EPTOn January 28 2012 01:16 Chill wrote:
15 year old with small income critiquing parents on budgeting. Fantastic.
People have different values. Your parents obviously value saving money. Don't look down at them for it. My family was also extremely frugal. My father worked extremely hard until he was 45. Then he bought a boat and works half days and joined the naval reserves, which was his dream. So now he can used the saved money to support my family through retirement.
While I wouldn't go as far as my parents did, I can see a lot of them in me.
Try to remember that your parents now aren't the same people as your parents when they were your age. Try to think about what they grew up with. They are probably more easy-going that their parents. And because you have a comfortable life you think "why are they so safe" without seeing what they've seen.
Anyways, your blog makes me sad. Don't be a dick to your parents and don't be a pussy either. Just go get a fucking haircut. Or stop blogging about it. Either one is acceptable.
15 year old with small income critiquing parents on budgeting. Fantastic.
People have different values. Your parents obviously value saving money. Don't look down at them for it. My family was also extremely frugal. My father worked extremely hard until he was 45. Then he bought a boat and works half days and joined the naval reserves, which was his dream. So now he can used the saved money to support my family through retirement.
While I wouldn't go as far as my parents did, I can see a lot of them in me.
Try to remember that your parents now aren't the same people as your parents when they were your age. Try to think about what they grew up with. They are probably more easy-going that their parents. And because you have a comfortable life you think "why are they so safe" without seeing what they've seen.
Anyways, your blog makes me sad. Don't be a dick to your parents and don't be a pussy either. Just go get a fucking haircut. Or stop blogging about it. Either one is acceptable.
17 year old with small income critiquing parents on budgeting.
I value saving money. In comparison to friends, I spend very little of my income. (small income) I have probably spent just under a thousand dollars. Ever. i have around 8-9k in bank. Not really a large sum of money in the real world, but...
And because you have a comfortable life you think "why are they so safe" without seeing what they've seen.
Very valid point. Good way to look at it.
I think that my main complaint is that my parents complain about how they have boring bad lives. (must be inherited haha) but do little to nothing to address it. They say they have inadequate funds, but my mom does not seek employment.
aka they do the same thing I do in this blog.
They lament over what is currently going on, but in reality are doing little to nothing to stop it. I may be a pussy by not telling them to their faces, but it is a frustration that they feel perfectly validated to say that I have no social life, and need to find things to do. Especially when I was younger they were hardly ideal rolemodels. But when they themselves never spend anything, and never talk to anyone, I have to question those values. I wasn't even going to bring these issues up, I figured it would be a little irrational to bring it all up. But frankly this stems from hypocritical moaning coming from them. If you are willi
In one sense, things would be better if I just did things without asking. In another sense, I catch hell for it.
Summary: Saving is perfectly valid. When my parents point out my aunt and uncle, who are barely ahead of paycheck to paycheck, I too agree having added security from saving is nice. Long term it is certainly wonderful, and ideal, to save. When I first work, I plan to save. My frustration is that they bemoan our standard of living, but could afford, now and again, to treat themselves to something nice. My budgeting may not be the best, but when we have close to seven figures in the bank, having some steak or going to the movies even a couple times a year certainly won't break the bank.
Drawing upon my aunt and uncle, they were really truly happy people. Now, I certainly agree that the shit
My mom did grow up fast. When she was a Senior in HS her father died, and she had to pay her way through college. This saving mentality, as is established in many baby boomers and soldiers during the war, is normal and probably healthy. My dad lived in a reasonably wealthy family in Boise Idaho.
All sorts of conflict happens in my house over money. My mom will say "I would like new doors, but we can't afford them." Dad knows that we can afford it, tells mom. Mom says she'd feel too bad and doesnt. Then complains we never got them.
But seriously, thanks for the criticism. Took me quite a lot more time to realize my true motivations.
