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Sup guys, been a while O:
I just need to vent atm, so basically there is a girl at work who i was pretty into. We'd hang out and talk alot, had similar interests, she was really cute too. I didn't wanna ruin our friendship by asking her out but my other friend who is a girl reccomended that I do so.
So friday we went to a bar, now at this point I've been pretty into her for at least a month. So we get to the bar and start getting pretty wasted, as the evening goes by she is more and more into me, eventually she starts kissing me and telling me that she really likes me. I am pretty happy about this, so we take a cab to my place and end up having sex.
I talked to her last night and she told me she has a boyfriend but its an open relationship -_-
Siiiiigh I feel so bad right now Moral of the story when shit is too good to be true it usually isnt.
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So close to saying it, but won't, I'll probably get banned.
Sucks for you bro, but cheer up (see spoiler)
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Well its an open relationship, so why u so sad.
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Its an open relationship but that doesnt make her more interested in me. She pretty much told me she was just drunk and horny.
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Do you feel bad because you feel like you helped a girl 'cheat' on her boyfriend? Or because you feel like you could never have a proper long term relationship with that girl?
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On December 05 2011 23:40 Grovbolle wrote: edit: -nvm
Definitely the dream! =P
Yeah i feel for you man, that's gotta hurt.
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On December 05 2011 23:33 Grovbolle wrote: ..... but I'll probably get banned. Don't do that.
Long time no see pwntrucci :-) If their relationship is truly open why don't you pursue this further. The stricktly friends thing is ruined anyway at this point.
Edit Hmm ok answered that already.
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Doesn't help that it was my first time doing it, hell it was my first kiss
I just feel really stupid for thinking shed be interested in me I guess, shes 24 and has a bunch of life experience im a weird 20 year old guy
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Not sure where your morals lie, but a girl who's able to do that truly does disgust me, and I wouldn't want any part of it. If your okay with it, then that's cool. To each his own imo.
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On December 05 2011 23:24 Pwntrucci[sR] wrote:Sup guys, been a while O: I just need to vent atm, so basically there is a girl at work who i was pretty into. We'd hang out and talk alot, had similar interests, she was really cute too. I didn't wanna ruin our friendship by asking her out but my other friend who is a girl reccomended that I do so. So friday we went to a bar, now at this point I've been pretty into her for at least a month. So we get to the bar and start getting pretty wasted, as the evening goes by she is more and more into me, eventually she starts kissing me and telling me that she really likes me. I am pretty happy about this, so we take a cab to my place and end up having sex. I talked to her last night and she told me she has a boyfriend but its an open relationship -_- Siiiiigh I feel so bad right now Moral of the story when shit is too good to be true it usually isnt. Hey, at least you had sex with her in the end right? ^^
[BOLDED] I think you shouldn't think like that, its good to take risks I mean it'll feel awkward a few after asking her out but you'll eventually obtain your normal friendship as long as you don't mess it up o.O
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On December 05 2011 23:41 zatic wrote:Show nested quote +On December 05 2011 23:33 Grovbolle wrote: ..... but I'll probably get banned. Don't do that. Long time no see pwntrucci :-) If their relationship is truly open why don't you pursue this further. The stricktly friends thing is ruined anyway at this point. Edit Hmm ok answered that already.
Sorry, won't do that again
On December 05 2011 23:40 FractalsOnFire wrote:Definitely the dream! =P Yeah i feel for you man, that's gotta hurt.
I edited it out pretty fast, damn you are faster :D
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On December 06 2011 00:01 RogerX wrote:Show nested quote +On December 05 2011 23:24 Pwntrucci[sR] wrote:Sup guys, been a while O: I just need to vent atm, so basically there is a girl at work who i was pretty into. We'd hang out and talk alot, had similar interests, she was really cute too. I didn't wanna ruin our friendship by asking her out but my other friend who is a girl reccomended that I do so. So friday we went to a bar, now at this point I've been pretty into her for at least a month. So we get to the bar and start getting pretty wasted, as the evening goes by she is more and more into me, eventually she starts kissing me and telling me that she really likes me. I am pretty happy about this, so we take a cab to my place and end up having sex. I talked to her last night and she told me she has a boyfriend but its an open relationship -_- Siiiiigh I feel so bad right now Moral of the story when shit is too good to be true it usually isnt. Hey, at least you had sex with her in the end right? ^^ [BOLDED] I think you shouldn't think like that, its good to take risks I mean it'll feel awkward a few after asking her out but you'll eventually obtain your normal friendship as long as you don't mess it up o.O
Yeah im glad we had sex but at the same time it makes it way worse.
