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So well I need a place to rant cus my innards aren't feeling too good atm.
I'm in a relationship with a really nice and sweet girl my age, she's got the looks and everything physical but what I can't fucking comprehend is that after 4 and a half month I'm starting to loose interest in her.
It's not the first time it happend, but the other time it was caused by myself being depressed for a weeks time, which happens to me from time to time..
However, back then I was able to assure myself that it was because of me and my own fucked up mind that made me a depressed fuck, not the relationship between me and my GF, this time is just more plain out painful that I'm loosing interest and really consider breaking up..
And the fucking plainful thing is that it's obvious to me that she's in love with me and I don't wanna hurt her.
Now I know what most of you who read this is gonna think: "Man the fuck up and get it out of the world" - well yeah I intend to face-to-face even as I want to ease the shock for her, problem is that I have no real opportunity to meet her in person, got dumped once before over a text and I'm not gonna do it over a text, that's for fucking certain.
So why have I no opportunity to meet her? Wellp cus she's studying for her oral exams (which I don't have any of this year).
And god fucking damn it, as I write this I manage to make her said by saying that people could get the impression that she was easy cus of her looks.
Fuck
My
Life
Of course she's gonna misunderstand that, why the fuck now.
Ah well back on topic, what really fucks me up is that I want to get this shit out of the way and I dont want to fuck over her exams, but guess I'll have to.
Good, I hope that next time I write a (girl) blog it'll be at a happy occasion
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Tl:DR
-guy gets bored of dating girl after 4 months
-guy fucks her over
sounds pretty good to me, are you perhaps losing interest because you haven't clapped them cheeks yet?
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On June 13 2012 05:13 Ushio wrote:
Tl:DR
-guy gets bored of dating girl after 4 months
-guy fucks her over
sounds pretty good to me, are you perhaps losing interest because you haven't clapped them cheeks yet?
You have things backward. That is the point when guys begin to lose interest.
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On June 13 2012 05:13 Ushio wrote:
Tl:DR
-guy gets bored of dating girl after 4 months
-guy fucks her over
sounds pretty good to me, are you perhaps losing interest because you haven't clapped them cheeks yet?
If you can in here to be an asshole and piss me off you succeeded, I'm emotional as fuck and when half my blog was about me not wanting to fuck her over?
Read the fucking blog instead of being an ass.
And I dont know what you mean about "haven't clapped them cheeks"? What?
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[QUOTE]On June 13 2012 05:29 Iplaythings wrote:
[QUOTE]On June 13 2012 05:13 Ushio wrote:
And I dont know what you mean about "haven't clapped them cheeks"? What?[/QUOTE]
according to Cha Cha
"When a girl has large enough butt cheeks, she can spread them and bring them back together, making a clapping noise."
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On June 13 2012 05:38 Whitley wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2012 05:29 Iplaythings wrote:On June 13 2012 05:13 Ushio wrote:
And I dont know what you mean about "haven't clapped them cheeks"? What? according to Cha Cha "When a girl has large enough butt cheeks, she can spread them and bring them back together, making a clapping noise."
.. Physically she's close to perfect except that she uses too much make up for my taste, but I'm a damn hippie anyways
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You sound like your really immature. grow up.
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Hmmmmm. Something you should consider:
If she is someone who compartmentalizes well (i.e. problems in one aspect of her life has little to no effect on other aspects of her life), then you should break up with her ASAP. It might sound harsh, but it's sometimes not so bad, if she is the type of person who can throw herself into studying for her exams so much that it'll lessen the pain of the break-up.
If she doesn't compartmentalize well, I highly, highly advise you wait. You will end up fucking her over emotionally and academically.
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a lot of what youre saying is all over the place. you like her, you say mean things, shes super attractive, she really likes me, you want to break up, shes in the middle of exams and you dont want to hurt her feelings, but youre bored. there doesnt seem to be a clear picture, makes it hard for readers to say anything
tl;dr, break up with her after exams
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If you were in a relationship with someone when they had "grown bored" of you, would you want it to continue? No. A smaller pain now is better than a bigger pain later.
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On June 13 2012 05:48 Kojak21 wrote:
You sound like your really immature. grow up.
Thank you for providing me with some advice on how to be a better man, appreciated.
On June 13 2012 05:55 babylon wrote:
Hmmmmm. Something you should consider:
If she is someone who compartmentalizes well (i.e. problems in one aspect of her life has little to no effect on other aspects of her life), then you should break up with her ASAP. It might sound harsh, but it's sometimes not so bad, if she is the type of person who can throw herself into studying for her exams so much that it'll lessen the pain of the break-up.
