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sky_slasher

United States328 Posts

November 14 2009 00:53 GMT

#321

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On November 14 2009 08:48 mnm wrote:

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there is a certain zerg player missing from this list and although i am over him it makes me sad..

"i am over him it makes me sad" hm....Oversky?? Or Yellow, Jaedong, Zero, Calm?

I don't consider these guys to be particularly good-looking to make it into my list for unControl...not saying they're ugly; they're ok; it's just that I (not a gay, just being aesthetic) don't look at them and go wow they're good-looking....

pubbanana

United States3063 Posts

November 14 2009 01:33 GMT

#322

On November 14 2009 09:53 sky_slasher wrote:
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On November 14 2009 08:48 mnm wrote:

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YellOw, of course.

uNcontroLable

United States1180 Posts

November 14 2009 04:05 GMT

#323

Because it is rare to see a girl that has her shit together (i.e. not some insanely annoying super eyeliner saturated emo/neopets girl) on the interwebs and ESPECIALLY on a SC website I would like to thank you for actually talking to us about real stuff and not being a biatch.

Serious question now:
Is it common for girls to have secret crushes on people who they hang out with almost every day? There is a girl I know who I hang out with almost every day. I study with her, laugh with her, sit around and do nothing with her and we talk about almost everything. I have a giant crush on her but I have ruined so many relationships I would like to take this one slow because it seems so worth it. She laughs at my jokes but she never touches me and I never touch her for some reason. I think she really does like me as more than a friend but I cannot tell. I firmly believe that we have a good relationship going and that real relationships cannot be forced and will happen automatically if it was meant to work. So my question to you is: Should I just continue being a great guy to her and not inquire about how she feels about me or should i take this opportunity to ask her out?

Thanks

<3 Thanks so much Hypnosis, you all are so welcome, that makes me feel really good.

This is a really tough question to answer with any degree of certainty, seeing as I don't know her or how your friendship works, but here's my take: It's all a question of risk versus gain. It sounds like you guys have a really good, strong, enjoyable friendship. If you tell her you have feelings for her, and she doesn't feel the same, you risk making things awkward, or possibly changing or even harming the relationship as it exists in the status quo. However, if you tell her and she does feel the same, you gain a more intimate relationship with someone you have strong feelings for. Basically, you have to decide if the chance at a relationship with her is worth the possibility of losing what you already have.

Now, that said, it sounds like you guys have a pretty healthy and close friendship. As such, you probably have a good idea what she thinks and feels, and how she will react to what you say. The ideal situation is one where you can be completely open and honest, talk everything out, and go on from there, even closer than you were before, whether you end up in a romantic relationship or not. However, if that's improbable, it is possible to try and ascertain her feelings without putting yours in the open. This is more of the wussy way, but it definitely has it's usefulness. Wait for the opportunity in a conversation to talk about friends becoming romantic. Like if you watch a movie where it happens, or you see something funny happen between a couple, or if something a couple does in both of your view relates to something you guys do or have done, use it to propose the hypothetical situation of you two being a couple, in order to see how she reacts. for example:

*you just watched a movie where a pair of best friends fall for each other and end up together in the end*

"Haha, I wonder how often that happens in real life."
"What?"
"You know, people who think they are just friends finding out that they actually have feelings for each other."
"Yeah, I dunno."
"Hahaha, ohhh, I get it, you secretly have feelings for me, don't you? *flirty flirty etc*"

...at which point she will either react with giggly protestations, or an explanation of why that could or couldn't happen between you. Keep in mind, if she likes you, she is just as nervous about revealing it as you are, so you are looking for non-verbal cues, not necessarily the words she actually says.

Or, as another example, observe that you guys are like a couple, and start it as a line of joking. For example, if you have a dispute over something silly or do a household chore for each other, joke that you are like a married couple, and see if she goes along. You know, that kind of thing. In experimenting with her reactions, you can try to get a better idea as to how she would react if you outright told her you had feelings for her. Keep in mind, in my experience, girls love to feel attractive and interesting, so when they find out a guy has feelings for them... they are likely to find him interesting too...

All in all, all communication theory and tricky techniquing aside... my personal recommendation would be just to keep taking it slow. You have nothing to lose by staying friends, spending time together, and letting things develop in their own time. If anything, like you said, it has a higher potential of creating a more successful relationship.

