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So yesterday, it was the fifth successful date we had. I invited her to a VIP cinema, we went to watch Star Wars. It was pretty good and i was amused as how she actually had lore on star wars. It was pretty fun actually.
So i drive her home around 11:15 but we still kept talking until midnight in the car. So before she went inside home, she invited me to dinner tomorrow saturday. We're going to eat sushi i think.
I think she does like me and we have a fun time together. So know that i know her, and. we've had some dates going, im thinking about taking the relationship up a level. We started dating on july 30, so i think im not going superfast or very slow either.
Im just not sure how to talk about the topic. I was thinknig maybe taking a walk after we have dinner and then hold hands or something and tell her something along the lines of, "were is this going now" or "i like you" or something. How would you approach the situation. Im pretty confident but, since i've had little experience with this things, i dont know, i can shake a bit.
Any advice is welcome
+ Show Spoiler [lilah] +this pix are on very low resolution so that's why so small :p
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wow she looks very pretty
well, 5 dates man, unless you've been sending out the wrong signals in the first place I don't think you have anything to wrry about
just be honest and fearless. that makes for a powerful combination
and if you're nervous just say so. it'll prolly help your nerves and she may find it cute 
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Word of advice, do not tell her you like her straight up. Relationships are like a war, you have to win every battle and you will be successful. Just have fun and wait it out until she gives in to YOU. You will have control of the relationship when she tells you she likes you, which is pretty obvious anyways. Just be patient and it will go much more smoothly. You may feel like you have to say something or she will lose interest but think about it, if she didn't tell you outright that she liked you would just lose interest? no.
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The girl is obviously into you and probably wants a relationship. So my advice to you is to make out with her and fuck her. wtf do you think i'm going to say, "be passioniate and honest". fuck that be a man and give her what she wants.
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get her to play sc with you, eventually get her to join tl, then show her this blog.
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just kiss her and go from there
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On August 23 2008 02:57 Hypnosis wrote:
Word of advice, do not tell her you like her straight up. Relationships are like a war, you have to win every battle and you will be successful. Just have fun and wait it out until she gives in to YOU. You will have control of the relationship when she tells you she likes you, which is pretty obvious anyways. Just be patient and it will go much more smoothly. You may feel like you have to say something or she will lose interest but think about it, if she didn't tell you outright that she liked you would just lose interest? no.
agree with the beginning of this post, not so much the last part. if you dont make it known what you want her, she will lose interest. You gotta just balance it. If you wait on her to tell you that she likes you, its going to be a long wait. Even worse, she might get hit on by another guy and if he is confident, she will be attracted to him more. Girls never initiate or reach out, you gotta do it.
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On August 23 2008 03:12 itzme_petey wrote:Show nested quote +On August 23 2008 02:57 Hypnosis wrote:
Word of advice, do not tell her you like her straight up. Relationships are like a war, you have to win every battle and you will be successful. Just have fun and wait it out until she gives in to YOU. You will have control of the relationship when she tells you she likes you, which is pretty obvious anyways. Just be patient and it will go much more smoothly. You may feel like you have to say something or she will lose interest but think about it, if she didn't tell you outright that she liked you would just lose interest? no.
agree with the beginning of this post, not so much the last part. if you dont make it known what you want her, she will lose interest. You gotta just balance it. If you wait on her to tell you that she likes you, its going to be a long wait. Even worse, she might get hit on by another guy and if he is confident, she will be attracted to him more. Girls never initiate or reach out, you gotta do it.
Yea but isnt it obvious
OP: hey lets go to an expensive dinner, just the two of us
Lilah: Ok! shes thinking (wow thats like the 8th time he asked me out, IM SURE THERES NO INTEREST).
OP: bam bam bam
Lilah on a date one night: lats fack
Op: chill... :DD
enough said.
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I had same situation like you, and some other guy overruned me. Good luck man what ever you do.
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yeah girls rarely initiate, life is not like a beautiful korean drama
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On August 23 2008 03:19 shavingcream66 wrote:
yeah girls rarely initiate, life is not like a beautiful korean drama
Its not like japanese anime either, take it from me.
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On August 23 2008 03:23 XCetron wrote:Show nested quote +On August 23 2008 03:19 shavingcream66 wrote:
yeah girls rarely initiate, life is not like a beautiful korean drama Its not like japanese anime either, take it from me.
Yea they dont like being tied up and shit.
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On August 23 2008 03:23 XCetron wrote:Show nested quote +On August 23 2008 03:19 shavingcream66 wrote:
yeah girls rarely initiate, life is not like a beautiful korean drama Its not like japanese anime either, take it from me.
No, but real life does turn out just like Bollywood most of the time. I can't tell you how many times I've engaged in a sword fight with a girl's father only to have him break into song when I've earned his trust.