If she doesn't compartmentalize well, I highly, highly advise you wait. You will end up fucking her over emotionally and academically.
Yeah I'm at the same conclusion, but well as I know her I don't know how she reacts to immense emotional stress
thanks for your input, feels good having someone mirroring your thoughts
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well yeah I intend to face-to-face even as I want to ease the shock for her, problem is that I have no real opportunity to meet her in person, got dumped once before over a text and I'm not gonna do it over a text, that's for fucking certain.
So is this a LDR to some extent?
If so is that potentially part of the reason you are feeling "bored", kinda hard to feel as interested in someone if you rarely get to see them much.
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Unless you have a pressing interest in dating someone new before her exams are over, I would just quietly wait until she's through with those. It sounds like you wouldn't get to see her in person until then anyway.
From my own experience, breaking up in the middle of finals or midterms is the worst idea in the world. Did that freshman year of uni and stayed up the whole night crying. Next morning, walked into a test, circled random answers, left the essays blank, and walked out all of 10 minutes later. (Miraculously got a 33% lulz.) It's not that I hadn't known the materials, I simply could not think about anything except my break up and how tired I was and that I wanted to get home and cry more.
If you can't wait-- life doesn't arrange shitty events around everything else going on. If you care about her as a person try to make it until her exams are over.
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On June 13 2012 06:02 L_Master wrote:Show nested quote +well yeah I intend to face-to-face even as I want to ease the shock for her, problem is that I have no real opportunity to meet her in person, got dumped once before over a text and I'm not gonna do it over a text, that's for fucking certain. So is this a LDR to some extent? If so is that potentially part of the reason you are feeling "bored", kinda hard to feel as interested in someone if you rarely get to see them much.
Not in the slightest, I was in love with her for good 5 months in total and now it's fading, I'm still considering giving it a few days to think it through.
I suppose you could call it "bored" as the relationship has been kinda stale for the last 2 months.
But no, she lives 3 kilometres away (1½ mile) approx, it's just that her parent doesn't like her seeing people when she has exams coming up as she should study ( I think it's stupid for many reasons, but thats a different story)
On June 13 2012 06:03 RedJustice wrote:
Unless you have a pressing interest in dating someone new before her exams are over, I would just quietly wait until she's through with those. It sounds like you wouldn't get to see her in person until then anyway.
From my own experience, breaking up in the middle of finals or midterms is the worst idea in the world. Did that freshman year of uni and stayed up the whole night crying. Next morning, walked into a test, circled random answers, left the essays blank, and walked out all of 10 minutes later. (Miraculously got a 33% lulz.) It's not that I hadn't known the materials, I simply could not think about anything except my break up and how tired I was and that I wanted to get home and cry more.
If you can't wait-- life doesn't arrange shitty events around everything else going on. If you care about her as a person try to make it until her exams are over.
I dont have someone else, I just want it to be over with
On June 13 2012 05:56 Disposition1989 wrote:
a lot of what youre saying is all over the place. you like her, you say mean things, shes super attractive, she really likes me, you want to break up, shes in the middle of exams and you dont want to hurt her feelings, but youre bored. there doesnt seem to be a clear picture, makes it hard for readers to say anything
tl;dr, break up with her after exams
My mind is all over the place, as said I just needed to vent and help /advice if I could get it
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How long until exams are over? If it's not that long, I think you should just wait it out. It might feel kinda bad for you emotionally, but when you weigh the negatives of "staying together just for now" against "breaking up with her right now," I think there are more negative consequences for the latter on her side. It's not as if she'll fall even more madly in love with you if it's only just, say, one or two weeks until exams are over.
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On June 13 2012 06:16 babylon wrote:
How long until exams are over? If it's not that long, I think you should just wait it out. It might feel kinda bad for you emotionally, but when you weigh the negatives of "staying together just for now" against "breaking up with her right now," I think there are more negative consequences for the latter on her side. It's not as if she'll fall even more madly in love with you if it's only just, say, one or two weeks until exams are over.
Agreed.
Don't break up with her over exams, especially if you're not going to be seeing her anyway. It can wait and you could potentially fuck her up if you tell her why she's trying to study. If you're into the relationship anymore then yeah, say you need some time apart, like maybe that you want to date other people.
