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YOU ARE DOING IT ALL WRONG ! ! !
I just came back from the university (like 30 min ago) and the whole trip home was a discussion with my sister about that group, and what we do in there. I was winning the argument but she told me to stop, that she didn't want to listen to me anymore.
I mean usually, it's impossible to talk logic with girl. Think emotionally. Probably she's feeling that this is a chance to prove herself/be independent. It's impossible to convince her now as she's being emotional/biased.
What i would do for the time being:
- Let she do what she want. Act normally but keep silent to her, silent is golden!
- You're also being emotional now so take sometime off to think about what happened.
After things calm down, proceed to the following step:
So, what your sister wants from that fucking group is:
- social activities
- recognitions
Now, what you can do is change her perspective. I don't know, host a picnic with your friends and take her with you. Traveling, sport, musics, art.... Open her eyes and let she decides if sticking with that cult is the best choice for her life. Provide her a chance to find out that she can have so much more fun/social activities/recognitions/independence else where. You know her hobbies so do what you think is best for her. Do it before it's too late.
+ Show Spoiler +If all things fail, then you have no choice but to accept it and move on 
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It's really sad when a family is fighting with each other.
I'm really glad I don't have any fights with my family. I mean, there's been small little disagreements, but we never hated each other. We've beat the crap out of each other, but thats just how us men deal with things. Makes us better people.
Something that my church encourages in family's is to have weekly Family Home Evenings together. Like at least once a week, to spend time with one another, the mormon "standard" is like monday night.(it can really be on any day) Without all the distractions. Those are really important in family life, for any family really. because people progress and get happier when they can support each other, not be contentious. Or use guilt as a motivator. Guilt is terrible. Only through love can you expect things to get better. Keep talking with your parents. Just because you are an adult now and so is she, doesn't mean that you HAVE to be all alone now.
Just remember that you love your sister no matter what.
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I got out of that group on January 1st.
Now the chick's acting all bitch towards me and rubbing it in my face that my sister's still in there.
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Get her out of there - it's not any good for her obviously.
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lol @ the countless times i've tried to do that.
my parents are extreme and theyre always in control of us even though im 19 and her 18, this pisses her off hardcore and wants to feel independent, thus she resorts to this chick who treats her a little better than my parents (yet still treats her like shes a little dumby girl... but she dont realize it for some gay reason) and now i have an immature younger sister who likes to acts all independent and scream @ my parents.
edit: my sister's never had a bf and she started to INSANELY like this dude like a couple months ago and she's now been acting all childish 10 year old because of it.
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maybe it would be different if i were in your shoes but i think ignoring that woman would be the best course of action here? how is she in your face about your sister while you are out of the club?
if your parents are extreme and controlling then tell them about it. that woman should not be harassing you and your parents should be doing something about it. Also tell them about your sister, though they should already know. she's 18, if she makes stupid decisions and is involved in this cult, and screams to spite your parents they(being extreme) should kick her out of the house, no? let that woman financially support your sister please.
the connection between your parents always being extreme and controlling and this woman doing the same thing doesn't make sense to me.
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That 30 year old woman just has a serious inferiority complex. There's no real getting around that...so just avoid her as much as possible unless you want to get into a big blown up fight with her...though I don't recommend it.
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club sounds suspiciously similar to a personality cult. Eh?
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You're handling it the good way. Good luck!
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