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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
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.kaz
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XCetron
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
On September 10 2008 12:22 .kaz wrote: Concentrate on the things about her you dislike. Imagine all the cute things about her as being annoying, like things she says and does. Start fights about those guys for no reason like you're paranoid and it will make her push away from you, and then you can end it. Hmm thats actually good advice, except the fighting. I've been trying to ignore her more and just not respond but man its hard. Thanks | ||
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kpcrew
Korea (South)1071 Posts
20 guys? if she likes u go for it if not, then dont it doesnt matter who else likes her if she likes u | ||
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
It's also crap how I think its all going good like when we talk and stuff, flirt alittle but then she talks to other guys and I know definetly some are interestd in her. CRAP CRAPP CRAP | ||
Arrian
United States889 Posts
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ThePhan2m
Norway2750 Posts
I remember just focusing on the stuff that made her bad. The bitchy stuff, how she would touch her BF in the ass publicly. After awhile just got a totall turn off, tho she is hot, but Im not attracted to her anymore in the same way after that "discovery". We like them clean and ours only, rite? ^^ Basically focus on the bad things about her, look on it realisticly, and ask yourself how well you know her. | ||
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
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Tekin
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nA.Inky
United States794 Posts
How to move on? I'm not sure there is a shortcut. Just feel the feelings, but don't give in to her if you feel sure she isn't really into you. Just be firm with her and don't flirt, and otherwise go through whatever you have to go through. | ||
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Phyre
United States1288 Posts
A) She's been turning all those guys down and they're just really persistent. or B) None of them has gathered up the courage to ask her out. Ask her out, straight up. If she says yes, jackpot. You win. If she says no, then it's cemented in your mind that she's not interested and you can move on easily. So many guys are kept away because they are afraid of rejection but really, you've got nothing to lose. Man up and do what so many of us, myself included, failed to do and thus missed a potential opportunity. Oh yeah, with regards to getting her a nice present and stuff... I wouldn't worry about that. Seriously, what do you expect to come of that? Do you think she's going to ask you out or something? Most you can gain from that with regards to a romantic relationship is that she'll flirt with you more in a best case scenario. A present is nice, but don't crack the bank on one yet. You're not dating, you're just friends right now. Save your cash for when you actually have a girlfriend. | ||
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Phyre
United States1288 Posts
On September 10 2008 12:44 nA.Inky wrote: Yeah, this kind of thing has happened to me plenty of times. You find a nice (usually very attractive also) girl that you think likes you, nice energy, flirtation happening, maybe you even make out and mess around a bit, but then you realize it means basically nothing to her. Or they treat you good one day and ignore you the next. Things are always according to their time table and what they want. It sucks dude. You're right to not put up with it. Some people (men and women) just play lots of games, and usually those games are fun for them and not for you, so best to just move on to someone who won't do you like that. And there are really good women out there who will treat you great, appreciate you, and make you feel wonderful - and hopefully you'll do the same for them. Just be patient. How to move on? I'm not sure there is a shortcut. Just feel the feelings, but don't give in to her if you feel sure she isn't really into you. Just be firm with her and don't flirt, and otherwise go through whatever you have to go through. If the girl is dictating all the time tables then she's in control. If one is to believe all the "girls dig the alpha male type" then you'd want to take control. Giving into what she wants when she wants gives you the "nice guy" label but ultimately that seems to come with the "spineless pussy" label as well these days. Sad state of affairs, but that's the way it seems to be. In my experience, being the confident, cocky, or even arrogant type gets the girl. You keep the girl by slowly switching back to your inner nice guy demeanor as the relationship progresses. Which is basically how I got my girlfriend of almost 4 years now. I went to college thinking "Fuck this, I don't need girls. They just mess with my head and make me feel like shit." Confidence goes up, neediness goes down, happiness goes up along with general outlook on life. 2 years later, my girlfriend approaches me. | ||
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Steelflight-Rx
United States1389 Posts
On September 10 2008 12:29 Arrian wrote: Distracted myself with Broodwar. | ||
lilsusie
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Nitrogen
United States5345 Posts
On September 10 2008 13:08 lilsusie wrote: ... You're 16. (17?) You'll find someone else. Fuck her. (not literally. unless you *could* then you should do that and then leave her) Girls like to play mindgames and especially girls at that age have no idea what they want. They just like the attention. She likes that you like her and that you get upset over other men. You want to focus on everything she does and find it annoying - just understand that she's using you, you're nothing to her, don't spend your money on her, she's got plenty of other shmucks to dote on her. Don't be one of them. hahahahahaha | ||
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
So another thing I've been doing is talking about other girls in front of her, not direcly though, like I talk about hot girls on tv shows, like the hills and she's just like 아이고.. to make her mad. muhahahahaha I'm also thinking about getting a huge poster of wondergirls, even though only like 2 of them are hot and putting it in my room so maybe if she comes over she can see it. It will have to be a very sexual picture though, | ||
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ilovezil
