EPTQuestion: Where do you want to travel if you get the chance and why?
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meeple
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Question: Where do you want to travel if you get the chance and why? | ||
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EsX_Raptor
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konadora
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konadora
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On November 14 2009 13:05 uNcontroLable wrote: <3 Thanks so much Hypnosis, you all are so welcome, that makes me feel really good.  This is a really tough question to answer with any degree of certainty, seeing as I don't know her or how your friendship works, but here's my take: It's all a question of risk versus gain. It sounds like you guys have a really good, strong, enjoyable friendship. If you tell her you have feelings for her, and she doesn't feel the same, you risk making things awkward, or possibly changing or even harming the relationship as it exists in the status quo. However, if you tell her and she does feel the same, you gain a more intimate relationship with someone you have strong feelings for. Basically, you have to decide if the chance at a relationship with her is worth the possibility of losing what you already have. Now, that said, it sounds like you guys have a pretty healthy and close friendship. As such, you probably have a good idea what she thinks and feels, and how she will react to what you say. The ideal situation is one where you can be completely open and honest, talk everything out, and go on from there, even closer than you were before, whether you end up in a romantic relationship or not. However, if that's improbable, it is possible to try and ascertain her feelings without putting yours in the open. This is more of the wussy way, but it definitely has it's usefulness. Wait for the opportunity in a conversation to talk about friends becoming romantic. Like if you watch a movie where it happens, or you see something funny happen between a couple, or if something a couple does in both of your view relates to something you guys do or have done, use it to propose the hypothetical situation of you two being a couple, in order to see how she reacts. for example: *you just watched a movie where a pair of best friends fall for each other and end up together in the end* "Haha, I wonder how often that happens in real life." "What?" "You know, people who think they are just friends finding out that they actually have feelings for each other." "Yeah, I dunno." "Hahaha, ohhh, I get it, you secretly have feelings for me, don't you? *flirty flirty etc*" ...at which point she will either react with giggly protestations, or an explanation of why that could or couldn't happen between you. Keep in mind, if she likes you, she is just as nervous about revealing it as you are, so you are looking for non-verbal cues, not necessarily the words she actually says. Or, as another example, observe that you guys are like a couple, and start it as a line of joking. For example, if you have a dispute over something silly or do a household chore for each other, joke that you are like a married couple, and see if she goes along. You know, that kind of thing. In experimenting with her reactions, you can try to get a better idea as to how she would react if you outright told her you had feelings for her. Keep in mind, in my experience, girls love to feel attractive and interesting, so when they find out a guy has feelings for them... they are likely to find him interesting too... All in all, all communication theory and tricky techniquing aside... my personal recommendation would be just to keep taking it slow. You have nothing to lose by staying friends, spending time together, and letting things develop in their own time. If anything, like you said, it has a higher potential of creating a more successful relationship. I say, don't push it, but do be ready to be honest about your feelings as soon as the time is right, or, tell her how you feel right away, if you feel like it's worth the risk. legendary post | ||
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pubbanana
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Licmyobelisk
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I have a cute profile picture in facebook were I have two girls on both sides and they are really cute.. I met them at their office because my friend won a cellphone due to crossfiyah. (nothing malicious in the picture just a very friendly pic with two beautiful girls) Now the thing is, my girl found the profile picture and told me "I am so jealous of the two girls your with right now." which was a little playful and at the same time a little psychotic. I told her,.. I just wanted to show that I accidentally won the cellphone.. Even thought she already knew that wasn't the case. So I changed the picture as soon as she replied that "I am so jealous of the two girls your with right now." And she began to say "No, it's actually okay.. I know you like being proud of that picture." Does this make me look like a douche to her? I mean, she is really the jealous type and I don't even know if she really hates my ass for it once she saw that picture? | ||
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Romance_us
