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On March 18 2011 18:39 Jacuzzi wrote: Hi Anna. I've never posted in this blog so I hope I'm not asking a question that's been asked a trillion times. My question is how do you and Geoff find time for a relationship when he's a super busy progamer/coach/NASL caster who is pretty much booked 24/7 for the next two years? I was with a girl a few months back and she was VERY clingy. I don't consider myself needy or clingy at all and staying home on a Friday night to play SC2 online with friends sounds like a much better time than going to some club or a bar or whatnot. I'm also a full time engineering student at a university so between that and a girlfriend I'm very short on personal time for things like starcraft. Before I was with her I was having a pretty rough semester (15 hours, all math and engineering classes T.T) so I would only play SC2 a few days a week just to mainly blow off steam when I had some free time between homework. Then this girl came along and started taking up all my time and I would have zero time for gaming. I'm not trying to blame her for everything but at the same time I feel like she could have respected my lack of time and given me some space. I'm not really upset about breaking it off with her and I don't regret it. I don't feel like all my free time should be 100% dedicated to a girlfriend when I have so many other things going on in my life. What's your take on this? Should I look for a girl in the future that's more in to gaming that can sympathize with me? Maybe somebody who's just as busy as me so she can't have time to sit around and call me? Or maybe I just don't need a girlfriend considering how busy my life is in this stage? I think it's really all about taking the time to define your priorities and then committing to the difficult task of balancing them. It is very much not easy for Geoff and I to make and devote the kind of time that is necessary to maintain our relationship with our schedules and geographical challenges, but we do, because it is of paramount importance to us. We make Skype dates, watch movies on Netflix together (3, 2, 1, PLAY!), and coordinate schedules to meet up all over the country. We're both working toward a future where we will be able to walk side by side toward our dreams, and because we have been disciplined, that day is coming very soon.  When you have multiple passions, it will be difficult to appropriately divide your time between them. It's almost as if, for me, I had to sit down and make a pie chart: relative to the importance of each time consuming activity in my life, how much of my day will I devote to it? And then I stick to that, no matter what that means is left undone. For me, that usually sways in the direction of people and relationships over almost anything else. Any other time I have goes to pursuing my highest purpose and my dreams. I figure, if you focus on those things, you will find yourself in the right place at the end of the day. In terms of girls, I recommend that you find someone that shares priorities with you. In a relationship, you've gotta be pulling toward the same Utopia, you know? Otherwise, it will always be in the best interest to part ways. Whether that means she is a gamer or not, I bet you'll find that she is the right fit for you. | ||
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On March 21 2011 10:02 CheAse wrote: I was listening to sotg and I wanted to say congratulations on the MLG interviewing job. Do you have any plans to further your involvement with Starcraft E-sports besides interviews? - like maybe casting. ps. good like with Miss America, you have my vote! - if a Canadian is allowed to vote that is Thanks! I hope it works out... I was to begin in Anaheim but MLG has been having some communication challenges hiring-wise... so we'll see. Yep! I just announced today that I will be officially taking on a media role with Team EG. Now, it will be my job to follow the Starcraft scene - and I hope that means I will get to the point where I understand the game well enough to offer the calibur of analysis that would make it feasible for me to try my hand at something like casting. Thanks for the support for Miss USA! | ||
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On March 21 2011 11:59 McKTenor13 wrote: Seriously, you and incontrol seem so damn happy. im happy for you two =) I agree with Zlasher in that you should tell us your side of that date. What is one natural beauty you would like to see before you die? Good luck with the Miss USA stuff! I'll definately be voting and what not as I get the chance Thank you. I would REALLY like to see Iguazu Falls. Water is a real spiritual symbol for me, and that looks like just about the most epic water experience I can think of. Even looking at pictures fills me with awe. (Thanks for the support! ) | ||
