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On September 10 2012 10:07 Torte de Lini wrote:
Happiness for me is the ability to wake up for one day and have no worries of the past and no concerns about the future. To be able to live the day at its fullest without the reminder that it ends, but to remember how each feeling felt before a new one bloomed.
A lot of my happiness comes from being concerned about the future, trying to fulfill my potential and doing my best to achieve my goals. Being worried about falling short does not take away any happiness for me. To know that a day is short and thus attemping to do the most I can in it. You are not living life if you are not reflecting on the mistakes or regrets made in the past, or making projections about the future. Is this really happiness for you?
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Being allowed to live a relatively easy and content life.
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On September 10 2012 10:10 Vorgrim wrote:
Go to the gym and keep going, eat well and find another human where mutual attraction exists and have sex with them a lot.
Well said Vorgrim. Happiness is a matter of chemicals such as endorphins, serotonin, and dopamine. Find ways to trigger those, such as working out and having sex, and you will feel better about your life. Also find other things that can trigger that "reward" in your brain. For me (I'm a nerd) its studying for hours then getting an A on a test. Or working for hours to get an internship. So getting those things trigger the reward and I feel good. Winning a SC game may very well do the same for you. If it doesn't make you happy enough I would try branching out and trying things until you find something.
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I believe there are two kinds of happiness:
1. A small one in terms of duration. Normally is strong enough to mantain you happy from few hours to maybe 2 - 3 days. Those are related to small details. Eating an ice cream, reencounter with some old friend, a joke... This feeling of happiness is pretty short (no more than a few minutes) and are important for mantain your level of happiness but are not enough for people to said "I'm a happy person", I see them like filler.
These type of happiness is the more volatile, and is pretty different from person to person, and is related with hobbies. You learn those when you are a child (Yes you learn how to be happy) and basically could be anything.
2. The second one is more inhereted to the human being, your feelings when you get it is much more stronger and perdure for much more time, generally until you lost it or just assume will always be there. These happiness are related with cultural values, human needs and personal goals. These are not that different from person to person (but can change dramatically from culture to culture), because is related with human needs, and are divided by categories, the ones that I remember are, love, education, spirituality, family, work, recreation, health....
In this category we have for example, have your own family , have your own house-car, have the money for lived well, be important for some one, be able to do X,.
An interest exercise is to qualify in a 1 to 10 scale each one of those categories by answer this question "how close am I to have everything I want, at this age, in the X category", for example, My health is that good as i want it?
The process is pretty simple you will have values and you will have some values high and some low, just work in your low values. (This is not that simple but at least you have a view)
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On September 11 2012 01:05 OneOther wrote:Show nested quote +On September 10 2012 10:07 Torte de Lini wrote:
Happiness for me is the ability to wake up for one day and have no worries of the past and no concerns about the future. To be able to live the day at its fullest without the reminder that it ends, but to remember how each feeling felt before a new one bloomed. A lot of my happiness comes from being concerned about the future, trying to fulfill my potential and doing my best to achieve my goals. Being worried about falling short does not take away any happiness for me. To know that a day is short and thus attemping to do the most I can in it. You are not living life if you are not reflecting on the mistakes or regrets made in the past, or making projections about the future. Is this really happiness for you?
I don't agree with you, mainly because of the 2 bolded parts in your reply.
Also, I think reflecting and pondering about mistakes and regrets and putting up (way too idealistic) goals will only result in a depressed state rather than a happy one.
Patting oneself on the back because one did a great job at something and is proud of said job is more of a pretentious gloating kind of i'm-better-than-happiness than the carefree happiness. They're probably both valid (if one could even argue about validity) yet quite different.
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On September 10 2012 10:57 neobowman wrote:
Living as a Christian =D
Also it helps if you have quality imaginary friends that promise you immortality. Like a hot vampire but without the bite.
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OP just needs to smoke some weed or get laid tbh, or set some goals and achieve something. That is happiness to me.
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Happiness comes from within, you can find people with severe disease that are happy, and those depressed while in ideal situations for most people. You must choose to be happy.
Of course being realistic, some days are harder to "choose" happiness then others. Lack of sleep, hunger, health, mental health, the end of a relationship can leave one to stew for a while. It's perfectly reasonable to be down for a bit, just remember that eventually you'll have to get back on the horse if you want to be happy again.
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On September 11 2012 00:57 aznboi918 wrote:
Do you play starcraft because you love it and it's your passion or do you play it as an escape from reality?
Both.
Look at your life right now, I'm sure that overall it may seem bad but there are definitely special moments that you are missing  . focus on those who care and those who love you and the things you love to do.
Sometimes it feels like nobody cares about me. But maybe everybody feels that way at some point in life.
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Happiness is being able to do what you love while being able to share it with other, close to you, people.
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Happiness to me is the periods where success outweighs my worries. Success and happiness are very closely related to me, and it is all about how far away I am from who and where I want to be. If I take a step in the right direction then that is success and it makes me feel good. When things stagnate or something goes wrong the worries of the future or the past might catch up and weigh be down until I get a grip on the situation again. It's a constant battle, really, and I believe it is so for most people until they truly find out what they want.
Several people mention that it is attitude and your view on life, but I disagree. You can "brainwash" yourself to a certain degree, but not everyone can decide to be happy. It is too basic a feeling, and not everyone is happygolucky in everything they do, although I do know some people that are like that.