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On November 16 2009 21:57 Licmyobelisk wrote: Hi uNc, I have a cute profile picture in facebook were I have two girls on both sides and they are really cute.. I met them at their office because my friend won a cellphone due to crossfiyah. (nothing malicious in the picture just a very friendly pic with two beautiful girls) Now the thing is, my girl found the profile picture and told me "I am so jealous of the two girls your with right now." which was a little playful and at the same time a little psychotic. I told her,.. I just wanted to show that I accidentally won the cellphone.. Even thought she already knew that wasn't the case. So I changed the picture as soon as she replied that "I am so jealous of the two girls your with right now." And she began to say "No, it's actually okay.. I know you like being proud of that picture." Does this make me look like a douche to her? I mean, she is really the jealous type and I don't even know if she really hates my ass for it once she saw that picture? Although I don't know in your specific case obviously, generally your girlfriend will get pissed if you have focal point pictures (i.e. your facebook profile picture, which is the one everybody is guaranteed to see) with other girls.. isn't this a no-brainer? While the initial move makes you look like a douche, I think you might have saved yourself by taking it down as soon as she showed interest (negative) in it. | ||
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JFKWT
Singapore1442 Posts
On November 16 2009 20:20 konadora wrote: why are there so many douchebags ruining perfectly good and awesome threads? couldn't resist: + Show Spoiler + do you think guys who like lolis are a) cute or b) creepy? | ||
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vRoOk
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mnm
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On November 15 2009 17:19 uNcontroLable wrote: Hmm, do you mean just hook him up with some hot chick in general? Or is there a certain one we're aiming for? And what is your relationship with her if at all? Just meant in general. Hasn't really come up recently but in my past history attempting this, I've scared off a ton of girls. I've pretty much given up on this task as it seems doomed to failure (its better if they just attempt to hit it on their own). But if you have another approach to playing wing woman, I'm open to listening. | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On November 16 2009 17:41 meeple wrote: This guy just has so much energy to waste on this. And to think they might be productive in another universe. Question: Where do you want to travel if you get the chance and why? Hmm, basically my goal is to see as many different parts of the world as possible, so if I haven't been there, I want to go there. One of my dearest passions is travelling and experiencing other cultures, so I have done a lot of it and lived a while in some unique and wonderful places. In the forefront of ideas for visiting ATM are the Czech Republic (part of my heritage and I've always wanted to see Prague), Egypt (Really into their ancient culture and would love to see the pyramids as well as friends there), and China (trying to learn Mandarin). Closest to my heart is probably Spain, where I lived 3 months and almost didn't come back. The culture just fits me really well, and the country is richly beautiful. Can you tell one oft majors was international studies? Lol | ||
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Impervious
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YPang
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for example me myself, when i was younger and i saw someone with a tatoo i thought he was like a gangster or some thug like dudes. Now when i see it it seems really common, and a lot of people have it. I would get one if i had something important to show or have the money, but so far nothing yet. | ||
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Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
On November 16 2009 21:57 Licmyobelisk wrote: Hi uNc, I have a cute profile picture in facebook were I have two girls on both sides and they are really cute.. I met them at their office because my friend won a cellphone due to crossfiyah. (nothing malicious in the picture just a very friendly pic with two beautiful girls) Now the thing is, my girl found the profile picture and told me "I am so jealous of the two girls your with right now." which was a little playful and at the same time a little psychotic. I told her,.. I just wanted to show that I accidentally won the cellphone.. Even thought she already knew that wasn't the case. So I changed the picture as soon as she replied that "I am so jealous of the two girls your with right now." And she began to say "No, it's actually okay.. I know you like being proud of that picture." Does this make me look like a douche to her? I mean, she is really the jealous type and I don't even know if she really hates my ass for it once she saw that picture? Do you really need to ask a girl this question? Pretty sure you know the answer yourself but you just wanna make yourself look good or something with your PUA stuff that you post 24/7 about. Edit: On another note, this thread has