United States4143 Posts
Do you seriously think there's any other legit method to getting over a girl? You grow some balls, ask her out, and face the verdict. | ||
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8Pylon
United States223 Posts
every blog you write is so insightful lol. Glad you're with teamliquid  ![[image loading]](http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g185/theaim/lul.gif) | ||
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kdog3683
United States916 Posts
On the bus ride home from a XC meet, we were discussing our captain's (a senior) girlfriend. Turns out this girlfriend is the girl I liked. I was happy and sad t.t. | ||
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lilsusie
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XCetron
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shavingcream66
United States1219 Posts
On September 10 2008 12:22 .kaz wrote: Concentrate on the things about her you dislike. Imagine all the cute things about her as being annoying, like things she says and does. Start fights about those guys for no reason like you're paranoid and it will make her push away from you, and then you can end it. that's what i did, it works, but its not painless | ||
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geometryb
United States1249 Posts
or find something you care about more than her. it could be starcraft, WoW, poker, tennis, art, school, an instrument, etc. (these will help with future chicks that will be impressed with your leet skillz) or become more awesome so you can get better chicks. this is kind of related to the 2nd option. become knowledgeable about important issues and stuff (economist), and fashion (GQ), and try lots of things like volunteering at soup kitchens and political campaigns and tutoring and the math team. but, you gotta make sure you don't become a douche. | ||
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MeriaDoKk
Chile1726 Posts
On September 10 2008 13:08 lilsusie wrote: ... You're 16. (17?) You'll find someone else. Fuck her. (not literally. unless you *could* then you should do that and then leave her) Girls like to play mindgames and especially girls at that age have no idea what they want. They just like the attention. She likes that you like her and that you get upset over other men. You want to focus on everything she does and find it annoying - just understand that she's using you, you're nothing to her, don't spend your money on her, she's got plenty of other shmucks to dote on her. Don't be one of them. this post opened my eyes O.O | ||
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mister.bubbles
Canada171 Posts
This probably doesn't sound too helpful does it? | ||
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sqwert
United States781 Posts
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Nyovne
Netherlands19135 Posts
On September 10 2008 13:08 lilsusie wrote: ... You're 16. (17?) You'll find someone else. Fuck her. (not literally. unless you *could* then you should do that and then leave her) Girls like to play mindgames and especially girls at that age have no idea what they want. They just like the attention. She likes that you like her and that you get upset over other men. You want to focus on everything she does and find it annoying - just understand that she's using you, you're nothing to her, don't spend your money on her, she's got plenty of other shmucks to dote on her. Don't be one of them. I love female advice. | ||
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NarutO
Germany18839 Posts
On September 10 2008 13:08 lilsusie wrote: ... You're 16. (17?) You'll find someone else. Fuck her. (not literally. unless you *could* then you should do that and then leave her) Girls like to play mindgames and especially girls at that age have no idea what they want. They just like the attention. She likes that you like her and that you get upset over other men. You want to focus on everything she does and find it annoying - just understand that she's using you, you're nothing to her, don't spend your money on her, she's got plenty of other shmucks to dote on her. Don't be one of them. THAT FROM A GIRL! WHOA O_O! Susie you are hardcore^^ | ||
semioldguy
United States7488 Posts
Then go and find another girl. Also... ignoring her is not going to make her not like you. She will just become curious as to why you are ignoring her when she thought you liked her. And don't buy her a birthday gift. A card at most. She isn't your girlfriend after all so use the money on yourself for sure. Besides, a nice gift is never going to win a girl over unless she is already wanting to be yours before she gets it. In which case you didn't need to get her a gift. | ||
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Ohforf
Singapore80 Posts
On September 10 2008 13:08 lilsusie wrote: ... You're 16. (17?) You'll find someone else. Fuck her. (not literally. unless you *could* then you should do that and then leave her) Girls like to play mindgames and especially girls at that age have no idea what they want. They just like the attention. She likes that you like her and that you get upset over other men. You want to focus on everything she does and find it annoying - just understand that she's using you, you're nothing to her, don't spend your money on her, she's got plenty of other shmucks to dote on her. Don't be one of them. wonder if lilsusie's taken... | ||
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semioldguy
United States7488 Posts
Her's is actually one of the few females you should ever listen to on advice in these matters. Most give horrible advice as women have no clue what they want and try to give advice based on the image they wish to portray to others. Sue's uniquely awesome. I'm sure she will agree with both aspects of this post. | ||
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lilsusie
3861 Posts
 I've just been playing this relationship game for waaaaay too long. And I'm old enough to understand how teenage girls/boys act and motives behind them (I was also a school counselor) so.... yeah ultimately, boys are dumb and girls are evil. I stick to that. On September 10 2008 17:57 Ohforf wrote: wonder if lilsusie's taken... nope. Sick of men right now. Too busy for one as well. | ||
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semioldguy
United States7488 Posts
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semioldguy
United States7488 Posts
On September 10 2008 18:22 lilsusie wrote: nope. Sick of men right now. Too busy for one as well. heh... they all say that. Takes a man to show them otherwise. :p | ||
