Get your ex back! (discuss) - Page 2

Najda

United States3765 Posts

January 16 2013 18:50 GMT

#21

On January 16 2013 16:00 spaceghostcoast wrote:
Okay, most of your "steps" are solid advice for getting over someone post-breakup... but the whole point in doing most of that stuff is to get over your ex, not win them back. Don't get me wrong, I can understand wanting to get back together with an ex, but considering that you said she wasn't in love with you anymore AND is seeing another guy... why? I'm sure getting back together works for some people, but this situation sounds like a terrible idea that won't end well. She's dating someone else, and now y'all are messing around behind the other guy's back; sounds like you're gonna end up the side dude with hurt feelings. If I were you I'd re-think this "challenge." Just move on completely, or if you really feel that you must be together, at least wait until she's single to try to get her back.

By the time you are done with step 3 I think you'd be in the right mindset to decide whether or not it's worth going after again. I think step 0 should come after step 3, but 1-3 should be done regardless.

RanDomFox

United States84 Posts

January 16 2013 19:15 GMT

#22

speaking from experience, never get back with your ex. NEVER.

Jellicent

Germany23 Posts

January 16 2013 19:34 GMT

#23

What about a male ex? Blowjobs won't fix it, or? (I hope you get that I'm not serious about the second question.)

By the way, what the hell. If she's a at least a bit grown-up in her head she should choose a deep and thoughtful conversation about your (past) relationship about any of that .. I don't know, backing off? If a guy would back off I'd interpret that he doesn't want me.
Be straight up and don't give signals that have to be decoded first. Who wants a fucking wifi that you don't have the key to, really.

Step 0: Figure out if this girl is worth it
This isn’t going to be easy. In fact it’s going to be very difficult. Figure out if this girl is worth it, and that you’re not merely rationalizing, thinking that she’s the best you can get. Do some soul searching, figure out why you guys broke up, and figure out why you want her.

Step 1: Cut off all contact from

her
I think I was pretty clear about this. Being too rare is not good. Sure, a bit time off will be good for both. But if you want to be together both need their space, learn that beforehand.

Step 2: Improve yours

elf
Improving yourself for YOURSELF is always good. No matter the situation actually.

Step 3: Forget about

her
Wait, why would you get into the mindset of not needing her? Why would you want her back then? If you love somebody, you are always at least a tiny bit needy. Because love makes you vulnerable. Deal with it. Cause it kind of sounds like you have to be a literally darn cool guy to be able to date a woman properly.
It's always about give and take, so, if she wants you back, too, she also lets YOU back into HER life. Just picking this out.

Step 4: Wait for the right time

You'll get to know when the right time comes. No rules for this.
It was 7 years later for me.

I'm not trying to be an arse here, just adding my 2 cents. If you mean what you wrote, literally: Personally I think it sounds dull. And I don't think it will work out like that.

Edit: Psychological fact: You cannot "forget". Not even amnesia is "forgetting". It's just fucking manipulating the damn partition so you can't access it any more for your own safety because trauma. (At least that's what I heard.

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