turned into guys asking unc questions about females in general instead of herself thinking that all girls think the same way and clearly since unc is a good looking female she has all the answers and secrets to help a guy understand how females work so they can apply these skills to their own lives to get laid | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On November 16 2009 20:20 konadora wrote: why are there so many douchebags ruining perfectly good and awesome threads? to quote http://hippiekiller.wordpress.com/2008/09/17/on-trolls/ : A “troll” is not just someone whose comments you disagree with, or even just a nasty or badly-worded comment. A troll is someone who does not, under any possible set of circumstances, care what you think about him or his comments. He merely wants attention. Negative attention will do. The more you disagree with him, the more he is able to tell himself that he is persecuted and victimized or the only voice of reason or one of the elite few who has the God’s-eye view of the world or whatever his current delusion is. If he isn’t merely a narcissist who thrives on feeling attacked, he’s just some putz who enjoys irritating other people. Therefore, you “feed” the troll by paying any attention to him at all. It does not matter what you say in response. Any response to a troll just encourages the troll. Because trolls. That's why. | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On November 17 2009 12:11 resonance wrote: Do you really need to ask a girl this question? Pretty sure you know the answer yourself but you just wanna make yourself look good or something with your PUA stuff that you post 24/7 about. Edit: On another note, this thread has turned into guys asking unc questions about females in general instead of herself thinking that all girls think the same way and clearly since unc is a good looking female she has all the answers and secrets to help a guy understand how females work so they can apply these skills to their own lives to get laid K, usually I try to answer as many as I have time for in order, but wanted to respond to at least the last part of this right away. I don't mind the generalized girl questions at all. Everyone knows my answers come with the disclaimer that they are merely from my own point of view. There is an extreme lack of female perspective in this forum, and any ideas I can offer are readily available if people want them! | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On November 16 2009 21:47 pubbanana wrote: Do you want to have babies? Yes. Ideally around 3. Interestingly, I feel a draw toward two paths when it comes to kids. The idea of creating life with the person you love and giving birth to a whole new person that is a little bit you and a little bit them is... mind-bogglingly awesome. Experiencing pregnancy and everything that goes with it is something I very much look forward to. BUT: I've been really convicted by the amount of kids out there that don't have families. The idea of looking one of them in the face and saying "sorry, it's more important to me that my baby comes from my belly than that you have loved ones" is...well...mind-bogglingly arresting. I think I've been blessed in that I'm pretty sure it won't matter to me one bit whether my kids are mine genetically or not. That said, I will probably end up having at least one biologically, whether I plan it now or not. ...and then maybe some foster kids once I'm older and mine are moved out. I love kids. I feel so much compassion for them. | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On November 16 2009 21:57 Licmyobelisk wrote: Hi uNc, I have a cute profile picture in facebook were I have two girls on both sides and they are really cute.. I met them at their office because my friend won a cellphone due to crossfiyah. (nothing malicious in the picture just a very friendly pic with two beautiful girls) Now the thing is, my girl found the profile picture and told me "I am so jealous of the two girls your with right now." which was a little playful and at the same time a little psychotic. I told her,.. I just wanted to show that I accidentally won the cellphone.. Even thought she already knew that wasn't the case. So I changed the picture as soon as she replied that "I am so jealous of the two girls your with right now." And she began to say "No, it's actually okay.. I know you like being proud of that picture." Does this make me look like a douche to her? I mean, she is really the jealous type and I don't even know if she really hates my ass for it once she saw that picture? No, I think you're fine now. By changing it as soon as she mentioned it, you showed you cared about her feelings. I doubt she's mad. My advice: just do something nice to show her that you're thinking of her today to remind her she's precious to you to seal the deal. | ||
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uNcontroLable
United States1180 Posts
On November 16 2009 23:18 JFKWT wrote: couldn't resist: + Show Spoiler + do you think guys who like lolis are a) cute or b) creepy? I don't know what that means. | ||
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meeple
Canada10211 Posts
A loli is a anime girl who is usually depicted as young or child-like, it comes from the term lolita. | ||
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