EPTok where to start, well this morning my parents called me up and they wanted to talk to my brother, me and my brothers gf to update us on the situation with my moms parents. basically whats going on is my grandpa has frontal lobe dementia and can not take care of him self what so ever. this whole time my grandma has been taking care of him doing everything for him with some minor help from her children who live in the area. She absolutly refused to look at nursing home/retirement homes for him even at the urgings of her kids as they are both over 80. Know come December she has a crazy collapse where her stomach turns inside out and she has to have emergency surgery or else she could ahve died. know while this was going everyone was panicing and people were taking time off work to take care of my grandpa. As time passed she shows signs of recovery but definetly needs help from her siblings, and grankids who could spare anytime at all. So since she's older it takes a very very very long time to recover if she recovers at all. So since she was recovering from this nobody really wanted to push her and say "look grandma we need you to really think about you guys moving into a retirement home" now finally 3 months later of going there on weekends and waht not to help out with the cleaning/cooking/jsut hanging out with them its come tot he point where people just can't kkeep taking time off to go help them and she wouldn't talk about the retierment home option. So finally we get the reason. THEY HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO MONEY when I mean none I really actually mean nothing. They can't really afford to keep there house at this point or move to a retirement home, and nobody beyond my family is really doing well enough financially to help them out. So my parents came downt o two options, either my dad can delay his retirement 10 years and with what ever help the rest of the family can get together they pay for the retirement home. orrrr my mom stops working they come move in with my parents and she takes care of them full time and my dad works 5 extra years.
This really sucks cause my mom LOVES her job as a teacher and my dad really doesn't like his job the only reason he likes it is because he gets really good health benifits for working for the state and cause it pays well and he wanted a comfortable retirement and wanted to be able to provide well for a family.
ok so thats the first thing thats stressing me out now for the second
Today I jsut found out that one of my closest friends from Highschool died yesterday in his sleep Q_Q we swam together from 4thgrade all the way till he graduated a year ahead of me. We spent 2 hours a day 5 days a week together and in the summer practically everyday all those years hanging out fater practice and spending time as a team at weekend meets out of town. This is a massive shock to me as he was only 19 and was in prime shape I really have no clue how to deal with it I've never lost anyone I was really close to when I was old enough to really understand ( I had a aunt die when I was about 5 but I barly have any memories of her what so ever and I was really to young for it to hit me super super hard.
Finally after all this I somehow managed to polish up my paper due tomorrow ( well I guess today )
and I come home to
a massive mess as my cat some how managed to open the mountain dew code red I stupidly left on my Kitchen table. I ahve white carpet, it was the whole 2 liter, so after this massively stressful day I got to come home and scrub my carpet for a hour and still not get the stain out... I really hope i can get it out I REALLY don't wanna have to pay all that money when I move out idk how much it is but its' prbly a ton
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to anyone who made it through all that and has anyclue what I said congrats.
Also if anyone has any tips on destressing from this I could really use them, I think I'm going to just go play some mono battles and dickaround to take my mind off it as I jsut have to email my paper in.
P thanks, also sorry for the mess
