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Hahah what's with all the rash of girl blogs these days, I guess I will just join in.. its still on the same old question of getting a girlfriend but its a little different.. what happens when all the girls just wanna hook up with ya?
I know this sounds a little ridiculous but (trying not to brag here) I consider myself like a 7/10, i tend to attract asian girls (since i'm asian) but I have been with whites and some blacks,browns. I get plenty of female attention; girls tend to be really friendly to me, some do hit on me.. in all sorts of strange ways:
I have a female friend who is somewhat interested in me - and she tries to be my best friend and wingwoman to get to me. She tells her friends at a party to hookup with me... and a little while later we hook up. Its a strange fuckbuddy/wing woman combo.. and I HAVE hooked up with some of her friends too..
The problem now is that when I see a girl i actually like, and try to approach, it seems like my reputation has somehow preceded me. I am clearly known as the fun guy, whos cool, but on first impression, I am somehow the wild casanova (which is not the case. but really I have had someone who had no idea of me at all say that within 5 minutes of meeting me). So girls think that I would just sleep with them... how do i reverse this strange situation?
EDIT: Perhaps I should make it clearer - I didn't used to be this way. Back in high school, i was a uber nerd. Starcraft, manga, anime, thin as a stick. Then i got turned down by a girl once, and I was later told because "I seemed too nerdy" (I kid you not, this was what was said verbatim). So I was like fuck it, never again. I hung out with the "cool" people, I started to drink, and work out a LOT more, going crazy on the weights, and of course reading up on any material possible, such as The Game, Self Help, whatsoever. And somehow I got my second breathe of life.. in college.. i didnt think I would be so successful.. and when people say that I am a casanova, thats when I'm really perturbed, because I still do all the nerdy things i do, play starcraft and read manga, etc. I wasn't told girls wouldnt want a relationship with me.. since that was the first reason for doing this in the first place..
  
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Maybe try sticking with one girl for a while ? That should straighten out your reputation.
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^ Good advice. Just take some time and don't sleep with girls. Maybe getting a reputation of actually turning girls who want to sleep with you down.
If you don't want that you could always just meet new groups of people that no one knows and sleep with them!
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hey man whoever gave me a star OWN UP.
lol yea thats true.. a lot of girls have asked me - strangely, so do you have/had an ex/girlfriend? And I dont know how to answer that well! I mean I have had a legit girlfriend for a while during college (am still in college) I'm pretty sure there is a way to answer that question tactfully..
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On July 03 2011 03:24 McKTenor13 wrote:
^ Good advice. Just take some time and don't sleep with girls. Maybe getting a reputation of actually turning girls who want to sleep with you down.
If you don't want that you could always just meet new groups of people that no one knows and sleep with them!
yea yea haha I need to try that .. but FUUUUU at male hormones when there is a female body in close proximity. and alcohol. terrible terrible stuff..
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Umm, just keep doing what you're doing. Relationships suck the life out of men.
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Easy. Don't sleep around.
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On July 03 2011 03:30 decafchicken wrote:
Umm, just keep doing what you're doing. Relationships suck the life out of men.
Really? Why do you think so? I mean everyone gets lovey-dovey and you get to share your feelings with someone.. well at least thats I thought relationships are all about..
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On July 03 2011 03:30 decafchicken wrote:
Umm, just keep doing what you're doing. Relationships suck the life out of men.
Then you suck at them lol.
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In my experience, whenever one of my friends goes into a relationship they vanish from the face of the earth and when i do see them they're constantly bitching about relationship problems. IMO if i want someone to talk to/hang out with i have a bunch of guy friends that i won't have to worry about bitching that i dont "care about them enough" or something equally annoying. I plan on keeping girls on the side till i'm ready to settle down in ~10 years. I was in one for two years during college with a great girlfriend who loved the hell out of me and i thought i was pretty happy until we broke up. It was like a god damn anvil was lifted off my back and i've been stress free and all around happier since then.
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On July 03 2011 03:32 bloopie wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2011 03:30 decafchicken wrote:
Umm, just keep doing what you're doing. Relationships suck the life out of men. Really? Why do you think so? I mean everyone gets lovey-dovey and you get to share your feelings with someone.. well at least thats I thought relationships are all about..
I'm gonna side with chicken here. You obviously don't like her enough if you were so quick to reconsider and you don't seem to think highly of "lovey-dovey" relationships.
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On July 03 2011 03:17 bloopie wrote:
So girls think that I would just sleep with them... how do i reverse this strange situation?
You don't....
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being in a relationship just for being in a relationship's sake is a bad idea, you're going to end up in a mess. just keep meeting people and making friends until you meet someone who you want to be in a relationship WITH.
