On September 16 2009 10:02 travis wrote:
Practice compassion and understanding. It is the only good way to get over anger.

Your verbally abusive father is a man with flaws. Be compassionate toward his flaws and think about why he may have acted as he did - be understanding.

Through understanding comes release.

Please seriously consider my post.

Thank you.

I will try this. My dad had a really sad childhood so when I think about that I actually feel a lot of sympathy.

I'm working on feeling empathy as well. That, of course, is tougher.

arb

Noobville17921 Posts

September 16 2009 01:09 GMT

#23

i jack off when im angry tbh. anger jerks make you feel better afterwords

DamageControL

United States4222 Posts

September 16 2009 01:16 GMT

#24

On September 16 2009 10:07 JadeFist wrote:

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Thank you.

I will try this. My dad had a really sad childhood so when I think about that I actually feel a lot of sympathy.

I'm working on feeling empathy as well. That, of course, is tougher.

To understand is to begin the path to empathy. Of course, you should, and I have no doubt that you will, strive to be a better, stronger person but to understand why, will help you ultimately forgive him.

Divinek

Canada4045 Posts

September 16 2009 01:25 GMT

#25

Go have some mad, hate, hate-fucking? Seeing as sex is supposed to be one of those times of ultimate release I would imagine you could channel alot out that way.

Then again that's probably too similar to punching a pillow.

CharlieMurphy

United States22895 Posts

September 16 2009 01:37 GMT

#26

I too have anger problems.

Just today I was driving to work on my normal route. I stopped on the last right turn at a red light. I waited for the left turn cars to pass. And noticed a 40+ year old man standing there in his hawaiin shirt, shorts, sunglasses, and headphones (not paying attention). After the cars finished I looked around 1 last time and proceeded to turn on the red (which is legal). Mid turn the guy steps out in front of me (Green light and crosswalk went on) and sticks his arms out and yells out like "HEY IM WALKIN HERE" or some shit. I begin into a furious anger and yelling back at him telling his stupid ass to pay attention so now my life got flipped, turned upside down and Id like to take a minute just sit right there Ill tell you how I became the prince of a town called bel-air. In west philadelfia born and raised. On the playground where I spent most of my days Chilling out, maxing, relaxing all cool And all shooting some b-ball outside of the school When a couple of guys said were up in no good Started making trouble in my neighbourhood I got in one little fight and my mom got scared And said youre moving with your aunte and uncle in bel-air I whistled for a cab and when it came near the Licensplate said fresh and had a dice in the mirror If anything I could say that this cab was rare But I thought now forget it, yo home to bel-air I pulled up to a house about seven or eight And I yelled to the cabby yo, home smell you later Looked at my kingdom I was finally there To settle my throne as the prince of bel-air

to deal with anger I just let it out and then forget about it. I think the trick is to just forget it. Thinking about something else or doing something else can help you forget.

geometryb

United States1249 Posts

September 16 2009 02:02 GMT

#27

scream into a pillow.

BanZu

United States3329 Posts

September 16 2009 02:05 GMT

#28

On September 16 2009 09:35 JadeFist wrote:

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I run 3 to 6 miles every day.

Long distance isn't good enough.

Try some angry sprints.

Cambium

United States16368 Posts

September 16 2009 02:07 GMT

#29

lol, i have to agree with the 4pool suggestion

Saddened Izzy

United States198 Posts

September 16 2009 02:27 GMT

#30

Don't hit, curse and throw tantrums that does not help you in fact does the opposite, doing things like that tends to reinforce it for later use in other words just makes your angrier person in general. If you want to do that "Let fury have the hour, anger can be power" go do something constructive.

Things that work to control and curb anger is

Doing things that are incompatible with anger such as petting a puppy, helping out people, watching/listening to comedy, "kissing" your lover, masturbating. This pushes out angry feelings

Relaxation , relaxing muscles, listening to calming music, taking deep breathes what it does is it diminishes the arousal off of being angry

Delay things like counting to 10 slowly works the same as above

Distraction take your mind off what is making you angry (jogging works the same way as most people minds go into a somewhat meditative state during a long run.)

samso..

United States53 Posts

September 16 2009 02:46 GMT

#31

Learn to meditate. Just 15 minutes of proper meditation can relieve all the stresses of an entire day. Learning to consciously release these built up tensions during your meditation will engage the very faculties called upon when you try to control or direct your anger. The reason your anger is pent up inside you is because you are holding on to it in some way or another, even if you aren't meaning to. So let go of it. Meditation is the art of 'letting go', clearing your mind of every thought and image, and then resting in this condition. With just moderate success you will see the benefits in your life. It will become easier to respond to emotions before they break to the surface. You will begin to see ways in which you've stood in your own way, and little by little you can learn to let go and begin healing.

In addition, I completely agree with the poster who said this:

Practice compassion and understanding. It is the only good way to get over anger.

Your verbally abusive father is a man with flaws. Be compassionate toward his flaws and think about why he may have acted as he did - be understanding.

Through understanding comes release.

Please seriously consider my post.

rredtooth

5461 Posts

September 16 2009 02:46 GMT

#32

let the anger motivate you and drive you. go out into the streets and start picking fights with random people. post those videos on youtube and watch as your popularity grows and swells beyond imagination. then sit back as the endorsements roll in and you are invited to the world of professional fighting. also make sure you have a belly button that looks like it would blow as soon as someone punches it. + Show Spoiler [exploding sausage] +