EPTEverything was fine till I found out she slept with some random guy at a party. Felt like a punch to the gut.
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Zealos
United Kingdom3575 Posts
Everything was fine till I found out she slept with some random guy at a party. Felt like a punch to the gut. | ||
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qotsager
Germany585 Posts
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Pangpootata
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If it was before, then you made a good decision. If it was after, she has the right to do it as she is no longer in any relationship. No reason to continue feeling bad. | ||
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Fishgle
United States2174 Posts
Don't know what else to say. It's kind of an illogical, unavoidable reaction, I think. Or at least, that's been my experience. As cliche as it sounds, try to be happy for her. If she found someone new, that means you can too. And if your relationship wasn't working anyway, you're both better off. Call up some friends. Grab some beers. Watch some Starcraft. Life goes on. Hope this is at all helpful. Cheers. | ||
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Zealos
United Kingdom3575 Posts
On February 16 2014 15:39 Pangpootata wrote: Was that before or after you broke up? If it was before, then you made a good decision. If it was after, she has the right to do it as she is no longer in any relationship. No reason to continue feeling bad. Oh no, she didn't do anything wrong, she totally is in the right here, don't get me wrong. It just fucking sucks x.x | ||
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Zealos
United Kingdom3575 Posts
On February 16 2014 15:57 Fishgle wrote: but saying "she didn't want me" is a fuckin' horrifying realization. Yeah, that's about right. Eh, having a mini-LAN with a few mates tonight, so I think I'll be ok. The annoying part is that she didn't find someone new, she just had random sex at a party. | ||
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Pangpootata
1838 Posts
On February 16 2014 16:23 Zealos wrote: Yeah, that's about right. Eh, having a mini-LAN with a few mates tonight, so I think I'll be ok. The annoying part is that she didn't find someone new, she just had random sex at a party. The fact that she had random sex at a party so soon after the breakup obviously means that she has been severely affected by it. It could be that the breakup left her with a huge emotional void and she resorted to sleeping around to feel wanted by other guys. It could be that she wanted to have "bounceback" sex to prove that she could do without you or something. Either way, it stands that she hasn't gotten over you, if not she would have just proceeded along with her life normally instead of exhibiting such behaviour beyond her normal patterns. You could try taking that as a compliment rather than bashing yourself up over it. | ||
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Zealos
United Kingdom3575 Posts
On February 16 2014 17:02 Pangpootata wrote: The fact that she had random sex at a party so soon after the breakup obviously means that she has been severely affected by it. It could be that the breakup left her with a huge emotional void and she resorted to sleeping around to feel wanted by other guys. It could be that she wanted to have "bounceback" sex to prove that she could do without you or something. Either way, it stands that she hasn't gotten over you, if not she would have just proceeded along with her life normally instead of exhibiting such behaviour beyond her normal patterns. You could try taking that as a compliment rather than bashing yourself up over it. I dunno man, I think she's always been very sexually active, so I wouldn't put it past being normal behavior. Certainly there is an element of reboundyness though. | ||
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
On the subject of her rebounding, yeah it's a sign of her missing you and feeling like she can't keep the relationships she creates, so she tries to emulate the intimacy she just lost. You can be pretty sure that this is a sign of her not being over you. | ||
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Japhybaby
Canada301 Posts
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CatNzHat
United States1599 Posts
On February 16 2014 15:39 Pangpootata wrote: Was that before or after you broke up? If it was before, then you made a good decision. If it was after, she has the right to do it as she is no longer in any relationship. No reason to continue feeling bad. She always had the 'right' to do whatever the fuck she wanted, you don't own someone because you're in a relationship with them. | ||
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Pangpootata
1838 Posts
On February 17 2014 06:13 CatNzHat wrote: She always had the 'right' to do whatever the fuck she wanted, you don't own someone because you're in a relationship with them. There is an unwritten contract between two people in a romantic relationship that they do not have sex with anyone else. Of course one could still do it, but it constitutes a breach of contract. | ||
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itsMAHVELbaybee
292 Posts
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Zealos
United Kingdom3575 Posts
On February 17 2014 06:13 CatNzHat wrote: She always had the 'right' to do whatever the fuck she wanted, you don't own someone because you're in a relationship with them. you've got issues i think | ||
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