Hey TL , First blog on this account. but i had a couple good blogs back in the day!
But first i would like to tell you this is a "girl" blog, but you'll have to read to find out from what i mean! Thank you for reading!
So TL, im 19 years old ( i turn 20 in feb) I've dated a few girls when i was in middle school and ofcourse highschool. but nothing really lasted longer then 1 month. Why? i usually just got bored and ofcourse ( i was a dick about it) , the girls i dated were girls who played sports, girls who were big into school, and others im not proud of.
So we would date and shit would be going good. i would hang out at there house/friends/ and they'd come do the same. but i was just bored and i want some excitement in a relationship but when it gets close to the big one month mark... i notice the flaws and shit that really isn't a turn on for me anymore. Also noticed we were doing the same shit every week, go to a house watch movies/ make out/ go sleep , i didn't mind it but. every time i wanted to go out to the clubs ( 18 drinking age here) i would be denied, or if i wanted to smoke some weed they would frown upon. OR if they do try it. it really fucks them up.
One girl i was dating her name was Kayla first time smoking pot and she was a quiet girl and just did good in school and also had a rich family, anyways we tried it one night with 4-6 people and at first it was a good high we were like talking for ever like 3hrs (which usually never happen), ( i remember we had to walk to esso to get some drinks cause are lips and shit were dry lol) but yeah we did that once and an hr after that she had to go home with a friend, ( this is when shit went down hill ) it was like she hit a panic button on her body and the fear of getting caught let loose, (mind u she was staying at her friends house) so she starts screaming she doesn't want to get caught and starts saying shit like (get me out of this body. i don't wanna feel like this anymore) just like an out of body experience u would get with LSD or ACID, but after all that she sobered up or something i forgot this was back in 09, but that was one bad night. (broke up shortly after)
I know i should be censer when picking women and i shouldn't go with looks, or what the fuck they do in spare time and whatever, it shud just matter if we get along and are friends, But this goes with . i had alot ALOT of flings with girls who we were on the verge of dating and i would be like.. i just cant do it. she doesn't have this so and so quality about her.. and i would just break it off. and i would break hearts and even to the point where im getting threaten to beat up by from A. her brother B. boyfriends of her friends C. just crazy bitches . (this happened more then i would of liked lol)
But TL im asking you this... is this a unhealthy habit? and trait i have acquired in my mind of just finding that "perfect women" What are some suggestions to change... i think im ready for change... or is this. should i stick with that im doing?
wow had to stop reading after you said youre 19, 3 lines after saying 'back in the day'
you cant find the 'perfect woman' until you've had someone to campare them to . If there is a perfect person for each person,you certainly arent gonna find her easily or with the first few people youre with
Maybe its my fault for Opening a blog on a open site. but... back in the day wasnt mean oh when i was ur age back in the day. all it means is "back in the day i used to blog alot" incase you didnt get it. i'm pretty insulted u gave such a poor response, after u criticize me for being 19. (also not reading the whole thread or the bottom message)
When i say this. i mean just dont post in blogs. you dont have a interesting in helping with, Thanks
Your problem is obvious. You need to find out if they're the right girl for you on the very first date.
Here's a step by step guide to finding out if she's the right one:
1. Peel off bits from an eraser and put them into a pile
2. Throw the eraser bits at her
3. See if she notices
4. If she doesn't notice because she's too busy popping off the keys on her keyboard and eating them, then she's not the right one for you, because that's really weird
Well...do you actually want a long time relationship or just a flusie with which to dick around? Now I know I'm not the best for relationship advice, but if you do want to change and have a solid, 'real' relationship with a girl it's not that hard but it depends on what kind of people you find. So think about who you're discriminating against when looking for a girlfriend. You're also very young for something more than a month, and to be honest a huge amount of girls haven't developed much of a personality at your age. As they mature they get a lot better.
Are you going to Uni/college? That's always a great place to find diversity among personalities. It's not a bad thing to look for that special someone especially when you've had quite the run with the ladies already. What exactly is that "so and so quality about her"? You better pin that down because if it isn't something real you probably are just dicking around, leaving relationships like some Jerry Seinfeld.
Lastly, be grateful you've had this many girlfriends. A great many of us never have had one, or only a couple by your age.
On August 29 2011 07:05 OscarN wrote: Of course i want to find a "Long term" relationship, i want to be a dad one day. but with the perfect wife material of a girl!
What exactly is that "so and so" quality you're looking for?
On August 29 2011 07:05 OscarN wrote: Of course i want to find a "Long term" relationship, i want to be a dad one day. but with the perfect wife material of a girl!
What exactly is that "so and so" quality you're looking for?
Quality's like , Usually just small things , Tattoos , Piercings , does she like to go out and get crunk? has she smoked weed before? ( this might sound like a stonor thing to say but i m really not) i want to smoke pot periodically throughout my life , because its a fun experience and its a real joy i enjoy!
On August 29 2011 07:05 OscarN wrote: Of course i want to find a "Long term" relationship, i want to be a dad one day. but with the perfect wife material of a girl!