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Just take away what you can get from this encounter and move on. Being a "weird 20 year old guy" and scoring on an older and pretty hot (I assume) chick should give you tons of confidence in your looks/moves/small-talk abilities for your next girl encounter. So keep going out and meet new girls and everything will be allright.
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On December 06 2011 00:14 Mavkar wrote: Just take away what you can get from this encounter and move on. Being a "weird 20 year old guy" and scoring on an older and pretty hot (I assume) chick should give you tons of confidence in your looks/moves/small-talk abilities for your next girl encounter. So keep going out and meet new girls and everything will be allright.
Thanks
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Hope it won't create lots of uncomfortable moments at work. I'd like to say that it was bad of her not to tell you beforehand, but maybe the alcohol had already taken over at that point. It could have been worse though. She could have not said anything about it for weeks. So count yourself lucky. It will probably suck less in a year than it does now.
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On December 06 2011 00:00 Horrde wrote: Not sure where your morals lie, but a girl who's able to do that truly does disgust me, and I wouldn't want any part of it. If your okay with it, then that's cool. To each his own imo.
I don't mind open relationships as it's not cheating if both agree that it's ok (assuming she told the truth). This coming from someone who detests cheating on levels that are pretty scary. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't get near a girl that's into such things in a million years but whatever floats their boat. However, not telling him she had a boyfriend for over a month... pretty much has to be on purpose. Playing games with him I suppose.
Also, girls that are into the idea of open relationships are going to be fucking so many dudes... and there's a good chance they're loony somewhere (plus there's always the option of the boyfriend deciding it's not OK anymore for her to fuck other dudes and going after you). Relationships like that don't last long usually and barely qualify as relationships IMO. All in all, you're probably better off without her; she sounds like more trouble than it's worth.
If a girl acknowledges that she has sex with a lot of dudes, it's never a good sign for a future together, even if she's single at the time. Girls with a history of being very promiscuous don't usually make for trust worthy girlfriends (some legitimately settle down though) so hit it and run like hell. Even if you could steal one from her boyfriend, not worth it; especially if she clings onto the idea of an open relationship . The only way you should end up with a slutty girlfriend is if you didn't know she was slutty. And usually you find out soon enough.
Same is true the other way around (known manwhores make for bad boyfriends I imagine) but hey, I'm not interested in guys.
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Ok so now you basically have a booty call option you are attracted to. And the problem is?
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I have absolutely no advice for you, but seeing you blog again made me go listen to that "Game Revolution Song" and your expert commentary on Troy.
lololololol, brightened my day. Man, that map was ridiculous.
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There is no downside to this. You don't have to alter your current relationship with her, AND you get to have sex with her.
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On December 06 2011 01:23 Kickboxer wrote: Ok so now you basically have a booty call option you are attracted to. And the problem is? Exactly my thoughts. Aren't you glad you're not the boyfriend in this situation?
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On December 06 2011 01:23 Kickboxer wrote: Ok so now you basically have a booty call option you are attracted to. And the problem is?
herpes?
the other guy is a giant muscly jealous angry blackbelt?
She doesn't like starcraft? *shudders*
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There's no such thing as an "open relationship".
All it means is that she's keeping her options open until she finds someone better.
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It's not akward at work cuz I told her I wanna put it behind me and just be friends but I am le sad.
and here i am talking to her on fb like usual i need to grow balls.
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Should be happy how it all unfolded really. You got the free sex, and you found out she's def not what you want in a relationship. You might be able to fuck her again.
MOVE ALONG YOUNG CALF!
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Hi there, epic bump but I figure its better then adding yet another girlblog to the pile!
So the night I wrote this I ended up going for a car ride with this girl and afterwards she came back to my parents place where I was living at the time and pretty much stayed there with me for 2 months.
Best 2 months of my life man,, not giving a shit about anything, Being with my first girlfriend all the time, at work and at home, and she was so into me... She was 4 years older than me and so into me...
Then we moved in together and 3 months later she left me cuz she "wasn't feeling it as a couple." Now we are still roommates cuz we have a pretty good deal on the place so I sleep in the dinning room. Seeing her every day at work and at home (sometimes cuz shes never there) really sucks ! Trying to get over her but can't really.
Lol kinda funny this whole thing has been like the centerpoint of my life since november and now that it's over I'm having alot of trouble letting go, but I cant write more than 3 small paragraphs about it.
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On June 01 2012 20:34 Pwntrucci[sR] wrote: Hi there, epic bump but I figure its better then adding yet another girlblog to the pile!
So the night I wrote this I ended up going for a car ride with this girl and afterwards she came back to my parents place where I was living at the time and pretty much stayed there with me for 2 months.
Best 2 months of my life man,, not giving a shit about anything, Being with my first girlfriend all the time, at work and at home, and she was so into me... She was 4 years older than me and so into me...