I say, don't push it, but do be ready to be honest about your feelings as soon as the time is right, or, tell her how you feel right away, if you feel like it's worth the risk.

uNcontroLable

United States1180 Posts

November 14 2009 04:29 GMT

#324

On November 12 2009 16:42 d3_crescentia wrote:
well, now I know that the best way to a girl's heart is to eat a napkin

on a more serious note: how does a guy go about finding that one special girl that he'd spend the rest of his life with?

Figure out what you want out of a lifetime partner, a challenge, a companion, someone who's funny, someone who's pretty, someone who understands your family... whatever it is, and then don't waste your time with people who you know will never be that girl.

...and usually, not always, but usually, you won't find them while out at a bar...she'll be somewhere you like doing something you love.

overpool

United States191 Posts

November 14 2009 07:39 GMT

#325

What's your MBTI? Do you feel it accurately describes you?

uNcontroLable

United States1180 Posts

November 15 2009 08:05 GMT

#326

On November 12 2009 21:28 Musoeun wrote:
All the cool people are doing it, so I should too, right...?

Okay, so that's silly, but come to think of it there are actually two questions that came to mind:

1) Are people who talk to themselves with other people in the room more or less annoying than people who are always on their cell phones? As a result of a conversation with a co-worker today, I realized that even though I find people who are "always on the phone" kind of irritating, I talk to myself. A lot. But now I'm thinking, those two habits have to have about the same result, right? As in general noise that also is kind of off-putting if you want to talk to the person. But I'm curious: which is worse?

2) So my parents taught me to dress neatly, look respectable, etc. - but I also grew up with that part of American culture (despite my current location being Korea, I'm American) which is all "knowing anything about clothes is girly". Result: I look neat-ish most of the time, and can wear just about anything (growing up wearing a kilt at least semi-regularly gives you decent confidence about not being self-conscious just because you look "ridiculous") - but that "anything" doesn't always fit quite right (at least it matches!) and I'm absolutely lost when it comes to "nice" clothes - if I went to buy a suit I'd probably just stand there looking confused. Where should/could I start remedying this problem? (I don't mean to sound sexist/overly traditionalist "ask a girl about fashion" here, but I don't know any guys who do fashion-y things and you a) do and b) are answering questions, so hey.)

Oh. And while I'm asking questions, what are the best and worst-looking colors for each race in SC?

1)I think for me personally, people who talk to themselves are more annoying, because I'm so used to being in the room with other people who are on the phone, and I'm pretty good at ascertaining quickly whether they are on the phone or talking to me. On the other had, if someone is just talking to themselves, it can get pretty awkward trying to figure out if they are talking to me or not. lol. Either one is not a huge deal though, once you get used to it.

2)My best advice for learning about fashion is to find a friend who has good style (meaning at least you like the way they normally look) and ask them to go shopping with you. Have them pick out clothes for you to try on, then talk to them about how they fit, where you could wear them, etc. A lot of my friends have asked me to do this for them actually, and it has really helped! Fit really is the key. A lot of people tend to buy clothes in the wrong size because they either don't know their size, or they don't like the way the right size looks. If you don't like it in your size, get something else! I can't tell you how many of my friends get asked if they have lost weight once I help them pick out a new pair of jeans lol. Most stores actually have associates that will measure and fit you, as well as give you advice too, if you don't have a friend who wants to come along. Other than that, any advice I would give you would probably have to be more informed.

uNcontroLable

United States1180 Posts

November 15 2009 08:06 GMT

#327

On November 13 2009 01:09 Zurles wrote:
why doesn't Tarzan have a beard?

Cause Jane didn't like how it tickled.

uNcontroLable

United States1180 Posts

November 15 2009 08:17 GMT

#328

On November 13 2009 05:42 sky_slasher wrote:
Please rank these progamers based on how well their looks appeal to your style.

Boxer

Nada

Savior

Bisu

Reach

Hwasin

Jangbi

Leta

Ruby

Ok, well, since I'm not totally familiar with these guys' looks irl, I'm just ranking on these pics...let's see, I guess

Boxer
Leta
Ruby
Nada
Jangbi
Bisu
Hwasin
Savior
Reach

??

Honestly, from just those pics, they are all pretty close in levels of attractiveness to me, though in other pics I've been more or less attracted to them, and I'm sure irl it would be very different.

