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Well I have cousins that are 16 and 18 years younger than me (I am 22) and they consider me as their "big brother" or something like that. Not exactly as old as daddy but just as big and dependable, and wayyy more fun for sure! If the tension (or lack of connection) problem with your father works out, I'm positive that you can have a positive relationship with your sister.
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I'm 21 right now, My Mom had me when she was 19 and My dad was like 22/23. they then went their separate ways me staying with my Mom. I now have 2 sisters and 2 brothers 17/16/11/7 are their ages. Sometimes it feel awkward since my dad had the younger two with my step mother. But I think that was more circumstance than age. I moved to live with my dad when I turned 15 and he really was never home and my step mom spent most of her time at work so I took the pseudo father role sometimes. Stuff like this happens all the time and you just gotta do your best with it.
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I am 24 and my half sister is 38 so there is a 14 year age gap between us. I think alot of things have to do more with the individual people and circumstances as to what kind of relationship you would have. I have never lived with my 1/2 sister, when i was little she would come and stay with us sometimes but i dont really remember that tbh. I've grown up only seeing her a few times a year. I've never seen her as my "1/2" sister. She's just my sister and no different from my "full" sister. Of course i have different relationships with both of them but its nothing to do with 1/2 sister or not. I found that when i was young i saw her as my sister but getting older we have a better relationship where she is also my friend. When i reached late teens and now im in my mid twenties we have more in common but thats to be expected.
In summary, from my experience i dont think the age gap really matters, you just treat it as it is. Even if you were in a family and you had 4 "full" siblings all of similar ages you would still have different relationships with each of them.
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Dude, I'm 39, turning 40 in a few weeks and my half brothers are 6 and 11. I've been around in their lives from the beginning and wouldn't trade it for anything -- they're so much like my dad and me that it's ridiculous, but in different ways, and while I only get to see them a couple times a year, it's a high point for all of us.
You and your dad clearly have an OK relationship, and if you and his new wife can get along well enough for you to be able to spend some time with them now and then, jump on the chance. Family are family and this is your chance to connect with your half-sister.
I'll tell you something else: it may seem weird to you, but for her having you around is going to be the only thing she's ever known. A few years down the line that weird feeling will be less of an issue, believe me.
Edit: Off topic, but I got the 11 year old a copy of Starcraft 2 last July and he's actually getting pretty good at it, for his age. We don't play vs. each other because he's kind of shy about his skill level but I did talk him into some team games which were a blast. I could see him turning into the next IdrA once the hormones kick in and he starts raging.  lmao
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I think my father left when I was no older than 2 and he's lived int he same city as me and raised a family with multiple children, they have the same last name as me ( I didn't change my last name when my mother remarried ) , however my biological father kept no contact with me. I don't think it's wierd at all to be honest, and I've never met the guy.
And while this is different than your situation, I think what you should consider is that, at the end of the day, you and your sister are still "family" and that should be all that matters. It's more about the relationship the two of you have rather than the genetic connection.
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Oh, one other thing. You're going to wait 2 or 3 years to go visit? Unless you really have problems with your dad that you have to work out first, I would recommend going to see them as soon as you possibly can. I know travel to China takes time to plan and costs a lot of money, but it will help your relationship with your sister in the long run, I think, to make an effort to be around earlier.
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