To put things in perspective for you to see how different people are, I would probably be the happiest man in the world if I managed to become an IFBB pro (100kg+) and found a woman to share it with. That's it. I have many friends that will probably not be happy until they land a million dollar job or become a world famous tenor. But it is important to keep in mind, also, that things can change, and very often you don't know what makes you happy until you find it.
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Snowboarding is happiness
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On September 11 2012 01:05 OneOther wrote:Show nested quote +On September 10 2012 10:07 Torte de Lini wrote:
Happiness for me is the ability to wake up for one day and have no worries of the past and no concerns about the future. To be able to live the day at its fullest without the reminder that it ends, but to remember how each feeling felt before a new one bloomed. A lot of my happiness comes from being concerned about the future, trying to fulfill my potential and doing my best to achieve my goals. Being worried about falling short does not take away any happiness for me. To know that a day is short and thus attemping to do the most I can in it. You are not living life if you are not reflecting on the mistakes or regrets made in the past, or making projections about the future. Is this really happiness for you?
I think when you contrast those worries and issues with the feeling of now, you can assume the latter is better and thus happiness.
But the feeling of blissful life without the requirements or prerequisites of enduring the angst of yesterday and its remains that linger today as well as the the incertainty of the future is happiness, yes. It's the satisfactory feeling that what you are currently doing has your undivided and wanted attention and that you enjoy it.
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On September 11 2012 03:25 shabby wrote:
Happiness to me is the periods where success outweighs my worries. Success and happiness are very closely related to me, and it is all about how far away I am from who and where I want to be. If I take a step in the right direction then that is success and it makes me feel good. When things stagnate or something goes wrong the worries of the future or the past might catch up and weigh be down until I get a grip on the situation again. It's a constant battle, really, and I believe it is so for most people until they truly find out what they want.
Several people mention that it is attitude and your view on life, but I disagree. You can "brainwash" yourself to a certain degree, but not everyone can decide to be happy. It is too basic a feeling, and not everyone is happygolucky in everything they do, although I do know some people that are like that.
To put things in perspective for you to see how different people are, I would probably be the happiest man in the world if I managed to become an IFBB pro (100kg+) and found a woman to share it with. That's it. I have many friends that will probably not be happy until they land a million dollar job or become a world famous tenor. But it is important to keep in mind, also, that things can change, and very often you don't know what makes you happy until you find it.
You'd be surprised at how miserable most "successful" people really are.
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On September 11 2012 03:42 Little-Chimp wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2012 03:25 shabby wrote:
Happiness to me is the periods where success outweighs my worries. Success and happiness are very closely related to me, and it is all about how far away I am from who and where I want to be. If I take a step in the right direction then that is success and it makes me feel good. When things stagnate or something goes wrong the worries of the future or the past might catch up and weigh be down until I get a grip on the situation again. It's a constant battle, really, and I believe it is so for most people until they truly find out what they want.
Several people mention that it is attitude and your view on life, but I disagree. You can "brainwash" yourself to a certain degree, but not everyone can decide to be happy. It is too basic a feeling, and not everyone is happygolucky in everything they do, although I do know some people that are like that.
To put things in perspective for you to see how different people are, I would probably be the happiest man in the world if I managed to become an IFBB pro (100kg+) and found a woman to share it with. That's it. I have many friends that will probably not be happy until they land a million dollar job or become a world famous tenor. But it is important to keep in mind, also, that things can change, and very often you don't know what makes you happy until you find it. You'd be surprised at how miserable most "successful" people really are.
well, you know what they say. money can't buy happiness, but poverty can't buy anything.
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I probably have a bit different view on this than most people.
I think happiness is secondary. There are more important things about life than being happy at all times.
I define happiness as a moment of experiencing gratitude for being alive (it's something I just came up with, but it seems more or less accurate to me). Which is great of course. However, sometimes life is hard, but that doesn't mean it loses its value. I believe that our lives are meaningful regardless of happiness because of the inherent value given to us as human beings. I believe we are created with the capacity to love and to be loved. I believe that is a reason for us to be happy, but sometimes it is difficult to feel grateful for it because of the temporary circumstances. But that doesn't make it any less true in my opinion; you are precious and have a reason to live.
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Happiness and saddness (or depression) in my opinion are two sides of the same motivational coin. We feel good when our desires are achieved, and we feel sad when we stagnate. This keeps us all (as monkeys) swinging from tree to tree.
Wajd, though you brought up some specific points about your life which I do not have information about, here is some general advice my formal logic professor gave to the class:
"If your desires are irrational or unrealistic or unachievable, then change your desires".
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I find happiness in the small things. A fresh cup of coffee in the morning. Making a bit of code work after prying at it for hours. Something funny I overhear while on the train. Making my wife laugh till she's in tears. Getting a big hug from my little kid. Remembering a dream I had, then forgetting the ending as I'm telling it to someone.
Small things. You can't look for them, but you sure can find them.
To OP: I think it's a pitfall thinking you'll be happy once you get to a major SC2 tournament. Getting to that big tournament won't really change anything, except the way you view yourself. And why wait for MLG to start viewing yourself in a different light? The time is now.
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A person is a success if he gets up in the morning, goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.
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I define happiness as being able to enjoy existing.
Even when I've been sick or in pain, enjoying something small has been comforting enough to persist. Sometimes it is only an idea or a memory, but it applies to anything that allows me to enjoy existence. My reasons for continuing to exist are a relatively consistent string of Purposes that I have chosen for myself, and "depression" is the gaps in my (probably arbitrary) commitment to these goals.
I enjoy a lot of the responses here.
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