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Next time you're alone together try to kiss her.
That's it, you are now boy and girlfriend, enjoy the next 1-3 weeks.
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On August 23 2008 03:56 Frits wrote:
Next time you're alone together try to kiss her.
That's it, you are now boy and girlfriend, enjoy the next 1-3 weeks.
lol so cynical
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I like this
On August 23 2008 03:01 Sins wrote:
The girl is obviously into you and probably wants a relationship. So my advice to you is to make out with her and fuck her. wtf do you think i'm going to say, "be passioniate and honest". fuck that be a man and give her what she wants.
but I also like this at the same time
On August 23 2008 02:57 Hypnosis wrote:
Word of advice, do not tell her you like her straight up. Relationships are like a war, you have to win every battle and you will be successful. Just have fun and wait it out until she gives in to YOU. You will have control of the relationship when she tells you she likes you, which is pretty obvious anyways. Just be patient and it will go much more smoothly. You may feel like you have to say something or she will lose interest but think about it, if she didn't tell you outright that she liked you would just lose interest? no.
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Don't tell her you like her straight up, and don't use the 'relationship' word or bf/gf. I'd say try to escalate things physically. Whatever that means to you, holding hands, kissing, grabbing her butt, etc. Also don't ask "can I hold you hand?" just take her hand in yours without saying anything or say "hey, give me your hand." This shows confidence that you know what you want. If you get physical and she likes you & is receptive, she will eventually bring up the topic of commitment. You shouldn't ever have to.
Do not bring up the topic of a relationship. None of that "where is this going now?" or "I like you" crap. Just pretend that you are in one and proceed accordingly until she brings it up first. Then you can talk about it.
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lol wtf @ some of the responses O_o
quite entertaining anyways, I'd go with Sins =D
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oooh don't eat sushi, chronic stomach problems put a dampener on romantic evenings 
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Hm all the americans say that girls never initiate, are american girls that shy?
And OP you sure you "want" a relationship with her? Do you feel "in love" with her (whatever that means to you)?.
If so then kiss her or whatever and then (perhaps some days later) let it be known that you consider her your gf. If she isn't in to the idea of comitment at the moment you will find out about that then meaning that you can leave before you get hurt.
Or do you just want to fuck her/hang out with her? In that case well, kiss her, fuck her, continue to hang out with her and have a great time. (And don't care that she might be doing the same thing with other guys, cause after all your having fun and are getting laid)
Know what you want first, then make sure she finds out what you want.
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Whatever you do do not accidentally call her your girlfriend or tell your friends she is your girlfriend until she actually lets you know you can call her that, they will rip your nuts off.
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Keep us updated, especially me cause I want to know which route you choose.
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On August 23 2008 05:22 KlaCkoN wrote:
Know what you want first, then make sure she finds out what you want.
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On August 23 2008 03:27 Hypnosis wrote:Show nested quote +On August 23 2008 03:23 XCetron wrote:On August 23 2008 03:19 shavingcream66 wrote:
yeah girls rarely initiate, life is not like a beautiful korean drama Its not like japanese anime either, take it from me. Yea they dont like being tied up and shit.
THAT'S what I did wrong!!! No wonder she dumped me..
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She looks alot like that girl from matchstick men,are they related?
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Put yourselves in a situation where you're sitting side by side. Hold her hands as if you're just being nice and affectionate (not sure if this is the right word in english) and not paying much attention on it while talking about something else. If she holds your hand back, you can be 100% sure that if you try to kiss her she will kiss you back. So just get closer and closer, you'll feel safer and safer till you're safe/confident enough and go for it!
Easiest way if you're shy ^^ you don't really need to either look directly at her face or talk directly about it. Just holding her hands will tell you everything you need to know.
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Lilah's the cute one right?
nice
good luck and don't sweat it, you'll be fine
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Thanks thanks, that's lot of good advice. Let's see how it turns tomorrow
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On August 23 2008 04:20 semioldguy wrote:
Don't tell her you like her straight up, and don't use the 'relationship' word or bf/gf. I'd say try to escalate things physically. Whatever that means to you, holding hands, kissing, grabbing her butt, etc. Also don't ask "can I hold you hand?" just take her hand in yours without saying anything or say "hey, give me your hand." This shows confidence that you know what you want. If you get physical and she likes you & is receptive, she will eventually bring up the topic of commitment. You shouldn't ever have to.
Do not bring up the topic of a relationship. None of that "where is this going now?" or "I like you" crap. Just pretend that you are in one and proceed accordingly until she brings it up first. Then you can talk about it.
This is exactly what I would do and the advice that I think you should follow. Don't say, "hai wil u b my gf plz." You should act like she is already your girlfriend.
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From how you describe it, she is pratically your girlfriend already. Good luck!
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