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On June 13 2012 06:30 Salv wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2012 06:16 babylon wrote:
How long until exams are over? If it's not that long, I think you should just wait it out. It might feel kinda bad for you emotionally, but when you weigh the negatives of "staying together just for now" against "breaking up with her right now," I think there are more negative consequences for the latter on her side. It's not as if she'll fall even more madly in love with you if it's only just, say, one or two weeks until exams are over. Agreed. Don't break up with her over exams, especially if you're not going to be seeing her anyway. It can wait and you could potentially fuck her up if you tell her why she's trying to study. If you're into the relationship anymore then yeah, say you need some time apart, like maybe that you want to date other people.
I suppose that'll have to do, ugh I suppose I cant do much about her texting me, but I'll manage.
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Sorry but "love" doesnt get bored with a person and want to ditch them. I detest when people throw the word that they love someone and proceed to in no way act that way or show it.
Man up and let her finish her exams before you fuck her over with your loving boredom.
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On June 13 2012 09:22 Synwave wrote:
Sorry but "love" doesnt get bored with a person and want to ditch them. I detest when people throw the word that they love someone and proceed to in no way act that way or show it.
Man up and let her finish her exams before you fuck her over with your loving boredom.
pretty much this.
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On June 13 2012 09:22 Synwave wrote:
Sorry but "love" doesnt get bored with a person and want to ditch them. I detest when people throw the word that they love someone and proceed to in no way act that way or show it.
Man up and let her finish her exams before you fuck her over with your loving boredom.
I doubt youre gonna check this but please do fucking note that I said I was starting to loose interest in her, poor choice of words that is, there's reasons for me not being in love with her anymore that I'd rather not put up this public, one thng is explaining "what is going to happen" another thing is "why does this happen" that's helluva more complicated.
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On June 13 2012 15:14 Iplaythings wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2012 09:22 Synwave wrote:
Sorry but "love" doesnt get bored with a person and want to ditch them. I detest when people throw the word that they love someone and proceed to in no way act that way or show it.
Man up and let her finish her exams before you fuck her over with your loving boredom. I doubt youre gonna check this but please do fucking note that I said I was starting to loose interest in her, poor choice of words that is, there's reasons for me not being in love with her anymore that I'd rather not put up this public, one thng is explaining "what is going to happen" another thing is "why does this happen" that's helluva more complicated.
Of course I will check it. If you only want to say partial things then you're going to have to expect people to respond in a way you find incorrect. The simple fact that you think you are in love with someone within a couple months, and then get bored with them a few months later means that you have no real concept of what love is.
You got infatuated, and now you arent. You can say how we the readers of your blog only know the partial truth and its helluva too complicated for us to understand your real reasons and that may or may not be true. Personally I dont buy it but giving you the benefit of the doubt still leaves me with the problem that I can only respond to what you did write, not some half hidden super truth that Im unaware of.
TLDR: You blogged, people responded, its public. Using the excuse that the readers dont know the whole truth is a cop out.
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On June 13 2012 15:34 Synwave wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2012 15:14 Iplaythings wrote:On June 13 2012 09:22 Synwave wrote:
Sorry but "love" doesnt get bored with a person and want to ditch them. I detest when people throw the word that they love someone and proceed to in no way act that way or show it.
Man up and let her finish her exams before you fuck her over with your loving boredom. I doubt youre gonna check this but please do fucking note that I said I was starting to loose interest in her, poor choice of words that is, there's reasons for me not being in love with her anymore that I'd rather not put up this public, one thng is explaining "what is going to happen" another thing is "why does this happen" that's helluva more complicated. Of course I will check it. If you only want to say partial things then you're going to have to expect people to respond in a way you find incorrect. The simple fact that you think you are in love with someone within a couple months, and then get bored with them a few months later means that you have no real concept of what love is. You got infatuated, and now you arent. You can say how we the readers of your blog only know the partial truth and its helluva too complicated for us to understand your real reasons and that may or may not be true. Personally I dont buy it but giving you the benefit of the doubt still leaves me with the problem that I can only respond to what you did write, not some half hidden super truth that Im unaware of. TLDR: You blogged, people responded, its public. Using the excuse that the readers dont know the whole truth is a cop out.
You got a point and you're right about what you say, sorry.
English isn't my first language so I suppose that's bound to create some misunderstandings (to me, in love = infatuated, etc.)
The reasons why I didn't go into the whole "why" is that it's hard for me to put words on it as it's just a gut feeling and I know I get frustrated when I get that as a response, and it didn't have much to do with why I made the blog.
