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warning: post maybe long and somewhat hard to follow, I had many thoughts in my head, and I needed to clarify them, and I think that by actually writting everything I would get a better idea to organize my head and thoughts and create solutions. thanks!
in the world of dating that is...
I recently moved back to Colombia, I was living in usa. I have been here for 2 months now.. Im living in a small town now, its a big change from my west palm beach, fl life...but its nice! the town is somewhat rural, and still "safe"... anyways..
I never considered myself a "natural" altough some things did come by instict not many tho but some.. a few years ago I would say 5 or 6 the book the game by neil s got into my hands, altough it was not life changing like it is for some, it did open my eyes to many thing i had never thought about ...It got me into reading alot about woman sicology and way of thinking.. after a lot of research I improved my game a TON and I see results ..ended up getting very srs with a girl and dated her for a long time and even almost married her so I got away from all the dating scene..but anyways, a lot of the stuff I learned worked quite well with american chicks, it actually seemed just like I could always use the same openers, same approach and same story telling and it would work most of the time lol, but it made feel somewhat fake in the inside, because I wasnt really being myself, but it worked so I never gave it too much thought about it.
Anyways, I know woman sicology is almost universal, but now that Im down here in colombia I started going out a lot and back into the meeting girls dating scence. I have been using routines that I know from heart now, and they somewhat work, but im not being able to close the deal here. I had many dates so far, and only 1 sucessfull finish..
So today while being hungover and a lil pissed because last night didnt go so well with my date I started analyzing things.
so far I am able down here to:
meet and approach with no problem
create conversations
number close
set dates
now this is the point where I seem to be failing. i havent been able to build the trust level, create the sexual tension (in a good way) and close the deal.
At first I thought it had to do with woman down here being more conservative( we are a catholic country after all) and them waiting to be more srs before they sleep with me or whatever, but now I really think its just an excuse im finding myself to feel better.
Im doing something wrong.
I know im struggleling with Physical progression (kino) because Im not quite what this colombian girls seem acceptable or not ( I grew up in the USA im pretty much a gringo lol).
After much thinking, and observation, I come to the 1st conclusion, most of the kino here happens while dancing. you dance you dance you dance and you have physical progression. the problem is, Im a colombian gringo who doesnt know how to dance FML
but Im gonna start working on that tomorrow. I will start a lesson or whatever but Im gonna learn
I think im being too arrogant or cocky, which is fine in the us but here it seems like it comes out completly off. I need to have a better way to do qualifiers and portrait myself without seeming to cocky and more funny and DHV
Also I know my confidence and self esteem has gone down a bit. I was very fit and had a awesome body, but I been drinking very heavyly and eating like shit for like 6 months now, and I have a belly now, gained a ton of weight and I dont feel as good anymore.
again, starting tomorrow I will start eating clean and working out,
and also I brought a good point, Im gonna step down my drinking especially out on dates, woman here are more cautius and dont drink as much, I guess because security wise and our culture.. while in the usa sometimes I would get totally shit face with my date lol
and finally I need to buy a car, it kinda sucks, but materilistic things do play a huge part here. and me going everywhere in taxy lowers my social value, or at least is what I am seeing. (i know i know you would say why would u date a bitch that cares what u drive... but some are so hot I want to bang them lol )
anyways Im going to use this blog to write and analize the changes Im going to implement. its a way to actually set my goals on paper and have a little more motivation and discipline towards it.
cliffs:
-moved to colombia
-dates with girls not going as I would like
-need changes
-will work on changing things
-will blog about it
edit: i guess a blog with no pics is boring, here is a pic of last night that was taken at the club we went.
![[image loading]](https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/q86/1003514_405586169541276_779832984_n.jpg)
Im the guy in the black armani t shirt and the chick in the blonde. my german friend to my left, and some random characters/promoters from the club lol
  
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I would guess that Colombians are perhaps more concerned with physical appearance seeing as they are quite a 'physically impressive' set of people. Perhaps you need to work on your body rather than just your game? Then again, I have absolutely no grand idea as I've only met a handful of colombians and venezuelans.
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Yeah I really didnt think it was that much big of a deal for guys, it deff it for girls. They are pressured hardcore because every club you go to you see chicks with perfect fake tits and ass, as plastic sugery is so commun here.
It used to be for guys that you over compensate your physical appearance with power and money, you would see some fat guys with hot ass girlfriends, but they drove nice cars and hung out at the best vip lounges. But now it seems that with the economy doing so much better and woman having so much more opportinities, its changing. One of my good friends used to be a cop here, and is really in good, dude has little money but he is such a natural so far I been herere I seen him bang 5 hot hot chicks all with just looks and game no money. Thats what i want to get near.