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On March 26 2011 17:10 PsyChill wrote: Hey Anna You previously said that when you give your heart to someone it stays with them, that is the wisest relationship advice I have ever heard. Time heals pretty much everything. Me and my girlfriend parted company a few months ago due to forces beyond our control. She was my seventh girflreind or something but since that i've had no interest in chicky babes at all. I just don't really have anything to give them. Whats the best way to getting back to normal? It's hard to believe, but time really does heal. I've had a few really painful breakups in my time, and I remember being so frustrated with myself. "I know there's nothing I can do, why can't I just get over it?" or even: "It's better this way, why am I wasting time feeling sad about something that I should be glad about?" What I learned, over the years, was to accept that I was going to feel bad for a while, know that it would take time, but have faith and find solace in the fact that it was, little by little, going to get better. After a few weeks, it wouldn't sting so bad. A few months, and I might forget about it for a day. After a year or so, maybe I would only look back with fondness. It ALWAYS gets better. Hold on to that, and know that every morning will be better than the last. In the meantime, take responsibility for your own health, well-being, and happiness. You are the only person who can make you feel better. Discipline yourself to engage in activities that are good for you. Excercise, eat good foods, maintain relationships with friends, devote time to your passions, take the time to nourish yourself spiritually, emotionally, physically, mentally, and socially. Fill every day with actions that will take you closer to your goals. That way, when you go to bed at night, you have something to feel good about. It won't cover up your pain, but it will help to dull it, and give you the sense of control that you will otherwise lack. Once you are on that path, running toward your dreams and taking care of yourself, I think you will find yourself alongside someone who is doing very much the same thing, and whom you want to spend more time with. I wouldn't worry about having interest in "chicky babes." I think, when you are back to full emotional health... and probably not even looking for her... the right girl will be there waiting. <3 | ||
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On March 26 2011 17:59 Indrium wrote: The coolest part about that story is that there are speech nerds on this forum besides me. What was your piece? Did you ever do anything but duo? My events were Impromptu Speaking, After Dinner Speaking, Dramatic Interp, Prose Interp, Poetry Interp, POI, and of course Duo. I dabbled in others... and even did Worlds Style Debate once just for kicks. One of Geoff and my faves was a specialty event that they only did at OSU called impromptu sales. they would give you an item in a paper bag, you got to look at it for a moment, and then you had to sell it to the judge. Only rule was, you had to sell it as something other than what it was, and hopefully make it humorous. Geoff and I both had a lot of success with that one. | ||
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On March 26 2011 18:47 guesswho19 wrote: why do u believe in religion  ? ur just feeding the mass dilusion, next time you and geoff rent a movie, rent religulous, very educational and will provide the sarcastic lure geoff i wud think like. Excuse the grammar but its a forum after all.I don't believe in religion. I have faith in God that has changed my life in very real ways, and that I practice in a manner which I believe to be the best way to serve God and others. Religion is people's way of trying to figure out their spirituality and worship in large, standardized groups, and sometimes they invariably mess up, big time. I'm glad that God is beyond religion. If He were defined by human actions, He wouldn't be much of a God, would he? Also, it is worth noting that many religious groups have, beyond any semblance of doubt, done a world of good. What I saw in India, as a result of Mother Teresa's devotion to serving God, defies description - the beauty of what she did to ease human suffering, and the echo of her simple existence reverberating there even now, is beyond words. The point is, people do good, and people do bad. Religion does neither without them. | ||
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On March 26 2011 19:47 [NSL]BansheeHero wrote: The Importance of Being Roommate. Did you like his/her interaction?  (Looking back probably yes, but at the moment ) You mean the role of my roommate in helping to facilitate Geoff and my first date? By all means, yes, I did like it. Now, and at the time. Sometimes he really needs those little nudges from others... *looks longingly at left ring finger...* | ||
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On March 30 2011 19:02 Rylaji wrote: So, the age old question. Why did you fall for him? =) I've cited multiple reasons in this thread, but the thing that, above all, makes Geoff my soul mate is the level at which he understands me. Because we agree on the most important things in life, it's easy to walk alongside each other in life - and I have never, ever, met someone who "gets" me the way he does. I can talk to him on a deeper level than anyone else I know, and trust him to understand and reciprocate. That feels so good, and I know I am a lucky girl to have found it. It definitely doesn't mean that we haven't had to fight through some hard times, but it does mean that, every time, we come out stronger than before. | ||
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On April 02 2011 00:11 mechavoc wrote: Great thread! I wish I had read it before Pax East as you would have been a cool person to chat with! What was your reaction when Pokebunny beat Inc there? OHH! Someone was just asking about Boston and I couldn't remember what I was doing there. YES! I did have SO much fun at PAX! Darn, wish you could have said hi! Be sure to do so at the next big event! Geoff had so much on his plate at that point, he was barely practicing at all. I thought he played pretty darn well, considering. | ||
