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Let me tell you my story. I was hopeless in love with a girl at the end of high school. We became bf/gf in the last year of school. BUT she dumped me (yep you guessed it) a couple months prior to graduation and prom. Uh oh, what do I do for prom?
+ Show Spoiler [So I...] +First I couldn't man up because I wanted her back so badly so I hung on like a loser for a month or two. Gathered enough balls to ask her as a prom date (NOT to be back together... just a prom date, I made that very clear) just to be rejected two days later. Yes, she took the pleasure of torturing me for those two days with "let me think about it."
Well, screw that bitch. So I thought about going solo. After all, I've been to semi-formals and dance parties solo and had a ton of fun anyway. Unfortunately my friends did not agree, because they already locked up their dates. 4 friends, 4 dates, + me = 9, for a table of 10. This wasn't going to work out. Sigh, and I worked up a little skit to lure a cute choir girl (grade 11... aka not graduating) into being my prom partner. Lots of extra bucks - I mean, it wasn't her prom year, so I felt that I needed to pay. I'm not that much of an asshole - for someone I'm not emotionally into anyway.
Prom night itself was fun, imagine how "perfect" a table of 5 pairs looked like... whatever. I probably could have had just as much fun going alone (besides the trouble of finding a 10th person for the table) and chilling with other people that came without a partner. Most of it isn't even slow-dancing or whatever, it was more of a preview of the club atmosphere without the drinks and in nicer clothes.
My point is, you'll be fine going without a designated partner. Best if you go in a group of friends (hopefully not all male!), sit together, and enjoy it like any other dance night.
+ Show Spoiler [Rest of the Story] +Needless to say, I still think if I went with that original gf I would have made more fond memories of prom. Sigh...
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I went to my junior prom with 3 male friends without dates. We had a lot of fun. IF people had thought negatively of us or made some sort of derogatory comment, we wouldn't have cared. BUT nobody did that anyway, cuz they were just there looking to have fun too.
I'd say, if you don't have a special girl to go with, just go with your mates and have fun. Mingle with your group but also other acquaintances/friends/definitely girls. Use this mingling to set up casually asking a girl to dance during one of the slow dances, and you will still get that male-hormone-I'm-a-failure-if-I-can't-dance-with-one-damn-girl-at-prom thing out of the way.
Clearly you don't have to go at all, and I'm not one of those people to say "you'll regret it forever you have to go to your prom!" But I do think that going to prom will be the most fun option of anything you could do that night, all things and ruminations considered.
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It's amazing how little you actually think about prom once you're an adult. It just ends up being one of those things you did one time, just like any other day.
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On April 28 2011 16:47 ZombiesOMG wrote:Show nested quote +On April 28 2011 16:26 Juliette wrote:
also i dont think there are PC bangs in OC and if there are do want to know where Downtown Fullerton, off Harbor and (I forget  Chapman maybe?) also there is one on Yorba Linda Blvd(and Placentia Ave I think), near CSUF and one at Imperial Hwy and La Palma Ave. . . .back past In N' Out. There are a couple good ones in Irvine I've heard, but never been. The last two I wrote about are both IGZ ( Internet Gamerz) been to the one on imperial and la palma a bunch as a kid, used to be called Cyberworld. . .might still be technically. GLHF
OC is too big x-x. im a bit more south but i know where cyberworld is haha. I've seen the place a few times. i need to visit one of those sometime
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On April 28 2011 17:07 TOloseGT wrote:Do this: + Show Spoiler +But since you don't have someone in mind yet, ask afterwards who would want to go with you.
That was so boss.
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On April 28 2011 23:10 Kamille wrote:Show nested quote +On April 28 2011 17:07 TOloseGT wrote:Do this: + Show Spoiler +http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyh6AXtJYA8 But since you don't have someone in mind yet, ask afterwards who would want to go with you. That was so boss.
Indeed, awesome lol
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Why are you complaining that someone offered to pay for his date?
Isn't that just basic chivalry?
What the fuck is wrong with children these days man...
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I think OP is looking at the whole situation a little too irrationally:
Your original date bailing at the last minute definitely isn't cool, but it happens. Her communication about it sucked, too, but that kind of thing is learned over time. The girl isn't a sociopath, she just hasn't experienced the real world (yet). Do the mature thing and let it go.
The guy paying for a dance isn't necessarily a bribe. In fact, some look at a dance as a date, and the guy "traditionally" pays for the date. Sounds like he's just being chivalrous and found a way to ask where he'd get a yes. If this girl is such a "nice angel" then why didn't you ask her to begin with?
You can look at prom as "a once in a lifetime opportunity", but I think you're building it up WAY too high. Yeah, it's your good-bye-from-high-school-party and for many, savoring the last bit of popularity and "easy living" before college and the real world. Years down the road you realize "It's just a high school dance" and I doubt you'll even care.
Regardless, if there's still someone you want to go with hurry up and ask. If not, just go to the dance, hang out with your friends, ask pretty girls to dance, and have a good time.
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Get some refridgerated creme soda and some Lay's sour cream & onion chips. Lay back on the couch and just chill. You're at a point in life where people are still bitchy... and you'll have to deal with bitchy behavior.