Mostly, I guess I was tending to rate on how good I thought their smile would be and... I dunno, probably their hair.

uNcontroLable

United States1180 Posts

November 15 2009 08:19 GMT

#329

On November 14 2009 08:14 mnm wrote:
q: if a girl wanted to help hook her nerd guy friend up with a hot chick, what would be the best approach for her without seeming creepy?

Hmm, do you mean just hook him up with some hot chick in general? Or is there a certain one we're aiming for? And what is your relationship with her if at all?

uNcontroLable

United States1180 Posts

November 15 2009 08:25 GMT

#330

On November 14 2009 08:50 mnm wrote:
q: oh and btw what is your dance style? im trying to pick what to do next: more hip hop, more contemporary/lyrical/horton, ballet, ballroom, salsa or breakdancing.

Ooh! Tough question! I've done a little bit of everything, like it sounds like you probably have. Lately, the most scintillating for me has been any kind of social dance, like latin/ballroom. I actually Got Geoff to take some classes with me!

As far as what you should do next, if you haven't done a lot of ballet yet, i would totally recommend that. If you can build the core control, balance, and extension that comes from ballet, in my experience, it will totally translate to skill in almost all other forms of dance.

MeyvN

Afghanistan4 Posts

November 15 2009 08:48 GMT

#331

Whats it like dating this?

sky_slasher

United States328 Posts

November 15 2009 08:53 GMT

#332

On November 15 2009 17:17 uNcontroLable wrote:

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Interesting ranking. It was actually quite an effort picking these pics...trying to get headshots with bland expression (smiles and other expressions can be deceiving...) of similar size and nature was actually quite a work...

Bisu is widely known to be the best-looking...Reach is more of a Mantoss who's really built and stuff...Nada is pretty built too... hm...Leta #2 is interesting too; he's one of those who looks widely different depending on camera angles...from side he looks amazing but from front not much but the pic I found was really good...

Thanks for responding~~~

starfries

Canada3508 Posts

November 15 2009 11:16 GMT

#333

I gotta say Boxer is looking good in that picture... dayummm. but the mantoss last

although I have to agree it's a crappy picture of him

igotmyown

United States4291 Posts

November 15 2009 11:19 GMT

#334

On November 15 2009 17:48 MeyvN wrote:
Whats it like dating this?

On November 12 2009 13:24 G4i.MeyvN wrote:
Incontrol your BMI is probably above 20% you just dont enjoy being a fatass so you try to make everyone think that your not fat

You also brag about being strong but when your obese and strong you can lift more than a lighter guy, if you were actually in shape (in which case you would have to lose about 100++ pounds) you would lose much muscle. its EZ to be fat iNc.

And the only way a guy like you could run a 4.6 40 is if the coach who timed you wait a good couple seconds after you started running to start the clock

He's baaaaaaack...

Musoeun

United States4324 Posts

November 16 2009 03:24 GMT

#335

On November 15 2009 17:05 uNcontroLable wrote:

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2)My best advice for learning about fashion is to find a friend who has good style (meaning at least you like the way they normally look) and ask them to go shopping with you. Have them pick out clothes for you to try on, then talk to them about how they fit, where you could wear them, etc. A lot of my friends have asked me to do this for them actually, and it has really helped! Fit really is the key. A lot of people tend to buy clothes in the wrong size because they either don't know their size, or they don't like the way the right size looks. If you don't like it in your size, get something else! I can't tell you how many of my friends get asked if they have lost weight once I help them pick out a new pair of jeans lol. Most stores actually have associates that will measure and fit you, as well as give you advice too, if you don't have a friend who wants to come along. Other than that, any advice I would give you would probably have to be more informed.

Huh. Thanks.

uNcontroLable

United States1180 Posts

November 16 2009 08:16 GMT

#336

On November 14 2009 16:39 overpool wrote:
What's your MBTI? Do you feel it accurately describes you?

I took the quiz that was recently on tl and got ENFJ (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging) with high on the intuitive and low on the judging. I took a more comprehensive test to find my MBTI while I was in school. and I'm not sure it was the same... but I guess this looks right enough. I'm pretty extroverted, creative and big-picture focused, very sensitive to feelings and value them sometimes over logic, and like to gather as much information as I can and then draw conclusions.

Being a comm major, I love this kind of stuff. We used to sit around and talk about it all day lol.