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On April 02 2011 03:00 trancey_ wrote: will you leave inControl for Khaldor? He's basically Vin Diesel. ![[image loading]](http://img810.imageshack.us/img810/2470/95724418.jpg) Nah... totally not Vinny, and even if he was, he's still no iNc. | ||
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On April 05 2011 17:00 Eleaven wrote: Eh? (correct me if i misinterpret this) How can the one who denies themselves a pretty basic human desire claim to know anything of it? It's like saying "I've never eaten food before" and then telling everyone they have no idea how good food can be. Le what. As someone eloquently stated, Marriage isn't the beginning of a relationship, it is the sealing of an already 100% functioning and happy relationship.. otherwise there's far too much down to chance/hope rather than knowledge and experience. Like what you do for the community though, and i mean no grievance, differences are interesting to discuss. All i can say is, the first time my wife and i had sex (days after we met) was the instant we both realised how perfectly matched we were. We'd already spoken for like 3 days straight getting barely any sleep just cuddling etc.. and then wow omg one of the most amazing experiences of my life. The fact we'd both had sex before didn't take anything away from the experience. You don't "compare" your partner to others if they satisfy you fully, and ever since that first time, great sex has been something that just creates an incredible bond, emotionally, chemically.. physically. We were 18 then, now closing in on 30 and i have thousands of memories of sheer bliss :3 Almost makes me sad to think people miss out on it for years of their life. I respect your dedication to each-other though, and to your beliefs. I don't understand them, and it doesn't really bother me that i don't understand. As long as we're all happy Dedication and commitment are what defines us as people. 100% respect for your dedication. Looks like your question is: [i[How can the one who denies themselves a pretty basic human desire claim to know anything of it?[/i] Never having had sex doesn't prevent you from experiencing the sexuality of your partner, and knowing whether you are compatible or not. I have had boyfriends that showed me very quickly how distasteful I would find intimacy with them. (Blech  ) On the other hand, I can assure you beyond a shadow of a doubt that sex with Geoff will be AWESOME. I just don't agree with the argument that you can't know compatibility without fully experiencing every aspect of sexuality. You use the analogy of food: take a chocolate bar (I'm a fanatic for dark chocolate) I know I like chocolate. - I know I like boys. I choose a new chocolate bar at the store, a brand I'm not familiar with. - I meet a boy, one I've never had any relationship with. I like the ingredient list and specifications, so I buy the chocolate. - I like the guy, so I enter into a relationship with him. I open the chocolate bar and see the color, smell the aroma, and even test the snap of the chocolate (connoisseurs know what I mean. ). - I date the guy, and experience intimacy with him in ways that are not sex.I can know, at this point, even though I haven't tasted it, that I will like this chocolate bar. - I know, through all experiences with this boy, that we are compatible. I eat the chocolate and now taste it for the first time, it is a new experience, but I knew and could predict much of what it would be like. - I marry the boy and we have sex, it is a new experience, and much better than what I have done before, but I knew and could predict much of what it would be like. I am happy. - I am very happy. I appreciate your curiosity, and your respect. Thanks! PS - You and your wife sound adorable. | ||
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On July 13 2011 15:59 uNcontroLable wrote: [/i]Looks like your question is: [i[How can the one who denies themselves a pretty basic human desire claim to know anything of it? Never having had sex doesn't prevent you from experiencing the sexuality of your partner, and knowing whether you are compatible or not. I have had boyfriends that showed me very quickly how distasteful I would find intimacy with them. (Blech ) On the other hand, I can assure you beyond a shadow of a doubt that sex with Geoff will be AWESOME. I just don't agree with the argument that you can't know compatibility without fully experiencing every aspect of sexuality. You use the analogy of food: take a chocolate bar (I'm a fanatic for dark chocolate) I know I like chocolate. - I know I like boys. I choose a new chocolate bar at the store, a brand I'm not familiar with. - I meet a boy, one I've never had any relationship with. I like the ingredient list and specifications, so I buy the chocolate. - I like the guy, so I enter into a relationship with him. I open the chocolate bar and see the color, smell the aroma, and even test the snap of the chocolate (connoisseurs know what I mean. ). - I date the guy, and experience intimacy with him in ways that are not sex.I can know, at this point, even though I haven't tasted it, that I will like this chocolate bar. - I know, through all experiences with this boy, that we are compatible. I eat the chocolate and now taste it for the first time, it is a new experience, but I knew and could predict much of what it would be like. - I marry the boy and we have sex, it is a new experience, and much better than what I have done before, but I knew and could predict much of what it would be like. I am happy. - I am very happy. I appreciate your curiosity, and your respect. Thanks! PS - You and your wife sound adorable. Wow that was a very good explanation! Respect for your dedication, hope you and Geoff have a wonderful relationship. P.S: No question but I just wanted to mention that I agree with the earlier post about you casting, would be awesome if you and Geoff did like a casting duo or something . | ||