If another guy does something elaborate to ask a girl to prom, they're not attacking you personally. They're not robbing you of anything. They're doing what you wanted to do, just faster. It sucks. Go alone or just ask a friend, move on.
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I thought it was basic chivalry for the guy to pay for his date. The only thing I didn't pay for at my prom was her dress and my boutineer. So the day date, dinner, pictures, and the actual dance were paid for by me.
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Hahahaha man don´t sweat it. At my high school you could not bring girls from other schools, everyone had to be a student or ex-student. My girlfriend at the time went to another all girls school and she was not eligible to come. Thus, I went to prom with the fattest chick in my grade, it was a blast, drunk as fuck. Good times with my friends.
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On April 29 2011 02:50 Dalguno wrote:
I thought it was basic chivalry for the guy to pay for his date. The only thing I didn't pay for at my prom was her dress and my boutineer. So the day date, dinner, pictures, and the actual dance were paid for by me.
For me, it's always: I pay for the tickets, dinner and her boutineer thing, and she pays for pictures and my corsage thing.
Don't trip brosef. There's so much hype over prom but honestly, two or three months later, nobody will remember. Go with a friend you're not romantically interested in. I regret going with my (then) girlfriend; it would have been so much better if I had broken up with her before and gone with a good friend.
Also, am I reading this wrong? Everyone in this thread is getting mad at OP getting mad at the guy paying for prom, but..
On April 28 2011 15:57 iKill[ShocK] wrote:
You know what the thing that got me sick to my stomach is? She has to pay for that kid's whole prom package. While on this side we would've split the cost. Where is the logical reasoning in this? She offers to take a bum who isn't even going to pay for the fucking tickets to prom, at the same time agreeing to be my date, then calling the whole shit off one week before the event.
Other way around guys.
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On April 28 2011 16:11 numLoCK wrote:
Just go solo. Nobody really gives a damn about prom but the girls who want to feel like a pampered princess and you'll have a ton of fun with nobody else to drag you down.
Just be a man and do your own thing. All in all, prom is not a big deal.
Do not go to prom solo.
Having said that, it's not like missing prom is the biggest deal. It's really what you make out of it.
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"basic chivalry"
edit: wow no wonder none of these women want to go with you they probably don't want to get smacked
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Another thing that I am extremely disgusted at is how some kids are so desperate to feed their insecurities they go through extreme measures to get dates for prom. I had another girl in mind that i wanted to ask to prom. Some kid beat me to it. He offered to pay forbribed her, got all her friends there and asked her the question. Being the nice angel she is she can't refuse his little present of paying for their whole prom night and the huge peer pressure of accepting. Robbed. Fucking just got mugged of a beautiful prom date by some kid who feels so insecure about his ability to get a date he have to offer to pay to incite the inner greed of human beings and at the same time scare her into accepting the request. Fucking robbed.
your reaction to this is absolutely ridiculous. so a shy, insecure kid goes through the trouble of orchestrating a nice way to ask a girl to prom, and you're angry that he "ROBBED" her from you? she'd probably prefer to go with a nice guy who'd go through the trouble of setting up a cute way to ask her to prom and would buy her ticket, over you who'd probably just swagger up to her and say "bitch, prom? we'll split the cost."
i'm exaggerating, but still.
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Chill buddy. By the time youre in college you look back on prom and laugh
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Interesting cultural differences. I remember our high school prom to be very different from this. Basically everyone who was graduating was invited and allowed to bring 1 person along (friend or date). It was a very casual thing, nothing big about bringing a date or "going with someone". Everyone would just show up in a nice suit/dress, get wasted and have a blast. 
Sounds like your version is a lot more stressful. I've seen it in movies before but didn't think it was really that big a deal. All I can say is that I'd try to get my head clear if I were you. Your post is dripping with frustration, which probably isn't the right mindset. You should be looking at your options. Unless the guy:girl balance is severly messed up I'm sure there's other girls around you can still ask. It might not be the cutest girl in the playground but consider that an early lifelesson, in a few years you'll realize that that's not what it's about anyway. If you rather fly solo then I'm sure you could still have fun, you're never the only one, and who knows you might find a stray little female bird at the prom who flew solo as well.
Final option is to just skip it, it's not a big deal, I doubt there are a lot of people who skipped it and sat in a bar at the age of 50 sulking to the bartender that it all went wrong after they missed prom.
TL;DR: Don't be a negative nancy! 
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Yeah having the chick say yes then bail on you a week before prom is a dick move. But this kinda thing happens all the time. Females, especially at a young age aka high school age, act on their emotions most of the time, not on logic. Venting is good though, the more you let out your frustration the faster you'll get over it.
As far as going solo, I'll just tell you my experience. I had two friends that went to prom solo and they grinded on every hot chick there and got TONS of attention. They definitely had a good night. It could work out for you it could not. If I were you I would try and find someone who doesn't have a date yet (trust me they're there) or ask a junior friend. Having a date is nice, it's part of the experience.
And if you think your situation is bad, it can be worse lol. My friend asked out this reallly hot chick that he didn't really know and she said yes. After we arrived she proceeded to ditch him 15 min into the night. We didn't see her till the end of the night and she was leaving with another guy. =\
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Marshall Islands3404 Posts
lol prom
might as well toss a couple hundred dollars more out the window on the way there
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I skipped my prom and played videogames instead
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