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On October 18 2013 06:14 wingpawn wrote:Symptoms:Neediness, emotional instabilty, overthinking, on-line whining. Most likely diagnose:"Too-much-in-love" syndrome. Treatment:Wait 2-3 months till the hormone levels balance back to normal. Possible complications:Paranoia, anxiety disorder, absurd proposals, turning into this. Epidemiology:Not contagious, but extremely common. Manifests with annoyance of people who contact infected individual.
OP read the post I'm quoting every day, multiple times a day if you have to. Women don't like neediness, and her not answering calls/texts is very much deliberate to see if you're the kind of guy who can remain calm and collected or you're the kind of guy that turns into a turbo neediness train.
One is a good way to keep the relationship going a long time, the other is a good way to never see her again.
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She just doesn't love you. Say you want a break and don't talk to her for a couple of months to see if her feelings change.
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I'll be blunt here. But just bang her and the situation will reverse. It is all about hormone levels, and more so at your age.
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So how often do you guys generally spend with your girlfriends? I know it varies but I was of the opinion a lot spent every day, and a few saw them once or twice a month.
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On October 18 2013 07:10 obesechicken13 wrote:
So how often do you guys generally spend with your girlfriends? I know it varies but I was of the opinion a lot spent every day, and a few saw them once or twice a month.
My girlfriend's work schedule is different from mine. She works during the daytime, and by the time she gets off, I might have, at most, an hour before I go into work for the whole evening. When I get off work (around 10pm), she's usually in bed or is only up for another hour. We've compromised to using our weekends for each other, and having at least one day in the middle of the week to hang out in the evening. She calls that day "miss-you-wednesday" because it's in the middle of the week lol
Sooo, at least 3 days a week I see my girlfriend, and we're okay with that.
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OP, please read this http://markmanson.net/everything-you-need and digest it. Like everyone else has said, you are way too fucking needy - this needs to change. However, that said, every person has varying degrees of emotional needs. If you want to spend say twice a week with her, and she still can't fit you into her schedule then you need to address the issue to her in a mature and honest way. If she still can't make a compromise then it's time to move on. In your case though, it's pretty clear you're too attached and not independent enough.
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You're not in love but you're needy as hell
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On October 18 2013 06:56 Shauni wrote:
She just doesn't love you. Say you want a break and don't talk to her for a couple of months to see if her feelings change.
OP, don't listen to this guy. If you want to know why, just ask some of the guys who know him from the TL IRC, or just click on the blog button on his posts and read the girl blog one, as well as his posts in that blog. He has no real experience with girls, has consistently offered bad advice and probably has some very real mental issues pertaining to women. Either that or he's an extremely persistent troll.
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On October 18 2013 07:18 IronManSC wrote:Show nested quote +On October 18 2013 07:10 obesechicken13 wrote:
So how often do you guys generally spend with your girlfriends? I know it varies but I was of the opinion a lot spent every day, and a few saw them once or twice a month. My girlfriend's work schedule is different from mine. She works during the daytime, and by the time she gets off, I might have, at most, an hour before I go into work for the whole evening. When I get off work (around 10pm), she's usually in bed or is only up for another hour. We've compromised to using our weekends for each other, and having at least one day in the middle of the week to hang out in the evening. She calls that day "miss-you-wednesday" because it's in the middle of the week lol Sooo, at least 3 days a week I see my girlfriend, and we're okay with that.
this is so sweet ;~;
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Yeah, relax please!
Come on dude, everyone needs there space. Do you have any hobbies (im guessing maybe SC2). Play something, just text or ring her daily instead. Being needy becomes a problem as people get annoyed, especially the female race, damn son! They are a confusing species, plus school, has ALOT of half term and time off, just wait until weekends or half terms, if she doesn't want to meet you then, you need to ask questions.
Just chillz
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On October 18 2013 10:52 hp.Shell wrote:
Have you had sex yet?
I meet this girl at a christian canoe weekend trip,
I believe in Christianity as I believe in the sun: not only because I see it, but by it I see everything else- C.S. Lewis
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On October 18 2013 12:57 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote:Show nested quote +On October 18 2013 06:56 Shauni wrote:
She just doesn't love you. Say you want a break and don't talk to her for a couple of months to see if her feelings change. OP, don't listen to this guy. If you want to know why, just ask some of the guys who know him from the TL IRC, or just click on the blog button on his posts and read the girl blog one, as well as his posts in that blog. He has no real experience with girls, has consistently offered bad advice and probably has some very real mental issues pertaining to women. Either that or he's an extremely persistent troll.
Yeah can you not give advice shauni that would be great
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Thanks for advice, but I guess it was already to late...
We broke up already. She lost feelings for me because of some things. Didn't know it could go like this...
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You know the stories of people meeting each other, falling in love at first sight, each of them in their first relationship, then going problem-free to the point when they're married two years later? Yeah, that's pretty rare. It would be silly to expect that of anyone.
Your first few relationships always feel like they're going to be the one, and it always surprises you when they turn out not to be.
It's part of life. Be sad for a while, then pick yourself up and move on. ^_^
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firebolt is completely right. Don't worry bout it and next time you meet a girl relax a bit more 
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On October 19 2013 01:10 MateShade wrote:Show nested quote +On October 18 2013 12:57 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote:On October 18 2013 06:56 Shauni wrote:
She just doesn't love you. Say you want a break and don't talk to her for a couple of months to see if her feelings change. OP, don't listen to this guy. If you want to know why, just ask some of the guys who know him from the TL IRC, or just click on the blog button on his posts and read the girl blog one, as well as his posts in that blog. He has no real experience with girls, has consistently offered bad advice and probably has some very real mental issues pertaining to women. Either that or he's an extremely persistent troll. Yeah can you not give advice shauni that would be great
Who was most correct in advice? Assholes... I know more about girls than you no life neets.
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On October 19 2013 17:21 ThePhan2m wrote:
Thanks for advice, but I guess it was already to late...
We broke up already. She lost feelings for me because of some things. Didn't know it could go like this...
Dude I'm sorry to kick you when you're down but you need to get your shit together before trying again. Otherwise it will just end like this every other time as well.
A lot of people here have told you valuable things. Take them to your heart and try working on it.
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On October 18 2013 07:04 Ender985 wrote:
I'll be blunt here. But just bang her and the situation will reverse. It is all about hormone levels, and more so at your age.
He might actually become more needy afterwards tho rofl.
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The having sex early before the awkward neediness stage can really help. Sometimes the other person gets a bit needy as well. Or am I wrong?
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