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Just wanted to say you were a big inspiration for me when I started doing my little interviews, even if I've only done a couple. Keep doing what you're doing! | ||
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On April 09 2011 16:16 WinterNightz wrote: So I've been spending my time sewing together little crafts, and I was wondering: where does your fancy dresses come for pageants? Is it like famous people at award shows that have to tell the camera, "I'm wearing Italiano Fancypants~", or is there more of an involved process working with designers/tailors to do something perfect for you? And is there some kind of failsafe to make sure that you and some other person aren't wearing almost-identical dresses? Also, what are your opinions on men's dress clothes? I've been casually interested in fashion forever, but it's always so depressing to watch things like Project Runway, then go to the store and see, "well, I could get a black suit... or a blue suit.. or a brown suit." (it's even worse when Irish coloring limits what colors actually look good on me.. I can't wait to actually have a steady income so I can get a nice custom suit from these indochino ads I see all over the internet) (forgive me if this sort of thing has already been asked!) Most girls wear dresses from famous designers who specifically do pageant gowns. Notably Sherri Hill and Tony Bowls, and also Jovani and MacDuggal. Pageant gowns are very different from red carpet gowns - more glamor than high fashion, and usually more bling for the stage. Most of these major designers know when their clients are national competitors, and attempt to keep a registry of who is wearing what dress in order to avoid duplicates. Usually girls bring 2 gowns, one for the evening gown photoshoot, and one for the stage. My photoshoot gown was made by a local Portland designer that I wanted to support and get some exposure. I would have liked to have designed and had made both my gowns, but I basically ran out of time and, in the end, wore a lovely Tony Bowls on stage. Men's dress clothes can be so fun! But I feel you on the lack of variety in a price range. I'm particularly partial to gray suits on guys, for some reason, and a very fashion-forward tie can make even a "blah" suit look really cutting edge. For example, one of the most smartly dressed guys in the office where I worked until just recently, had a gray pinstripe suit that he wore with a white shirt, tortoiseshell glasses, cognac-colored shoes, and - get this - a pink paisley narrow tie. He looked straight out of a magazine. As far as my opinion in general, the most important thing in men's clothing, especially dress clothing, is a good fit. If clothes truly fit, they rarely look bad. Did you have more specific questions? | ||
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On April 27 2011 09:41 GloPikkle wrote: @Eleaven You brought up some interesting and definitely valid points which really got me thinking and would like to provide my own perspective on (not to rebut you, just to share my own ^_^). I would argue here that while sex is a basic human desire, it's not a basic human NEED. The basic human need is intimacy and sex is one of many routes to it. A person can experience absolute intimacy with someone without sex without necessarily experiencing the full spectrum of it. For some people, pushing intimacy boundaries beyond what they're ready for or experiencing certain aspects of it without other necessary aspects can lead hurt, anger, pain, etc. Of course to your point, this can be experienced prior to marriage, but that leads me to the next... I've actually heard the opposite which is funny. Someone so eloquently told me that "marriage is not the culmination of profound emotional experience, but the beginning of one". If marriage is a culmination of all the memories, trials, joys, tears, and love, then logically to me it seems as if there's nothing greater beyond that. If Romance leads to Love leads to Marriage, what comes after? Just personally speaking (got married last year), marriage, and the foundation of the commitment to love each other, has really been the starting point for my journey with my wife towards a deeper emotional, spiritual, and physical connection that couldn't possibly exist without it. Marriage gives us the safety to invest and pour into each other and grow as people with purpose. Not try to take anything away from the experiences of you and your wife, that's awesome man. But personally, just resonate with uNcontroLable. Anyway, my questions =) : I haven't read every entry in the blog, so forgive me if these are redundant: 1) You've mentioned that you've been involved with NGO's, is there a specific area that interests you? ie healthcare, economic development, mercy/justice, education? 2) Any plans to take a more active role in NASL? 3) Who are 3 people who inspire you and why? 1) I would say my specific and foremost areas of interest are youth mentorship, prevention of sexual abuse/support for victims of abuse, welfare of children in poverty, and environmental sustainability. 