Your little Beavo is going to propose to my long term girl friend. Somehow I have tricked a lovely girl like her into loving me. Even mean old beavo has a heart who knew. Starcraft 2 fan, anime fan, cosplay fan loves all RPGs and every other lovely quality you could possibly think of. I think she is pretty much perfect.

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Shes berry beautiful :D

But I had a question, I am generally very old school and romantic, but do people still ask a fathers permission to marry his daughter? I have not heard of any one doing this in a long time, what is your take on this?

Frankly her dad scares the shit out of me

ExceeD_DreaM

Canada500 Posts

February 14 2012 02:28 GMT

Congrats on your upcoming marriage! Wish you the very best!

About asking parents... I thought it was just Asian cultures who do that... but I guess its in western culture too? Meet the Fockers come to my mind... lol.

I don't think you need to, nowadays, i see people propose to the future spouse and thats about it.
Anyway, good luck!

Dalguno

United States2446 Posts

February 14 2012 02:34 GMT

In my opinion, it's the classy way to go. I can't really say whether it's something you should do or not do, because I'm not sure either, and wonder myself. I have a friend whose two sisters both got married about three years ago, and both of her brothers-in-law asked her father before proposing.

Cute girl btw

klmklm17

Canada85 Posts

February 14 2012 02:35 GMT

I know that I would always the father but that is because I am also old school in that regard. I know that when my brother in-law married my sister he asked my father before hand.

I think its a good gesture that shows you care about approval and want to fit into the family. Maybe the father doesnt care about it but if he does and you dont ask..well thats just one more thing you might not want to deal with in the future

Mobius_1

United Kingdom2763 Posts

February 14 2012 02:38 GMT

It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.

Spicy_Curry

United States10573 Posts

February 14 2012 02:38 GMT

Take her dad out to a dinner and discuss it with him. Chances are that he will agree if he thinks that his daughter likes you.

gl teamliquid is behind you 100%

EatThePath

United States3943 Posts

February 14 2012 02:39 GMT

You can take care of that courtesy after you propose.

Iranon

United States983 Posts

February 14 2012 02:39 GMT

Yeah, it's sort of BM not to run things by her dad, but it's not really required, per se. How important is family to her? The more it matters to her, the more important it is you do.

Don't think of it as "sir may I please have permission to marry your daughter ohgodohgoddontkillme", just take the dude out to lunch one afternoon and chat about life. If he's going to be your father-in-law, you might as well get to know him on the level of two adults who both like the girl in question a whole lot.

gl hf.

Gofarman

Canada648 Posts

February 14 2012 02:40 GMT

Both of my brothers did, and it was definitely a good idea. I had a cousin who didn't, girl said yes, Dad said no, girl said sorry...

Yeah so idk what your Wife-to-be's relationship (with her father) is but manning up and asking the dad is never a bad idea.

DarkPlasmaBall

United States46502 Posts

February 14 2012 02:40 GMT

#10

If her dad says No, would you not ask her? Shouldn't make a difference.

I don't see the need to ask for permission...

But that being said, wow she's beautiful

Well done, my friend

Pawsom

United States928 Posts

February 14 2012 02:46 GMT

#11

On February 14 2012 11:40 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
If her dad says No, would you not ask her? Shouldn't make a difference.

I don't see the need to ask for permission...

But that being said, wow she's beautiful

Well done, my friend

It's about respect, and getting an idea of how your father in law to be may percieve you. If he says no, he must have a damn good reason, which he will share with you. Maybe you can clear it up or later decide its worth it to ask w/o the fathers permission.

Roe

Canada6002 Posts

February 14 2012 02:55 GMT

#12

i thought i saw that berry shirt girl in another blog

Beavo

Canada293 Posts

February 14 2012 02:58 GMT

#13

On February 14 2012 11:55 Roe wrote:
i thought i saw that berry shirt girl in another blog

in the gf thread maybe?

kerpal

United Kingdom2695 Posts

February 14 2012 02:59 GMT

#14

haha, do i recognise the pics from the "post a pic of you with your gf" thread?

anyhow, i didn't ask, and i kind of wish i had if that's helpful.

RBKeys

Canada196 Posts

February 14 2012 03:01 GMT

#15

On February 14 2012 11:55 Roe wrote:
i thought i saw that berry shirt girl in another blog

Definitely in the gf thread.

Question: you guys aren't in Calgary are you? She looks like someone I used to see around my school. Congrats by the way!

Roe

Canada6002 Posts

February 14 2012 03:07 GMT

#16

On February 14 2012 11:58 Beavo wrote:

Show nested quote +

in the gf thread maybe?

oh yeah, that's where

that shirt's cute

Funnytoss

Taiwan1471 Posts

February 14 2012 03:12 GMT

#17

It's the respectful thing to do, and chances are it will improve her father's impression of you if you do it right. If you plan on marrying her anyway, it's best to get off on the right foot with her family.

berated-

United States1134 Posts

February 14 2012 03:15 GMT

#18

As long as you get along well with her family, I think you should. I asked my wife's dad before hand, we went out and played a round of golf, and then I asked. It was slightly uncomfortable, but looking back I'm definitely glad that I did.

Recently having my first kid though, I think the answer is even more of a yes to do so. When my daughter is old enough to get married, I would hope that my future son in law asks me. It all still comes down to what you are comfortable with though.

Regardless, good luck and congratulations. It's such an awesome journey.

WaveofShadow

Canada31495 Posts

February 14 2012 03:15 GMT

#19

I did.
Not sure if my case is typical though because everyone knew it was coming, including her dad, who absolutely loves me and gives me free computer shit constantly.

I would recommend i though, definitely the classy way to go as many before me have already said.

Deleted User 135096

3624 Posts

February 14 2012 03:22 GMT

#20

Well done, my friend

Pretty much this. In today's environment I would consider asking her dad a respectful courtesy that you are showing towards him, but definitely not necessary. Asking for actual 'permission' in this day and age just seems really odd to me.