Best way to describe is our relationship is becoming stale and progressless and she hasn't really done much to make it progress while she constantly wants to be in contact and I can't say "no, I want to be alone" without hurting her? Uhh it's tough as fuck to descrie and ariticulate - one of the reason why I didn't bothered with it in the first place.
Though you might disagree but emotions are a fucking random thing and can change from day to day which also includes who you love or not, I might get it confused though as I'm still young and this is my first GF in the teenage years - consider me an inexperienced fellow which alot of people who've responded has mentioned..
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This is probably a problem on her end. She stopped doing whatever it was that made you feel attracted to her
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On June 13 2012 16:56 Iplaythings wrote:Show nested quote +On June 13 2012 15:34 Synwave wrote:On June 13 2012 15:14 Iplaythings wrote:On June 13 2012 09:22 Synwave wrote:
Sorry but "love" doesnt get bored with a person and want to ditch them. I detest when people throw the word that they love someone and proceed to in no way act that way or show it.
Man up and let her finish her exams before you fuck her over with your loving boredom. I doubt youre gonna check this but please do fucking note that I said I was starting to loose interest in her, poor choice of words that is, there's reasons for me not being in love with her anymore that I'd rather not put up this public, one thng is explaining "what is going to happen" another thing is "why does this happen" that's helluva more complicated. Of course I will check it. If you only want to say partial things then you're going to have to expect people to respond in a way you find incorrect. The simple fact that you think you are in love with someone within a couple months, and then get bored with them a few months later means that you have no real concept of what love is. You got infatuated, and now you arent. You can say how we the readers of your blog only know the partial truth and its helluva too complicated for us to understand your real reasons and that may or may not be true. Personally I dont buy it but giving you the benefit of the doubt still leaves me with the problem that I can only respond to what you did write, not some half hidden super truth that Im unaware of. TLDR: You blogged, people responded, its public. Using the excuse that the readers dont know the whole truth is a cop out. You got a point and you're right about what you say, sorry. English isn't my first language so I suppose that's bound to create some misunderstandings (to me, in love = infatuated, etc.) The reasons why I didn't go into the whole "why" is that it's hard for me to put words on it as it's just a gut feeling and I know I get frustrated when I get that as a response, and it didn't have much to do with why I made the blog. Best way to describe is our relationship is becoming stale and progressless and she hasn't really done much to make it progress while she constantly wants to be in contact and I can't say "no, I want to be alone" without hurting her? Uhh it's tough as fuck to descrie and ariticulate - one of the reason why I didn't bothered with it in the first place. Though you might disagree but emotions are a fucking random thing and can change from day to day which also includes who you love or not, I might get it confused though as I'm still young and this is my first GF in the teenage years - consider me an inexperienced fellow which alot of people who've responded has mentioned..
Ah! Yeah you misusing infatuation with the word love did lead me to completely misunderstand your blog and responses. It makes a lot more sense now.
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On June 13 2012 05:06 Iplaythings wrote:
So well I need a place to rant cus my innards aren't feeling too good atm.
I'm in a relationship with a really nice and sweet girl my age, she's got the looks and everything physical but what I can't fucking comprehend is that after 4 and a half month I'm starting to loose interest in her.
It's not the first time it happend, but the other time it was caused by myself being depressed for a weeks time, which happens to me from time to time..
However, back then I was able to assure myself that it was because of me and my own fucked up mind that made me a depressed fuck, not the relationship between me and my GF, this time is just more plain out painful that I'm loosing interest and really consider breaking up..
And the fucking plainful thing is that it's obvious to me that she's in love with me and I don't wanna hurt her.
Now I know what most of you who read this is gonna think: "Man the fuck up and get it out of the world" - well yeah I intend to face-to-face even as I want to ease the shock for her, problem is that I have no real opportunity to meet her in person, got dumped once before over a text and I'm not gonna do it over a text, that's for fucking certain.
So why have I no opportunity to meet her? Wellp cus she's studying for her oral exams (which I don't have any of this year).
And god fucking damn it, as I write this I manage to make her said by saying that people could get the impression that she was easy cus of her looks.
Fuck
My
Life
Of course she's gonna misunderstand that, why the fuck now.
Ah well back on topic, what really fucks me up is that I want to get this shit out of the way and I dont want to fuck over her exams, but guess I'll have to.
Good, I hope that next time I write a (girl) blog it'll be at a happy occasion
Well, you've clearly had sex, that's when you get bored. Not kidding. You become disinterested in her and focused on sex.
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