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Zoler
Profile Blog Joined June 2008
Sweden6339 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-07-11 11:37:49
July 11 2010 11:37 GMT
#1
ok so I was at this party last night, met a cool girl really smart attractive etc and she seemed into me. If anyone asked "wanna go out and chill" she would always wait for me if I said yes or no etc and stay with me, we talked a lot laughed and so on you get the deal. She was not drinking tho (!), so I was drunk, not that much but still a bit, while she obviously wasn't at all.

Later that night like 3am I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk, she said yes and we walked for like 1 hour lol just talking and stuff things was going pretty well! When we had walked for a while we we're gonna head back so I told her "I think you're cute", and she responded with "Thanks, you're cute too". I said something like: "Thanks, so.. do you have a boyfriend or anything?" and she: "No, not right now". I'm like yay, "cool.. good to hear hehe" (I was drunk XD). Then shes like "and I'm probably gonna stay single for a while now, we just broke up" and I'm like... crap. Then we walked back talking pretty much nothing special really.

Rest of the night went like before just chilling, having fun etc, we slept together on a couch for a little tho. xD pretty uncomfortable.. I got her number. I texted her before asking for her msn and got it, and she said something along the lines of "thanks for the nice walk and everything :3". Now I need you to guide me TL, what should be my next step?

I'm sorry if this makes no sense, I didn't sleep yet cuz got home so "late" (the day after the party), and didn't wanna sleep away the whole day so staying up til evening xD

****
Lim Yo Hwan forever!
Starparty
Profile Blog Joined December 2004
Sweden1963 Posts
July 11 2010 11:46 GMT
#2
ask her out for a coffee or similar and be yourself. should work :p
The artist formerly known as Starparty
SirJolt
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
the Dagon Knight4002 Posts
July 11 2010 11:49 GMT
#3
I agree with Starparty. She might be reluctant, but it sounds like she's into you
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nerium
Profile Blog Joined November 2007
Philippines512 Posts
July 11 2010 11:51 GMT
#4
Don't take things on a rush. Just ask her out once in a while for coffee, to eat, maybe another walk. Get to know her a bit more.
Lulz is a corrupted version of LOL
Ahseyo
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
Sweden80 Posts
July 11 2010 11:52 GMT
#5
Play your cards right and eventually you'll get her, or get butthurt yourself. But you can get up, can you?
"Luck isn't some kind of mystical energy that floats around in the universe, randomly discards people with satisfaction and joy. You create your own luck" Jay-Z
lew
Profile Joined April 2009
Belgium205 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-07-11 11:56:42
July 11 2010 11:54 GMT
#6
Don't push her, ask her out, do funny things together and get to know her. Don't focus on a relationship (just don't think about it), just relax, be yourself (!) and have fun. Avoid online conversations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReachTheSky
Profile Joined April 2010
United States3294 Posts
July 11 2010 11:54 GMT
#7
She just broke up with her boyfriend. If she is a good girl she may not want to get involved with you or anyone in this case soley because she may still have feelings for him and it wouldn't be fair to whomever she did get involved with. Sounds like she has respect for others. I'm gonna give her credibility as a good girl

If i were you i would just work on being friends right now and not push the issue at all. If you do it could push her away. After all you do want her to choose you because she likes you right?

P.s Don't let yourself become a rebound ;P

Good luck.
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Orome
Profile Blog Joined June 2004
Switzerland11984 Posts
July 11 2010 11:55 GMT
#8
no more 'I think you're cute' please, that was an awkward line. :p

sounds a lot like you should have just made out, but you missed your chance and now things are slightly awkward. ask her out for a drink, worst things that can happen is she says no.
On a purely personal note, I'd like to show Yellow the beauty of infinitely repeating Starcraft 2 bunkers. -Boxer
Yggdrasil Leaf
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
221 Posts
July 11 2010 11:58 GMT
#9
On July 11 2010 20:37 Zoler wrote:
When we had walked for a while we we're gonna head back so I told her "I think you're cute", and she responded with "Thanks, you're cute too". I said something like: "Thanks, so.. do you have a boyfriend or anything?"


Why didn't you just kiss her? T___T

What kind of question is that after that moment?

Be natural, and don't worry: because you'll create tension.
It's not science, people. You get along or you don't.
Don't complicate.
"A person hears only what they understand" - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Zoler
Profile Blog Joined June 2008
Sweden6339 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-07-11 12:01:41
July 11 2010 12:00 GMT
#10
On July 11 2010 20:55 Orome wrote:
no more 'I think you're cute' please, that was an awkward line. :p

sounds a lot like you should have just made out, but you missed your chance and now things are slightly awkward. ask her out for a drink, worst things that can happen is she says no.


yeah I realized that myself afterwards T_T stupid stupid, oh well
Lim Yo Hwan forever!
r3dox
Profile Blog Joined May 2003
Germany261 Posts
July 11 2010 12:01 GMT
#11
i agree with the poster above me, smart sober girl goes on a walk at 3 am and thinks your cute, how many more hints do you need?

she just said she wants to be single in order to avoid coming across like a slut.