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You've done your part with the working out, learning women, whatever part. If the girl you like thinks you're a casanova, then tell her you are one, but you're more complex than that. Just show her you like her by not sleeping with anyone else. Your reputation isn't a problem because women like popular guys, its not like they think you're a scumbag.
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So I guess the consensus here is just to limit my nocturnal activities? hahha... ok time to delete some numbers off my phone ..
Wassup with all the one stars T_T
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Nice brag blog bro!
Try sticking with one girl at parties you go to, consistently, for a while and this reputation will go away.
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On July 03 2011 03:55 bloopie wrote:
Wassup with all the one stars T_T
Jealousy man, it's a strong feeling.
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On July 03 2011 03:59 Risen wrote:
Nice brag blog bro!
Try sticking with one girl at parties you go to, consistently, for a while and this reputation will go away.
Maybe even try sticking to one girl period?
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Captain!!! The brag drive can't take anymore!! We'll have to jettison the truth!
JK I know what you mean  , to be honest you might do good to move in some different social circles and foster a new rep there? The other solution which has been hit on is get a proper girlfriend and 'wear her' on your arm for a while, should quieten the mood around you!
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i feel so bad for you man
i really hope those crazy bitches stop trying to get close to you just for mating purposes; u sure deserve more than that
may the manga be with u
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You could've easily said
"Hi TL, the girl I like thinks I'm a player. What should I do?"
But you decided to brag about getting laid all the time and at the end you write a little snippet about some girl you have feelings for? GTFO.
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On July 03 2011 05:06 Rev0lution wrote:
You could've easily said
"Hi TL, the girl I like thinks I'm a player. What should I do?"
But you decided to brag about getting laid all the time and at the end you write a little snippet about some girl you have feelings for? GTFO.
but .. then people would hate me that i wrote a one-liner and no one would believe me..
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I think you should read all the other girl blogs on TL and follow the advice they give there, that should crush your sex life pretty fast.
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aha its easy just treat the girl you like out and be nice and whatever. Shell tell her friends that "youre different than before" theyll say "nahh he just wants you in his pants" shell then think theyre right and confront you about it which you say "nahhhh" and shit like that. It will be a pain but eventually shell believe you and think her friends "Dont understand you" and shit like that. So basically you dont have to change anything about what you do or your image, besides hooking up with other girls obviously. and hey if you end up hooking up with the girl you like then so be it as long as you dont continue what you normally do mr casanova
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I don't really understand how this is a brag blog because this situation isn't any more desirable than his previous one.
You went from "weird and nerdy" to "shallow and sex-crazed". You need to see which of the girls around you you are REALLY interested in, romantically and not just sexually. Find out what their feelings are and see if you can start a stable relationship.
Don't just put on a show for a few months and dump her for no reason - actually give it a try. I mean if your goal is stick your penis in every woman in a 20-mile radius, you can probably succeed at that goal on your current course, but realistically, trying to find someone who really is compatible with you is an experience far greater than that.
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On July 03 2011 05:25 Fontong wrote:
I think you should read all the other girl blogs on TL and follow the advice they give there, that should crush your sex life pretty fast.
haha such an awesome response, that was excellent.
But yeah OP, just don't hook up with random girls and try to find a nerdy GF, shouldn't be too hard.
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On July 03 2011 06:20 Endymion wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2011 05:25 Fontong wrote:
I think you should read all the other girl blogs on TL and follow the advice they give there, that should crush your sex life pretty fast. haha such an awesome response, that was excellent. But yeah OP, just don't hook up with random girls and try to find a nerdy GF, shouldn't be too hard.
lol why the requirement on a nerdy girlfriend? (not that i mind, lol)
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+1 to disguised brag blog claim.
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it really isnt a brag blog.. some girls are cool with it, some girls are disgusted by it..
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Oh, people just think its a brag blog because you mentioned that throughout your life at least 2 asian girls, 2 white girls, 2 brown girls, and 2 black girls have been attracted to you. That's a grand total of 8 girls, and that's at the bare minimum!
Don't worry though, bro, I feel for you. When I go social dancing I get hit on by all sorts of characters, from girls my age to women in their 50s with big fake tits and dresses that should be like 2 feet longer that they are. Super awkward sometimes considering I'm not even single.
However, I take it to mean that I'm probably doing something right. You are probably the same way, so don't change anything except the part where you sleep with them. It'll get the effect you want, but without the loss of entertainment when girls aren't attracted to you anymore. Unless you are telling me that you don't want girls to be attracted to you as well, but it's probably still not a good idea to change anything. I figure if a bunch of girls think you are hot, then guys will too.
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