadvantage in America. For example, girls really don't find Asians that attractive. Just to give some info, I am in 7th grade and I a semi-nerd. I like math , chess, and gaming. And while some of my friends, aren't into girls, I totally am. (but with homework, math and games, I don't have too much time) When do you think the starting age for dating is? A lot of popular kids at my school started dating in 6th grade. And so far, the people in the Asian group have not started dating yet. Do you have any advice/tips for me? When I was in 7th grade (age 13) I was 6 months into my first crush. She liked me too, but I didn't really know what to do about it. Thinking I knew things about girls I slow-played myself right into watching her date another classmate the next year. But was it really dating? In high school I saw people date. They would go out, do something, cuddle, and make out. People who dated had these exclusive privileges. Thinking I knew things about girls I tried to date my best friend for most of high school and it just never happened. In college I saw people date. There was less going out and more staying in. Not having to worry about parents they didn't have to go very far for privacy. They would also get to know the person on a very deep level, have sex, and maybe get engaged. Thinking I knew things about girls, I dated a few and had some nice relationships. They didn't last, but I learned something about myself and what I really want. So, when is a good starting age for dating? It's different for everyone, but I wholeheartedly believe that you're ready to date when you're ready to learn and grow from the experience. You're ready to date when you can selflessly give yourself to someone in return for their heart. You're ready to date when you realize that the most important thing isn't finding the girl you want to bone 24/7, but a great partner who you love and who will push you to be your best (perhaps without even trying!). Essentially, you're ready to date when you're grown-up. It's hard to give an exact time. Even my relationships with girls in their early 20's ended because they were too immature to handle them. Still, it's all part of the experience and I have learned a great deal from them. On the other hand, dating is what you make of it. Your definition will evolve over time as your experiences shape you. In that case, start "dating" when you're ready to find out. Oh, and drop the whole "girls don't find Asians attractive" crap. Embrace your asian-ness (and semi-nerdiness); confidence is the first step and you won't gain any by immediately writing yourself off. Besides, I doubt any 13 year old girl knows anything about attractive qualities, rather, what they think is hot based on pop culture and hormones. | ||
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Lightningbullet
United States507 Posts
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leejas
United States440 Posts
But in all real honesty wait and don't sell yourself short. Find a girl who sees you for whom you are. | ||
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HeadhunteR
Argentina1258 Posts
be calm as fuck that is the key man don't let her know you have any kind of feelings for her. remember women are bitches you will soon find out that. You aren't the problem the girls you are talking to are. You have to look for girls that are easy and that don't give you so much trouble. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32033 Posts
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Earll
Norway847 Posts
I'll leave you with 1 word of advice though and if you truly take this to heart your life with girls\dating in the future will probably be alotttttt smoother. But this may be a disadvantage in America. For example, girls really don't find Asians that attractive. This is not at allllll true under any circumstances whatsoever ever in this dimension or any paralelle dimesions. You as an Asian homeboy have the excact same capabilities and opportunities to get the superfly honies as any whitey(or african\latino\indian or whatever other race\nationality you would like to pull into the mix) . As people have already said, Confidence = good, (Arrogance = not so good) although I personaly dont think there is that thin of a line between the 2. Confidence is more just about trusting yourself and believeing that you are enough no matter what the scenario is. it is not about comparing yourself to others. Whereas Arrogance is more about believing you are better than others. Dont take yourself (too) seriously and you being confident will rarely come off as arrogant imo n_n Although I guess it is easier said than done to tell a boy just about to enter his teens to be confident but hey, it is what it is. | ||
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palanq
United States761 Posts
also please ignore any stereotypes you may feel about unattractive nerdy asian kids. you won't convince any girls that the stereotypes are bad if you believe them yourself. | ||
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palanq
United States761 Posts
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