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I made a previous blog post about how I met my girlfriend. I've had a girlfriend back in highschool before her, and I've read a ton of girl blogs here on TL, so I'm obviously a total ladies man - I know exactly what to say, exactly what to do in every imaginable situation, I get laid all the time, etc etc.
Haha who am I kidding, I'm just an average-looking (maybe below average) nerd who plays pingpong, reads TL, and plays Starcraft.
Anyways, I know getting a girlfriend is such a huge goal for many of us gamers here. But once I got into my first serious relationship (highschool's just for messin around) with this girl, I was in for one hell of a ride. If getting a girlfriend is the first obstacle, then there are dozens more waiting to bash your head in the ground and making you wish you had stayed single. Dealing with a girlfriend just may be the single hardest thing I've done in my life. Maybe...
I wanted to share some of my thoughts, since they've been clogging up my brain and I can't write my papers or do my presentations for class like this. This will be a series of blog posts about me and my girlfriend's shenanigans. Hopefully, you guys will enjoy this, or some of you might even learn a thing or two.
Here's the short post I made on how we started. Basically, I manned up and kissed her and she liked it and we started going out.
http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=165780
Seems like a happy ending, but I'll end this blogpost with the fact that she didn't want to stay with me. She didn't want commitment. She just wanted to play around. She thought I was "too young" (I'm 2 years younger than her), such that I wouldn't be able to "protect and take care of her" and that I wasn't mature enough.
FFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUU-
What am I supposed to do???
Find out next time on Making Her Mine Part 2.
 
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On March 29 2011 08:39 ieatkids5 wrote:
Seems like a happy ending, but I'll end this blogpost with the fact that she didn't want to stay with me. She didn't want commitment. She just wanted to play around. She thought I was "too young" (I'm 2 years younger than her), such that I wouldn't be able to "protect and take care of her" and that I wasn't mature enough.
I just want to say it sounds like she isn't worth your time, and I can't see this relationship going anywhere based on your description.
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Just curious, why do you want her so bad anyways? I hope she's super hot, because you don't make her sound too appealing personality wise.
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Holy shit, someone actually used the [Girl] tag. Maybe, just maybe, it'll catch on.
And yeah, I agree with Grobyc. Judging solely from what you posted about her, she sounds pretty stuck-up and entitled. It might help to point out exactly what endears her to you.
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I feel there's something fundamentally wrong in saying "make her mine".
1). She's not yours, she's her own (girls aren't property)
2). you can't "make" her do anything (everything she does is her own decision; if you manipulated her into a decision then any relationship that comes from it isn't based on honesty)
3). if you're looking for something serious, the girl has to give you her heart (which she can take back whenever the heck she wants)
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I can't tell if you're still in high school or not..
I manned up and kissed her and she liked it and we started going out.
things like this make it seem like it aint worth getting wound up about
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Seems like a happy ending, but I'll end this blogpost with the fact that she didn't want to stay with me. She didn't want commitment. She just wanted to play around. She thought I was "too young" (I'm 2 years younger than her), such that I wouldn't be able to "protect and take care of her" and that I wasn't mature enough.
FFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUU-
she's just using that as an excuse to cover up the real reason:
she wants to bang someone richer and hotter.
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On March 29 2011 09:24 Servius_Fulvius wrote:
I feel there's something fundamentally wrong in saying "make her mine".
1). She's not yours, she's her own (girls aren't property)
2). you can't "make" her do anything (everything she does is her own decision; if you manipulated her into a decision then any relationship that comes from it isn't based on honesty)
3). if you're looking for something serious, the girl has to give you her heart (which she can take back whenever the heck she wants)
its idiomatic deal with it
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On March 29 2011 09:40 SpiritoftheTunA wrote:
its idiomatic deal with it
Further, they belong to you the same way that you belong to them. I'm pretty sure the original poster doesn't want this chick to wear a leash(maybe he might, but you get what I'm saying).
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Tell me this: why the hell would you want commitment when you're so young and this is your first girlfriend (if you can even call it that). It's great if you find your true love on the first try, but I call bullshit on that, especially considering you kissed her once and she decided to tag along. Culture an abundance mentality regarding girls, and don't make them a goal in themselves. They should be a byproduct of supreme confidence and success in life (where each helps to expand the other). A lot of people (like you) are set on this perspective of "take what falls in your lap" and settle in their mediocre relationships. That doesn't help you discover and identify traits you really want in a partner. You should be fucking celebrating that she only wanted to play around and not drag you into the depths of a hollow relationship.
tl;dr -- who cares about making her yours again
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On March 29 2011 10:03 paper wrote:+ Show Spoiler +Tell me this: why the hell would you want commitment when you're so young and this is your first girlfriend (if you can even call it that). It's great if you find your true love on the first try, but I call bullshit on that, especially considering you kissed her once and she decided to tag along. Culture an abundance mentality regarding girls, and don't make them a goal in themselves. They should be a byproduct of supreme confidence and success in life (where each helps to expand on the other). A lot of people (like you) are set on this perspective of "take what falls in your lap" and settle in their mediocre relationships. That doesn't help you discover and identify traits you really want in a partner. You should be fucking celebrating that she only wanted to play around and not drag you into the depths of a hollow relationship.
tl;dr -- who cares about making her yours again
I wish I could 5 star this post.
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Paper speaks the truth.
You are too young to be worrying about stuff like this. Don't fall into the mentality of" "she's the only one for me"
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I wish I could 5 star paper.
o/
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On March 29 2011 10:16 Grobyc wrote:
I wish I could 5 star paper.
o/
:D
![[image loading]](http://common.csnimages.com/rawImages/collections/UN/MEA17102_1_1.JPG)
...I will regret this later, but I will continue to follow this story  I lurk blogs anyway--might as well.
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There's no point trying to make her yours OP, it's not happening. I absolutely guarantee it. Once a girl has made up her mind that she doesn't want you there is no changing it.
I know it's hard not to, but try, TRY, not to obsess over it, don't let any little thing she says make you trick yourself into thinking you have a chance, you don't. Sorry man. It's only natural, but when another girl shows interest you'll forget this one.
If you absolutely must keep trying; don't let her know you give too much of a fuck. Nothing is less attractive than a guy who's been shot down and thinks he can win a lady over by being really into her.
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Do you really eat kids? Because that may have been the turnoff...
But in all seriousness perhaps you should reevaluate your relationship, I mean if she doesn't want to commit is it really ok for you to find a way to force her too?
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