2) I hope they will have me back for more interviews at their next live event! I'd be happy to do more - like hosting etc.- but I think that's why they have Lindsey Sporror now. Hopefully you will see me taking bigger roles in more live events soon. 3) Three people off the top of my head that I admire (it would take too long to decide on the top 3 I admire MOST, and I'm not including family cause that's implied) Audrey Hepburn - she made a living creating art and pursuing her passion, then used her success to help others on a global scale, thus inspiring others to do the same. As she put it “I think I’ve been terribly privileged, and it’s logic that somebody who is privileged should do something for those who are not.” and thanks for your thoughts on the marriage issue. Geoff's mom, Loreen (iNcontroLofiNcontroL HAR HAR) - She has faced trial after trial in life that, for anyone else, may rightfully have turned them into a bitter or selfish shell of a person. But she reacts by loving more fiercely and smiling more stubbornly than anyone I have ever met. Even when I first met her, I knew I could count on her to love me no matter what. Oprah - considering the amount of negativity (hatred) that even I get as a woman in the (small) spotlight, I bet she has gotten even more, and that hasn't stopped her from being wildly successful, and THAT hasn't stopped her from seemingly remaining a truly caring, compassionate, and genuine person. | ||
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On April 28 2011 00:56 XiaN wrote: Hey Anna I have a question regarding the "Wait with Sex until marriage". I can fully understand your thoughts behind it and respect your decision there in any way. But i'm always wondering there. Because like you may not know from personal experience, but some people are not fitting together when it comes to sex. I was with a girl ones which i fully loved in any respect .. we where soul mates as you will, but we both could not fulfill the others sexual wishes. It was not that we both where into very extreme kinds of sex, but when we had sex together it was obvious for both of us that the other partner is not enjoying it. We had to quit the relationship after some month, because the unfulfilling sex life was like a dark shadow over the relationship and in the end .. destroyed it. Since you are waiting until you are married with it ... what if thats the case for you and inc? *crossing fingers its not*. Also ( this might fit better in incontrols thread ) how does incontrol think about it? I mean he's a boy and you are a very attractive lady. And by our gene's we are ... kind of programmed to spread our DNA as often as possible. I also think he hadn't waited until the marriage with his first sex .. or did he? I answered a similar question just a bit ago, I think a lot of it applies: + Show Spoiler + On July 13 2011 15:59 uNcontroLable wrote: Looks like your question is: [i[How can the one who denies themselves a pretty basic human desire claim to know anything of it? Never having had sex doesn't prevent you from experiencing the sexuality of your partner, and knowing whether you are compatible or not. I have had boyfriends that showed me very quickly how distasteful I would find intimacy with them. (Blech ) On the other hand, I can assure you beyond a shadow of a doubt that sex with Geoff will be AWESOME. I just don't agree with the argument that you can't know compatibility without fully experiencing every aspect of sexuality. You use the analogy of food: take a chocolate bar (I'm a fanatic for dark chocolate) I know I like chocolate. - I know I like boys. I choose a new chocolate bar at the store, a brand I'm not familiar with. - I meet a boy, one I've never had any relationship with. I like the ingredient list and specifications, so I buy the chocolate. - I like the guy, so I enter into a relationship with him. I open the chocolate bar and see the color, smell the aroma, and even test the snap of the chocolate (connoisseurs know what I mean. ). - I date the guy, and experience intimacy with him in ways that are not sex.I can know, at this point, even though I haven't tasted it, that I will like this chocolate bar. - I know, through all experiences with this boy, that we are compatible. I eat the chocolate and now taste it for the first time, it is a new experience, but I knew and could predict much of what it would be like. - I marry the boy and we have sex, it is a new experience, and much better than what I have done before, but I knew and could predict much of what it would be like. I am happy. - I am very happy. I appreciate your curiosity, and your respect. Thanks! PS - You and your wife sound adorable. As far as what Geoff thinks about it: yes, it is really difficult for both of us. Girls have sex drives too, you know. But we are really happy with each other and committed to the promise we made. He is just as much a virgin as I am and we are both excited to be each others' first and last. Not that it wouldn't be as special if he hadn't waited, but it's pretty powerful. | ||
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Now that you are the manager in the EG house, will you still being doing Miss USA Pageants or will you now be committing full time to Starcraft 2 and the competitive scene? Also this is completely out of curiosity but, when you and iNc get married will you stream your wedding and have the very first "Starcraft" wedding or will you just keep it private and then blog about it? This is completely out of curiosity. | ||
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