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Telling her you're worried your not good enough for them was just a horrible, horrible move. You're attempting to gain some kind of pity, attempting to make he generate some artificial feedback/sympathy from her. It's clear you really just want want her to say, "Oh, of course you're good enough for me." You're trying to coach her into making the move! There's no balls there. Underhanded tactics.
Seems like she's giving you every opportunity to just take the plunge, but you're fumbling everytime you get the ball. You can't really be that scared of rejection or failure. If you are, then leave this poor girl alone and stop messing with her emotions with your hypocritical routine of, "I think the world of you, but alas, I am not worthy of one such as thee, so our love must never be... T.T" You're basically saying: if we dated, I'm sure it would fail because of me. Dude...
Instead of spilling your guts and trying to act all deep and then so cowardly, you should have gone for the old fashioned: "Wanna see a movie?" You shoulda started small and cool, instead you went for the big blunder.
On January 07 2010 12:20 il0seonpurpose wrote:
Ah, but she said she has to think about it, which I don't really like hearing.
You're pretty much fucked. The only reason she'd date you now is out of pity for being so hopelessly infatuated with her while having absolutely no faith ion yourself to maintain a relationship. It will end badly.
But it's okay to fuck up like this. Just keep this in perspective when you fall for the next girl. There's always a next girl.
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That makes a lot of sense, thanks. I don't even have a car or anything, it would be so difficult for us to go out and stuff.  That's a big reason too, I mean we're still in high school still but she has a car and everything and I don't... she got money and I don't. What can I do?
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Well you're fucked now, you shouldn't have even thought that she wouldn't date you because you couldn't shower her in gifts. If she likes you she's not gonna be like "eh he doesnt have a car, no thx" Should've just gone for it. Next time you want a girl don't spill your heart, be 012932-088823x10 more confident, and ASK HER OUT
edit: your name fits this occasion admirably.
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On January 07 2010 15:09 il0seonpurpose wrote:That makes a lot of sense, thanks. I don't even have a car or anything, it would be so difficult for us to go out and stuff. That's a big reason too, I mean we're still in high school still but she has a car and everything and I don't... she got money and I don't. What can I do?
Get a job, get a car/license. Part 1 might be kinda hard, but trying to find little ways to make money can't hurt.
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On January 07 2010 20:55 d3_crescentia wrote:Show nested quote +On January 07 2010 15:09 il0seonpurpose wrote:That makes a lot of sense, thanks. I don't even have a car or anything, it would be so difficult for us to go out and stuff. That's a big reason too, I mean we're still in high school still but she has a car and everything and I don't... she got money and I don't. What can I do? Get a job, get a car/license. Part 1 might be kinda hard, but trying to find little ways to make money can't hurt.
Or take public transportation?
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Interesting story, keep us updated!
btw I think you two will end up being good friends. Just my guess.
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On January 07 2010 15:09 il0seonpurpose wrote:That makes a lot of sense, thanks. I don't even have a car or anything, it would be so difficult for us to go out and stuff. That's a big reason too, I mean we're still in high school still but she has a car and everything and I don't... she got money and I don't. What can I do?
LOL. If want her then go get her. If you don't then stop dancing about it in your head. All this car, money, society, parents, church stuff is bullshit you're using as a crutch. Go fucking get her.
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She is "thinking" about how to tell you she isn't interested without hurting you feelings.
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On January 07 2010 15:09 il0seonpurpose wrote:That makes a lot of sense, thanks. I don't even have a car or anything, it would be so difficult for us to go out and stuff. That's a big reason too, I mean we're still in high school still but she has a car and everything and I don't... she got money and I don't. What can I do?
I don't see anything wrong with that. Get it out of your head that you need to spend money and drive girls around. They're supposed to like you for your personality, not so you can be an ATM/chaffeur for them.
I dated plenty of girls in high school without a car (had money though.) I never paid for any of their stuff and quite a few times was treated by them. Have confidence in your personality. No relationship is going to go very well if it's based on material goods anyway. This isn't a K-drama where the only way to win a girl is to do out of this world things like fly her on a jet plane or buy her a $5000 dress out of nowhere.
What you CAN do is tell her to take you guys out and make it worth her effort by being entertaining/fun to be around. It's not like girls aren't willing to put effort into something if it's fun for them.
Please don't listen to the guys giving advice like "LOL ur fucked, you didn't follow the rules etc etc." Those are ppl who treat human relationships like they're an RPG. It's disturbing to say the least.
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StorkHwaiting, thanks alot!
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NP buddy. Go out there and the charming self you can be :D. If you don't act like it's your duty to drive and pay, she won't think it's your duty either. Dating is to find out if you guys like each other's personalities. So just be yourself and try to have fun for YOU. Be attentive to her needs/interests but be expressive about what you find fun about life. If she finds you interesting/fun then dating makes sense. If she doesn't, well...a relationship's not going to work if you need to give Extraordinary effort on a constant basis.
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What Chill said. I often buy girls meals to be a gentlemen, but it also works the other way around. I feel proud when I get girls to buy things for me. To have a healthy relationship, most stuff should be 50/50. This includes buying stuff and treating meals. Don't worry about the no car thing, drive her car lol.
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