Most terrible Stereotypical video trash I've ever seen. Obviously created by some dumb feminist and/or biased abused chick.
Step 1: Suuuuuuuure, Riiiiiiiiiiiight. Like 1 squeeze/pinch/grab/shove whatever automatically makes you a criminal abuser, bad guy, go to hell worthless trash, scum of the male human race. There is something called reflex, If a girl/gf socks me in the chest or whatever really hard with rage/anger I may just reflexively push/hit back. Sometimes your instincts just kick in, and before you realize it- you've socked someone in the face, it doesn't even have to be a girl it could be anyone. Not saying I condone it, but shit happens you know. It's totally situational. Also, citing non violent assault/harassment like pushing,grabbing,pinching,spitting alone already signifies that you are trying to hold back. Now, this may be how it starts with actual abusers- and you should be aware, but come the fuck on. The occasional little slip up non violent thing is not 100% guaranteed abuser. It goes both way you dumb cunts.
Step 2: Put downs. These are contextually and perception based. If a girl asks something like; "ooh I dunno what to get the burger/fries or the chicken/rice?" and you jokingly reply with; "Get the chicken fatty", this does not mean abuse. If the bitch can't take a joke or the truth then she has more than her weight/looks problems to worry about imo. I put down friends, enemies, my fucking boss, whoever all the time. That's just how I am, don't get into a relationship with me if you think you can change me or think you are different. Equal Rights Bitch. Step 3: Control. Now i've never really been one to try and control anyone, but if the chick is hanging around a bad crowd or general fuck ups, i'm gonna lay down the law. Do you want your gf hanging around drug addicts and degenerates all day? Hey maybe the guy is just cautious that these other guys you are hanging out with might want to fuck you? Fuck, it could even be something as simple as jealousy. Talk it out.
Step 4: Feelings. Bitches are moody, and have PMS/periods wtf? Don't blame the men you fucking retarded motherfucking feminist nazi bullshit video. Damn right you better worry about dissapointing your significant other or making them angry and likewise. THIS IS CALLED A RELATIONSHIP, if you didn't think about shit like that then what the fuck, Seriously? "..even if he never physically hurt you do you feel like he could..?" THOUGHT POLICE, THOUGHT POLICE, THOUGHT POLICE, WEEE WOOO WEEE WOOO. BUULLLLLLLLLL SHIIIIIIIIIIIT
Step 5: LOL, They basically condone snooping into his shit and past, Guilty until proven innocent right? Yes, please take advice from people who are not you in your relationship 100%. Wait? isn't that step 3? What the fuckkkkkkkkk, MIND WARPPPP Step 6: Jokes are always to be taken seriously. Lmao. Why did the feminist cross the road? + Show Spoiler [Answer] +
Who the fuck cares, feminists are retarded whores who can't get laid.
I bet you took that seriously, didn't you? Point proved. Step 7: Relationships have ups and downs, I don't care who the fuck you are. There is no fool proof way to have constant affection and love without a single argument,disagreement, or struggle. Step 8: If you have any problems, see the fat ugly social worker. hahahah. They always know best right? Considering their life long 'unbiased' view of men, and all their sexcapades and relationship experience that is greater than yours. Roll on the floor fucking laughing.
Step 9: Go batshit crazy insane, steal his stuff, hide his keys, dissappear and don't answer his calls. That's the way to do it.
If you disagree, look at some of these other 'insightful' videos
(if you don't get it, they fail to mention; Working out..)
I have nothing against empowering women or teaching girls how to spot signs of abuse etc. But this kind of propagandic shit does the complete opposite imo. And just the way this video is presented and the tone of it is a slander to men. They should have said 'abusive partner' and used examples for both sexes. But instead we get this garbage. + Show Spoiler +
SpoR-CharlieM> it's wrong [19:02] <SpoR-CharlieM> very wrong [19:03] <SpoR-CharlieM> it's as bad as the misinformation propaganda in those cosmo magazines [19:03] <SpoR-CharlieM> about how a relationship should be [19:03] <SpoR-CharlieM> or how to have great sex [19:03] <SpoR-CharlieM> or whatever trash they fill in those mags [19:03] <Niton> how do you figure [19:03] <SpoR-CharlieM> these kinds of videos do not create stronger more intelligent women [19:03] <SpoR-CharlieM> they do the opposite [19:04] <SpoR-CharlieM> they create weak minded girls [19:04] <SpoR-CharlieM> who don't know how to deal with life [19:04] <SpoR-CharlieM> and spend friviloous amoutns of money hiring help or whatever bullshit [19:04] <SpoR-CharlieM> "how to find the perfect man" books [19:05] <Niton> I take it you've never gotten to watch a friend change because of the way their boyfriend treats them, then [19:05] <Chaz> how long has day9 tv been going? [19:05] <SpoR-CharlieM> actually [19:05] <SpoR-CharlieM> my little sister [19:05] <SpoR-CharlieM> had a controlling boyfriend [19:05] <SpoR-CharlieM> and i've heard them argue [19:05] <SpoR-CharlieM> and listened to her side of the story [19:05] <SpoR-CharlieM> which was completely bullshit [19:05] <SpoR-CharlieM> biased feelings madness [19:05] <Niton> because of the way the legal system works, stuff like that is the best anyone can do to stop people like him [19:06] <Niton> which is why they do it, corny as it is
Didn't read the OP, but I think it's a nice way to destroy culture and society to equalize everyone to everyone, man to woman, boy to girl, this to that, etc. That's fake, that's against the nature, that's not how humanity existed through all it's history.