Then we moved in together and 3 months later she left me cuz she "wasn't feeling it as a couple." Now we are still roommates cuz we have a pretty good deal on the place so I sleep in the dinning room. Seeing her every day at work and at home (sometimes cuz shes never there) really sucks ! Trying to get over her but can't really.
Lol kinda funny this whole thing has been like the centerpoint of my life since november and now that it's over I'm having alot of trouble letting go, but I cant write more than 3 small paragraphs about it.
Came into this thread eagerly thinking "Wow, who the fuck bumped this?" =P
Welp. I usually try to stay away from girls at places I work at, it's just not worth the trouble and there is plenty pretty women around in other places. However, why did you move in together after only 2 months? Seems kind of eager to me.
As for you, you probably know it anyway but here's #1 advice for spots like these: Go out, have fun, enjoy life (and its pretty females). glfh. <3
Edit: Wait. Stop. This IS about a different girl than the one in the OP, right? If not you totally didn't tell us half the story. =S
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On June 01 2012 23:41 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On June 01 2012 20:34 Pwntrucci[sR] wrote: Hi there, epic bump but I figure its better then adding yet another girlblog to the pile!
So the night I wrote this I ended up going for a car ride with this girl and afterwards she came back to my parents place where I was living at the time and pretty much stayed there with me for 2 months.
Best 2 months of my life man,, not giving a shit about anything, Being with my first girlfriend all the time, at work and at home, and she was so into me... She was 4 years older than me and so into me...
Then we moved in together and 3 months later she left me cuz she "wasn't feeling it as a couple." Now we are still roommates cuz we have a pretty good deal on the place so I sleep in the dinning room. Seeing her every day at work and at home (sometimes cuz shes never there) really sucks ! Trying to get over her but can't really.
Lol kinda funny this whole thing has been like the centerpoint of my life since november and now that it's over I'm having alot of trouble letting go, but I cant write more than 3 small paragraphs about it. Came into this thread eagerly thinking "Wow, who the fuck bumped this?" =P Welp. I usually try to stay away from girls at places I work at, it's just not worth the trouble and there is plenty pretty women around in other places. However, why did you move in together after only 2 months? Seems kind of eager to me. As for you, you probably know it anyway but here's #1 advice for spots like these: Go out, have fun, enjoy life (and its pretty females). glfh. <3 Edit: Wait. Stop. This IS about a different girl than the one in the OP, right? If not you totally didn't tell us half the story. =S
im pretty sure its the same woman
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Epic bump, should edit the new material into the OP so people don't get confused!
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On June 01 2012 23:41 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On June 01 2012 20:34 Pwntrucci[sR] wrote: Hi there, epic bump but I figure its better then adding yet another girlblog to the pile!
So the night I wrote this I ended up going for a car ride with this girl and afterwards she came back to my parents place where I was living at the time and pretty much stayed there with me for 2 months.
Best 2 months of my life man,, not giving a shit about anything, Being with my first girlfriend all the time, at work and at home, and she was so into me... She was 4 years older than me and so into me...
Then we moved in together and 3 months later she left me cuz she "wasn't feeling it as a couple." Now we are still roommates cuz we have a pretty good deal on the place so I sleep in the dinning room. Seeing her every day at work and at home (sometimes cuz shes never there) really sucks ! Trying to get over her but can't really.
Lol kinda funny this whole thing has been like the centerpoint of my life since november and now that it's over I'm having alot of trouble letting go, but I cant write more than 3 small paragraphs about it. Came into this thread eagerly thinking "Wow, who the fuck bumped this?" =P Welp. I usually try to stay away from girls at places I work at, it's just not worth the trouble and there is plenty pretty women around in other places. However, why did you move in together after only 2 months? Seems kind of eager to me. As for you, you probably know it anyway but here's #1 advice for spots like these: Go out, have fun, enjoy life (and its pretty females). glfh. <3 Edit: Wait. Stop. This IS about a different girl than the one in the OP, right? If not you totally didn't tell us half the story. =S
Thanks for the positive words man And yeah it is the same girl as in OP, basically she was seeing some guy but it wasn't serious, when I insisted she agreed to see me again. And I am really glad I insisted, normally I am the kinda guy who just accepts whatever bs comes on him but that time I pressed on a little and got rewarded with some good times. We moved in really quickly because we were tired of being at my parents place all the time since we worked evening shifts. We'd come home late and have to be quiet when all we wanted was to get drunk and listen to loud music.
I am pretty sure she is seeing some other guy now, she is hardly ever at the appartment which suits me fine I get the place to myself basically. Updated moral of the story: stay positive and cherish the good times
edit: btw enjoying your oddly appropriate bob ross quote lol
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