value her non verbal signals way more than what she says and you'll do fine.
Zoler
Profile Blog Joined June 2008
Sweden6339 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-07-11 12:03:14
July 11 2010 12:02 GMT
#12
ok so we established I epic failed, what to do now? >_< wait? contact her? ask her out, how soon?
Lim Yo Hwan forever!
[DUF]MethodMan
Profile Blog Joined September 2006
Germany1716 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-07-11 12:06:04
July 11 2010 12:03 GMT
#13
On July 11 2010 20:58 Yggdrasil Leaf wrote:
Show nested quote +
On July 11 2010 20:37 Zoler wrote:
When we had walked for a while we we're gonna head back so I told her "I think you're cute", and she responded with "Thanks, you're cute too". I said something like: "Thanks, so.. do you have a boyfriend or anything?"


Why didn't you just kiss her? T___T

What kind of question is that after that moment?

Be natural, and don't worry: because you'll create tension.
It's not science, people. You get along or you don't.
Don't complicate.


First of all, I never thought I would respond to a girl blog by you lol.
That being said, this guy is right. She gives you a lot of hints and wants you to make a move. Just make one, don't be afraid. If she dodges, bad luck but there are like 3bil+ chicks on this planet.

Edit:
On July 11 2010 21:02 Zoler wrote:
ok so we established I epic failed, what to do now? >_< wait? contact her? ask her out, how soon?


Just ask her out, no matter when. It's the way you do it and not when. Just don't rush things and put too much pressure on her. Make her feel safe, then strike all out of a sudden, works for most girls.
Yggdrasil Leaf
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
221 Posts
July 11 2010 12:04 GMT
#14
On July 11 2010 21:02 Zoler wrote:
ok so we established I epic failed, what to do now? >_<


Call her, go out and be yourself?
Don't be afraid, ffs. If it doesn't work, it doesn't.
Now go find out.
"A person hears only what they understand" - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Zoler
Profile Blog Joined June 2008
Sweden6339 Posts
July 11 2010 12:09 GMT
#15
also, next problem: I'm going to Stockholm which is on the other side of Sweden on tuesday for 1 week >_< I'm thinking calling her or something tomorrow and decide to meet when I get back?

Next time I won't fail you guys :D
Lim Yo Hwan forever!
Fedaykin
Profile Joined February 2003
Netherlands2003 Posts
July 11 2010 12:13 GMT
#16
On July 11 2010 20:54 lew wrote:
Don't push her, ask her out, do funny things together and get to know her. Don't focus on a relationship (just don't think about it), just relax, be yourself (!) and have fun. Avoid online conversations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I need to quote this. This come of as some advice from an old fart, but I am never gonna give a girl my msn again, ever. Call her, go out, be actually together (I know calling is actually being together, but it's a lot better than typing on a fucking keyboard)

Also, you went on a walk, was there any physical interaction (meaning: touch) or just a walk, with reasonable space between you two. I mean, you could probably try to hold hands, if done subtlety she won't mind
icystorage
Profile Blog Joined November 2008
Jollibee19343 Posts
July 11 2010 12:22 GMT
#17
make TL proud zoler (post pics)
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Shauni
Profile Blog Joined July 2004
4077 Posts
July 11 2010 12:23 GMT
#18
I don't understand how you were 'mindgamed' by this girl but okay... good luck in wooing her.

On July 11 2010 21:01 r3dox wrote:
she just said she wants to be single in order to avoid coming across like a slut.
value her non verbal signals way more than what she says and you'll do fine.


girls = sluts, a no is a yes in disguise am I right?
I'm taking whatever coverage I can get, because frankly, I'm busy working on this million dollar deal at my job. Early retirement is a good thing brotha man. - MessengerASL
moon`
Profile Blog Joined July 2009
United States372 Posts
July 11 2010 12:33 GMT
#19
On July 11 2010 21:22 icystorage wrote:
make TL proud zoler (post pics)


This.

Haha, on a serious note good luck man. Like the above posts said, you should ask her out but in a casual fashion and nothing too fancy at first (coffee). Sounds like she's really into you. Then again, I have no girl experience whatsoever Good luck!
Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like pandabearguy.
Niten
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
United States598 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-07-11 12:34:41
July 11 2010 12:34 GMT
#20
sounds like from your description that there might be something there but that she's not quite ready for anything. She sounds like a good girl.

Now you just gotta stay cool and be awesome long enough to ride out her break-up sickness if you want a relationship. You're looking at about a month or more. If you're more going for sex, I'd say give her a smaller recovery time (two weeks or so) and then try making another move. Be cool confident and not pushy; she'll find a way to let you know one way or another how she feels. If you push for one and she responds no, though, that's it; you gambled and lost and now you're in friend-territory.

I wholly second everyone above who's saying to avoid online chatting.

Edit:
Oh yea, and best of luck
Korra: "Ok, I know that I'm not good at emotions, but that's what Tenzin's gonna teach me, right? He's gonna teach me to be happy and gentle and spiritual, and the rest of that bullsh**t."
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