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pyrogenetix
China5098 Posts
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Aerox
Malaysia1213 Posts
On September 10 2008 14:33 XCetron wrote: lilsusie needs her own "girl advice" section  | ||
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ThePhan2m
Norway2750 Posts
*nods* | ||
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Ghardo
Germany1685 Posts
definitely stick to what she is saying. don't be the victim of mind games with all your well-meaning. | ||
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Durak
Canada3684 Posts
On September 10 2008 14:30 lilsusie wrote: why not just.. stop talking to her? or at least pull back. dont be an asshole, just ... focus your attention on something else and put her on the back burner. trust me, girls who love attention HATE it when you take it away. That's really good advise. From a guy's perspective, this has always worked for me. You have to know when to be "hard to get" though and not keep it up for a long period of time (two years didn't go so well...). | ||
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cSf.Vicek
Czech Republic271 Posts
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Straylight
Canada706 Posts
On September 10 2008 14:30 lilsusie wrote: why not just.. stop talking to her? or at least pull back. dont be an asshole, just ... focus your attention on something else and put her on the back burner. trust me, girls who love attention HATE it when you take it away. This is good. If you just suddenly cut off all contact and you're straight up rude when you run into her then she knows something's up and she's got you. What you have to do is slowly turn it off, see her less and less until finally none at all. If you run into her, be polite and say you're busy, gotta go! To be honest though, with all that retarded Wondergirls poster shit I think the OP isn't looking to forget this girl. What the fuck does she care if you think the Wondergirls are hot? Are you ever going to even meet one of them let alone hook up with one? | ||
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drug_vict1m
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
On September 11 2008 00:06 Straylight wrote: This is good. If you just suddenly cut off all contact and you're straight up rude when you run into her then she knows something's up and she's got you. What you have to do is slowly turn it off, see her less and less until finally none at all. If you run into her, be polite and say you're busy, gotta go! To be honest though, with all that retarded Wondergirls poster shit I think the OP isn't looking to forget this girl. What the fuck does she care if you think the Wondergirls are hot? Are you ever going to even meet one of them let alone hook up with one? Haha wondergirls was just the first ting that popped into my head when I was thinking of hot korean celebs. But I didn't mean totaly ignore her, just like what people said, not focusing on her, doing other things. | ||
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Elvin_vn
Vietnam2038 Posts
http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?topic_id=78393 | ||
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On September 11 2008 00:03 cSf.Vicek wrote: it's impossible to stop liking someone, needs a lot of time to forget Thats wrong, i have a NLP technique that can make the feel less intense.... 1. Close eyes, relax and put the feeling of w/e thats bothering you as a picture, and take note of its size and color. 2. place a small picture of the confident you, in black and white to the bottom right corner, to that image which is bothering you 3. alternate the photos, in which the small image of the confident becomes large, and then completely coveres that image that is bothering you. open your eyes, and repeat the process with the image bothering you in front big, and confident you in small. Then after a few times you should feel it become less intense. | ||
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Mortality
United States4790 Posts
On September 10 2008 18:22 lilsusie wrote: aww thanks kyle I've just been playing this relationship game for waaaaay too long. And I'm old enough to understand how teenage girls/boys act and motives behind them (I was also a school counselor) so.... yeah ultimately, boys are dumb and girls are evil. I stick to that. nope. Sick of men right now. Too busy for one as well. You realize that you just vouched for being single on a forum full of horny guys between the ages of 15 and 30? Horoscope says: Beware of rapists during the month of September. o.0 Edit: Once September ends, you're home free. Just thought you'd like to know that. | ||
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Straylight
Canada706 Posts
On September 11 2008 08:50 Mortality wrote: You realize that you just vouched for being single on a forum full of horny guys between the ages of 15 and 30? Horoscope says: Beware of rapists during the month of September. o.0 Edit: Once September ends, you're home free. Just thought you'd like to know that. You're not very amusing. | ||
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8Pylon
United States223 Posts
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semioldguy
United States7488 Posts
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Mortality
United States4790 Posts
One of the would-be rapists right here...? | ||
IntoTheWow
is awesome32275 Posts
On September 11 2008 09:25 8Pylon wrote: lilsusie date me? ;; smooth man | ||
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Dknight
United States5223 Posts
ITW, date me? | ||
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
On September 10 2008 13:08 lilsusie wrote: ... You're 16. (17?) You'll find someone else. Fuck her. (not literally. unless you *could* then you should do that and then leave her) Girls like to play mindgames and especially girls at that age have no idea what they want. They just like the attention. She likes that you like her and that you get upset over other men. You want to focus on everything she does and find it annoying - just understand that she's using you, you're nothing to her, don't spend your money on her, she's got plenty of other shmucks to dote on her. Don't be one of them. You know.. I've been able to reason this for myself for quite a long time and it hasn't done shit, but something about reading this post feels different. I guess I'll find out in a week if it sticks, but you may be the greatest person alive. | ||
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