Also After meditating a lot. I do have to regognize that my game went to shit the 1st month that I was here. I came here with a good amount of money and I started partying very heavily, but getting a lot of what we call "prepaids" or call girls. It was amazing to me that with $100 dollars you could get a hot ass chick to hang out for the night and bang. This has such a new feeling to me lol ( as in the US prostitues are completly gross nasty drug addicts, and I was never in that scene) and here I was renting the vip suite of a motel getting a couple bottles of whiskey and calling 2-3 of those girls and partying all night with hot prepaids and only spending like 500-600 bucks . ( keep in mind that for example going out in miami, 500 bucks in only 1 bottle of whiskey ina nice club such as club 50 or even space)..so this got me in the habit of just money talks and being involved with this chicks, I even became friends with a couple of them, they are studying law in a well known university here lol. But it deff ruined my game as it made me lazy, and actually took my patience away, cus now I feel that if a chick didnt sleep with me on the 1st night I was doing something wrong..
So I need more patience, more seduction, and having the option to go on date 3-5 dates and then reevaluate the situation.
Anyways:
Changes of today:
I started eating clean. Had a nice healthy breakfast.
Im going to start the Saun T work out program call T25. its a series of videos of hardcore cardio and HIIT training 25 minutes a day. today will be day 1. I have done insanity before, so i kinda know what to expect.
Im gonna give up smoking cigs while Im not drinking alcohol. and Im going to lower my alcohol intake big time. ( currently Im drinking thursday to saturday every week) now I want to be 1 day out of the weekend only.
and I will pick up on my reading habits. currently finishing the monk who sold his ferrari.
and since I will be doing some public contracts here with the goverment Im gonna pick up a few contractors books and law books of the system here in colombia.
Ok dating wise:
I have a new target. I on the side here sell brand name merchandise ( lacoste tommy hugo boss etc) that I brought from the US. I use BBM as a tool to get costumers and send pics of clothes etc ( black berry messenger). I also have a facebook page with details.Well This chick added me on BBM and asked some questions regarding a digital camera she saw I was advertising. I gave her the info without thinking too much. Later on as I was working on my leads, I reviewed her convo and saw her profile pic. She was beautiful. Im very attracted to this girl, so I decided to see if she liked my page on facebook, and she did so I creeped her profile lol, and confirmed she was hot and that I was attracted to her in all her pics. So my mind was set, I would have to meet and go out with this chick. I started thinking how I was going to approach this, so I reconnected with her based on the digital camera, and started the conversation based on that. while this was going on I had a business trip to cartagena, which is a very turist beach spot in colombia, while talking to her I was there and she asked me to bring her a little something suvenier gift or whatever, usually I never buy girls things or pay for dinner etc before I actually sleep with them. But I knew this was the chance for me to actually set up a meeting with her without seeming too creepy or desperate. I told her that I might bring her something if I remembered as I was going to be too busy haha. so I bought her a victoria secret lotion, (they are very well valued here). Saturday I was back in town and started talking to her again, and she asked me did you bring me something? and I said yeah a lil something.and followed that i was going to go out wo eat with some friends and we could meet after words..she actually agreed. (i never seen her in person yet)... we arranged a meeting at a mall, I went there with 3 friends, we ate, and waited for her.. she actually made me wait over 30 mins for her arrival, I was growing a lil inpatience and was thinking she wasnt going to show up, but eventually she did. She said she was too shy to come to my group of friends, so she asked to me meet her by myself, she brought her sister with her, ( wow sister of fucking hot too) we started talking and walking and I wasnt too sure of how she felt, but then bang she gave a sign of interest, she asked to sit down with her and her sister on a starbucks type of of thing and have coffee with her ( she paid) we talked for like 30 mins, ( i gave her sister more attention than to her) and that kinda worked cus she started quilifiing herself towards me and agree ona lot of things I said. ( another sign of interest). anyways, I had plans already to go out with my friends, so I asked them to join ( mistake number 1) she said her sister was going out with other ppl and she didnt feel well enough to go out so they rejected my invitation. at this point my cell was going off with messages of my friends cus I was taking too long. and I saw this as a perfect way to make my exit, right before I left I gace her the bag with the gift. she thanked me, and said to keep in touch. and I left...after wards I made mistake number 2. but with a lil pressure from my friends, they kept insiting that I wirte to her again to convince to go out with us that night, so I looked at my phone and she had wrote thanks again for the present I really liked it etc, and once again i asked her to go out with us. whichs she kindly rejected once again. ...
Thoughts so far:
-while taking to her via text, I have to come up very creating ways because she gets bored of texting quick, and suddenly stops replying. I tested this by enganing in "normal" text and comparing when enganging in " very good text opners and stories"
-I need to deff set an actual date with her. But it has to be something different that the regular movies or dinner. I need something fun like a fair or something different.
-she gets lots of attention from guys on her fb. her pics have over 50+ likes and many comments of guys complementing her. SO I think I should use a lot of negs, and disqualifiers. but I run the risk again of coming off like a douche and too cocky. it has to be well balanced.
-then I somehow must seem like a challenge for her, but I need to get her at least on the date get her interested then ignore her and pay her no attention for a couple of days.
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reading alot about woman sicology
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If you misspell psychology as "sicology", I'm fairly certain you were not actually reading about it.
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eak spelling is not my strongest thing, but your right as a courtesy I should've ran a spell check and post. its the least I could do.
From now on all post will go to word for spelling errors
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