What exactly is that "so and so" quality you're looking for?
Quality's like , Usually just small things , Tattoos , Piercings , does she like to go out and get crunk? has she smoked weed before? ( this might sound like a stonor thing to say but i m really not) i want to smoke pot periodically throughout my life , because its a fun experience and its a real joy i enjoy!
On August 29 2011 07:05 OscarN wrote: Of course i want to find a "Long term" relationship, i want to be a dad one day. but with the perfect wife material of a girl!
What exactly is that "so and so" quality you're looking for?
Quality's like , Usually just small things , Tattoos , Piercings , does she like to go out and get crunk? has she smoked weed before? ( this might sound like a stonor thing to say but i m really not) i want to smoke pot periodically throughout my life , because its a fun experience and its a real joy i enjoy!
You didn't have to tell us that you're not really a 'stonor'. Your spelling and grammar already tipped us off.
too picky? it sounds like you just ask girls out depending on looks, then realize that sex isn't exactly all you care about. woah. Go ask your dealer if he sells to any girls. Stay single and enjoy it. Go out with one of your male friends. ionno. lots of options. maybe you're just looking for girls to bang and not girls you're actually interested in.
you're 19 dude. and you're a stoner. how are you not more relaxed? Stop crushing yourself with colossal expectations.
I have high expectations as well so I understand how you feel. However, I will never drop them (even if I end up dying alone) because I am happy by myself. If I find a great woman, awesome. If not... ah well.
The only bad situation would be to end up with a woman I dislike.
On August 29 2011 07:03 Chairman Ray wrote: Your problem is obvious. You need to find out if they're the right girl for you on the very first date.
Here's a step by step guide to finding out if she's the right one:
1. Peel off bits from an eraser and put them into a pile
2. Throw the eraser bits at her
3. See if she notices
4. If she doesn't notice because she's too busy popping off the keys on her keyboard and eating them, then she's not the right one for you, because that's really weird
lol. what exactly is the point of this blog? you pretty much answer your own question in great detail. correct me if im wrong, but you seem to be little more than an obnoxious crackhead that doesnt deserve the luck hes had. You will never find the 'perfect woman' simply because there are no perfect people. Each person has their own strengths and weaknesses and respecting the other person means respecting those as well. As you dont seem to be able to do that, youll be doomed to only have superficial flings im afraid.
On August 29 2011 09:32 Harrad wrote: lol. what exactly is the point of this blog? you pretty much answer your own question in great detail. correct me if im wrong, but you seem to be little more than an obnoxious crackhead that doesnt deserve the luck hes had. You will never find the 'perfect woman' simply because there are no perfect people. Each person has their own strengths and weaknesses and respecting the other person means respecting those as well. As you dont seem to be able to do that, youll be doomed to only have superficial flings im afraid.
Please enlighten me on how i " anwsered your own question" i dont see me anwsering my own question, im asking if i should change or stick with my guns,
On August 29 2011 06:48 OscarN wrote: I've dated a few girls when i was in middle school and ofcourse highschool.
Hey, fuck you dude, I'm in high school and I've had no luck, leave out the "ofcourse"
lol sorry. On a serious note, just let things play out. Perhaps it's a maturity (for lack of a better word) where you just don't want someone to be with for a while right now but will in the future. Perhaps you just haven't found someone yet you enjoy spending time with and haven't had a reason to spend more than a month with them. Perhaps it's just how you are. Perhaps you haven't been in an environment where you could meet girls you'd get along with.
It's not worth worrying about (just be happy you can get girls you lucky bastard). If you can chill, chill
Quality's like , Usually just small things , Tattoos , Piercings , does she like to go out and get crunk? has she smoked weed before?
You realize your wife is the mother of your children right? Maybe it is just me but there are a lot more pressing qualities than that to look for.
Hes 19, did you really expect more? I certainly wasn't, but now I am older now and things have a much different perspective (than when i was 19). As another poster pointed out earlier maturity has a lot to do with it as well. Life has a strange way of radically changing someone's perspective over time.
When I was dating a girl at 20 we had sex all the damn time and went out to the clubs and bars and house parties where we'd get drunk, sneak away, and have absolutely awesome sex with half a care if anyone else knew what we were doing. At 19/20, that is all you should be doing.
When it comes to dating someone more seriously (even though the aforementioned relationship lasted nearly 4 years), being picky is good. You can nonchalantly date people who don't quite meet your standards, but if you want a real relationship you shouldn't compromise. If you're a good-looking kid with good prospects and you feel you're dropping a level when thinking about dating someone - don't date her! There is plenty of time in life to find a good match; don't invest in a girl who will ruin you or make you unhappy.
Don't force yourself down to making a long-term commitment unless you really really feel the need for it. Usually that feeling comes late-20's or early-30's for males. I don't see anything wrong with what you're doing (but stay within legal boundaries if possible!) and as long as you don't get beaten to a pulp, you might as well continue what you're doing.
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