EPTI'm curious what people here think about this issue, post you're opinions and arguments in favor/disfavor of polygamy.
Polygamy in the Western world
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nimysa
United States383 Posts
I'm curious what people here think about this issue, post you're opinions and arguments in favor/disfavor of polygamy. | ||
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Cpt.Cocaine
Canada299 Posts
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koreasilver
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Orome
Switzerland11984 Posts
polygamy isn't immoral per se, but good luck finding a woman who's ok with openly being one of your 5 girlfriends. | ||
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nimysa
United States383 Posts
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JohnColtrane
Australia4813 Posts
i dont think you need multiple partners to relieve the stress burden, one other person is enough for me. as it stands for me, i love my gf more than any other woman, and i dont need anyone else to sleep with, and to me nobody else compares so why would i want another woman i wont like as much? i think that stuff like spreading disease and unplanned pregnancies may occur but tbh that happens alot already in monogamy so i gues its not really a valid argument | ||
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Tensai176
Canada2061 Posts
Would YOU be okay with that? | ||
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Orome
Switzerland11984 Posts
On March 30 2009 12:46 nimysa wrote: But why would they resent such a established relationship? I normally don't have any perverse intentions, how is it hard to understand that having multiple partners can take away some stress as well as balance things out? lol, I'm not trying to be a dick here, but have you ever been in love/in a serious relationship? How is it not completely clear why they'd resent sharing you with 4 others? | ||
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koreasilver
9109 Posts
On March 30 2009 12:43 koreasilver wrote: lol, broad generalizations of cultures. | ||
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H
New Zealand6138 Posts
On March 30 2009 12:46 nimysa wrote: But why would they resent such a established relationship? girls aren't pets | ||
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ktp
United States797 Posts
Comedian Patrice Oneal talked about this on a radio show. He has a girlfriend that he loves very much. His girlfriend brings a friend over, and they hit it off. They spend a lot of time together, and Patrice realizes he loves them both. The girls get along very well together, so why can't Patrice love them both equally!? He's in the process of making this three way relationship work. If it is sucessful, it will be a great milestone in the history of relationships. | ||
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Snet
United States3573 Posts
Even though I would guess you will run into problems, our culture really isn't used to that kind of relationship. It might start off fine, but I really think one or both girls will become jealous and you'll have catfights on your hands more often than not. Drama dripping out your ass 24/7. I think you would have a better chance of finding a girl who is open to the idea of being a swinger. This way you can have a solid relationship and still have the sexual relief of another woman from time to time. | ||
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
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cgrinker
United States3824 Posts
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imBLIND
United States2626 Posts
On March 30 2009 13:23 cgrinker wrote: I think you want Polyamory, I don't think that you want multiple women bound to you legally. this | ||
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GhostKorean
United States2330 Posts
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
Obviously there is no inherent reason why the West is adverse to polygamy - it's largely part of the way we've been socialized and it originally became that way for practical purposes - but I think all of us would agree that monogamy is still better than male dominated polygamy. | ||
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Yaqoob
Canada3356 Posts
On March 30 2009 13:21 Salv wrote: Aren't only men allowed to have multiple wives and women can only have one husband? In Islam, men are allowed up to 4 wives but only if they can treat them fairly (like in terms of living arrangement and time allocation) and because of this reason (i.e many men don't have the will-power or ability to be fair over wives and might favor the kids of another wife over another) then most men avoid getting a 2nd wife cause its really really really really hard to be fair and not resort to favoritism while Islam tries to avoid. 2 of the reason that men are allowed to have multiple wives and not woman are: 1) Usually men (especially in the east) are the supporters and maintainers of the woman. Its hard for a woman to be married and take proper care of the children to raise them up in a good way if she is always working 2) If a woman had 2 husbands then how would they know who the kid belongs too. This would cause issues between the 'husbands' That's all I can think of now lol | ||
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
On March 30 2009 13:39 Yaqoob wrote: In Islam, men are allowed up to 4 wives but only if they can treat them fairly (like in terms of living arrangement and time allocation) and because of this reason (i.e many men don't have the will-power or ability to be fair over wives and might favor the kids of another wife over another) then most men avoid getting a 2nd wife cause its really really really really hard to be fair and not resort to favoritism while Islam tries to avoid. 2 of the reason that men are allowed to have multiple wives and not woman are: 1) Usually men (especially in the east) are the supporters and maintainers of the woman. Its hard for a woman to be married and take proper care of the children to raise them up in a good way if she is always working 2) If a woman had 2 husbands then how would they know who the kid belongs too. This would cause issues between the 'husbands' That's all I can think of now lol I got another: because the ones who came up with the rules and exceptions were men. | ||
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Spike
United States1392 Posts
Most men don't like the idea of their women sleeping with other guys. dammit salv, remove your post please. | ||
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