EPTResponse to Girl Problem Threads - Page 2
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Klogon
MURICA15980 Posts
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Cpt Obvious
Germany3073 Posts
This is the social equivalent of theorycraft :/ A for effort, E for usefulness. | ||
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OverTheUnder
United States2929 Posts
On June 01 2007 04:22 Cpt Obvious wrote: If it only were this easy, I'd have gotten some lately. This is the social equivalent of theorycraft :/ A for effort, E for usefulness. well obviously if you aren't very good looking then you need to lower your expectations of girls:O (look wise) | ||
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Skew
United States1019 Posts
On June 01 2007 06:59 OverTheUnder wrote: well obviously if you aren\'t very good looking then you need to lower your expectations of girls:O (look wise) that couldn\'t be further from the truth. i have many ugly friends (most of them are fat, too) that have cuter girlfriends than ill ever have simply because of their insanely quick personalities and the ability to talk about absolutely nothing and have everyone love every second of it (id trade a fucking arm to do this). these abilities are far more rare and desirable than looks, in this day and age. | ||
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OverTheUnder
United States2929 Posts
On June 01 2007 12:16 Skew wrote: that couldn't be further from the truth. i have many ugly friends (most of them are fat, too) that have cuter girlfriends than ill ever have simply because of their insanely quick personalities and the ability to talk about absolutely nothing and have everyone love every second of it (id trade a fucking arm to do this). these abilities are far more rare and desirable than looks, in this day and age. good for them:D Some guys can get good looking girls with a great personality alone, but that is hardly the majority. Maybe I'm just being shallow, but I know a lot of hot girls that wouldn't go out with an ugly guy even if they had a 10/10 personality. Many people require a "minimum" in both personality and looks;o edit: I could definitely see girls putting more weight on personality than guys though. | ||
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
But yea, I wouldn't try too hard if i was an ugly guy and I wanted a hot girl and she just isn't attracted to my personality =p. | ||
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Hydrolisko
Vanuatu1659 Posts
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Stygg
Sweden1100 Posts
you're taking pity on tl.net ^_^ guys, this is not a bible, don't read too much into this and wonder where you went wrong if things still fail. the main point still is, be natural, be yourself, play your own assets to the max and don't try to play out a character that you are not. You'll be fine. There is no rule that you should lean into the girl 90% before she's willing to kiss you, lol. be natural, be yourself. I could say it over and over again a thousand times to pound it into everyone's heads. That's what girls like. play your own assets, not someone else's. genuinely good post tho mnm | ||
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xM(Z
Romania5296 Posts
if she wants one guy can't she (you) just go to him and start a conversation?; or she will have better chances just wearing a sumary outfit + some flirtation, innuendoes, tricks and gimmicks.... from your experience and taking in to accout the needs/wants of both parties, in what situation a guy and a girl became friends/lovers more often: when the guy makes the first move or viceversa? (i realize that the guy usually makes the first move but that is still a valid question). can you see your self in a situation like that?. would you approach a guy you like?  . if not, why wouldn't you do it? | ||
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
ideally the attraction between two people will cause them to gravitate to each other and thus this mutual want to hang out with each other will cause them to spend much time together and technically both parties put in the same amount of effort. luckily, a lot of my experience has been like that.. and these experiences turn out to be the best and more successful ones. the guy usually initiates taking the relationship to the next level though. i do approach guys i like. i don't wait until i obsess over him from a distance like a lot of guys do. the sparks show in conversation. maybe i do make moves and i don't even notice it. i have a tendency to balance out the guy of interest though. if i see that the guy i am interested in might be interested in me, my interest for him grows to match what seems to be his level of interest in me. if the guy i am interested in doesnt have as much interest in me, my interest in him tends to dwindle. i don't really understand why you would want to go out with someone who doesn't like you. for many passive guys, i see the trend of the guy taking a humungous interest in a girl and obsessing over it while he watches her from afar. many times the girl doesn't even know of the guy. this imbalance tends to doom the relationship from the start because the passive guy, if he makes a move, ends up looking very needy and desparate and scares the girl away. i keep telling these guys not to think too much, go with the flow. its best to learn how to read situations and let (controlled) feelings drive your actions. | ||
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xM(Z
Romania5296 Posts
a person can initially reject another, from various reasons which may not include the fact that he does not like you; and from this if i see that the guy i am interested in might be interested in me, my interest for him grows to match what seems to be his level of interest in me. if the guy i am interested in doesnt have as much interest in me, my interest in him tends to dwindle. i understood that you quit pretty easy or at least you do not bother much. i personally prefer a healthy obsession opposed to a quid pro quo friendship/love fling. | ||
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mnm
United States4493 Posts
i dont actively suppress my desires. i actively act upon my desires. the amount of attraction shown by both parties play a big role in the resulting bond between the two. if i am interested in a guy and he shows interest in me, my interest in him grows since i know there is a good possibility of progressing. if im interested in a guy and he shows no interest in me, my interest in him diminishes because i am not as attracted to someone who has no interest in me. i suppose my liking just adapts well to circumstances. | ||
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xM(Z
Romania5296 Posts
passion is premature when you just meet a person. romantic obsession over someone you don't even know makes no sense. that is the diference between a girl and a guy; a girl needs to be swept off her feet (bullshited a little) for the passion to emerge a guy does not; he can have pure passion at first then later after he sees how many needs you have (things that needed to be met) for building that passion he kind of quits, becomes more shallow. it's like after a guy tells a girl he likes her immediately she needs to know why: is it her looks, her brain, her personality, her body...etc; upon finding out (IF there is a specific trait the guy likes) she tends to ruin it with to much 'attention' (flaunt). romantic obssesion is the shit when you know where to draw the line. sometimes is better to try your best then hope for the best. it saves you a lot of remorse. i suppose my liking just adapts well to circumstances. did you ever thought of dictate those circumstances?. also didn't girls suppose to have more elaborate feelings, a recognised intuition, a natural ability to read men (faces); after all that why do you need your passion to be awoken? you have from the start the means to weigh someones worth. is it that your so called passion is only your vanity and the guy your mirror?. | ||
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[IrIs]YellOw
Sweden91 Posts
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ToT)MidiaN(
England2183 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32097 Posts
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CharlieMurphy
United States22895 Posts
PS- I am just curious, How would you rate me on your scales (I can take any negatives, be honest) | ||
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decafchicken
United States20089 Posts
ugly approach seems like way too much work T_T | ||
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CubEdIn
Romania5359 Posts
 But seriously. I think this is very mean. It's more in the attitude, if you're not seriously ugly that is. At least that's what I noticed around here. Take me for example (seriously this time): I'm usually a shy individual, and I tend to lean towards long-lasting relationships. But now and then, when I go out with some of my friends, I just feel like acting different for some reason, and just be really impulsive. I don't LIKE meeting girls in clubs but if I feel like it I can just "fake" some of my friends' personalities, and act all confident, make moves, cut corners, etc. And 60% of the time it works ALL the time! Now I may not do this often, but if there's one thing i know for sure is that looking confident and acting like you know the girl wants you badly (even if she doesn't), maybe even be cocky... works. | ||
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