On November 30 2009 20:12 Magic84 wrote: Didn't read the OP, but I think it's a nice way to destroy culture and society to equalize everyone to everyone, man to woman, boy to girl, this to that, etc. That's fake, that's against the nature, that's not how humanity existed through all it's history.
On November 30 2009 20:12 Magic84 wrote: Didn't read the OP, but I think it's a nice way to destroy culture and society to equalize everyone to everyone, man to woman, boy to girl, this to that, etc. That's fake, that's against the nature, that's not how humanity existed through all it's history.
What exactly are you trying to say here?
He wants to say that historical inequalities are "Natural" (capital N) and thus it is wrong for us to try to equalize and rationalize equal rights and attitudes. Egalitarianism is bad.
Comments in this blog are taking it in different and unpleasant directions.
If you watch the clip, it's clear that they are being very very conservative. There are plenty of healthy happy relationships that would include the symptoms warned against in the clip.
I guess they are going with the 'better safe than sorry' approach.
lol thats one of the funniest shits ive ever seen. its full of crap.
whats next? "if he makes eye contact u have to be careful, it might suggest that he wants to hit you" i hate these kind of feminist bitches that think theyre being discriminated about pretty much everything.
step1: my friend's gf used to hit him and pinch him, can he sue her? things like that can happen as part of teasing or reflex like u said.
step2: in some relationships the girl does that. so beware, ur gf might be abusive! theres a big diff between joking around and putting her down. also it might just be part of ur character, if the girl cant live with it then just break up.
step3: my friend's gf didnt allow my friend to be around women when she's not around. hey guess what this step applies to both genders. sometimes it jealousy sometimes its for their own good. either u talk about it (and try to find solution), ok with it or just break up. if the girl insist on doing something dumb (just like u said) then controlling her is actually the right thing to do.
step4: hey guess what that shit also applies to both genders, like there arent bitchy girls out there that just hurt ppl for fun. feeling bad about disappointing ur bf/gf (or making him/her angry) is part of the relationship. if u dont feel bad about it then something is wrong in this relationship. some things can lead to a fight, its natural.
step5: wow bullshit, like she knows what really happened in his relationships. ppl also tend to lie a lot.
ive seen stuff like when the guy was doing his best to try and make a relationship work but the girl didnt even bother to try to make it work. then after they break up the girl will tell stupid lies how she couldnt take it anymore and its all his fault and all that crap.
step 6: lol ok. no more jokes i guess? thats just fucking dumb. use some fucking common sense, how hard is it to spot a joke/sarcasm?
step 7: the guy feels bad and wants to make the relationship work. guess that makes him abusive, right?
step 8: whether or not this social worker or whatever can help u, the opinion will be based on the girl's side. making assumptions based on just 1 of the sides probably wont reflect the truth. just like how u usually see the boy's friends defending him whether the girl's friends defending her.
On November 30 2009 20:29 GGQ wrote: Comments in this blog are taking it in different and unpleasant directions.
If you watch the clip, it's clear that they are being very very conservative. There are plenty of healthy happy relationships that would include the symptoms warned against in the clip.
I guess they are going with the 'better safe than sorry' approach.
The message should have said "things to consider if you're in an abusive relationship," and these things also apply to men. However, the worst this is doing is making people challenge themselves on what's actually happening in this relationship. What's bad with that? None of these points directly lead to "wow you're in an abusive relationship gg no re," these things are signs that could actually reveal really bad things about someone's (the partner's) personality that you might not have thought about, or lied to yourself/hid from the facts about who the person actually is.
Abusive relationships are terrible because a LOT of people that are abused don't even realize that they're in an abusive relationship, they think that it's 1.) their fault, and 2.) that it's normal. Any messages to get people to detach themselves emotionally from the relationship and think as rationally as they can is a good thing. Who knows, you might actually settle on the conclusion that your relationship is actually perfectly fine, and it'll make you appreciate your girlfriend/boyfriend more because you've actually given thought into it.
Also, this video isn't ridiculous, and the people that are making fun of it (not the person I quoted, but the OP and the one above my post in particular) aren't funny because this shit is really serious -_-
The problem is this youtube video is a few seconds long yet doesn't seem to emphasize that these behaviors are problems ONLY when they are chronic. Teasing/making fun of your gf is absolutely fine as long as it's not some kind of constant destruction of the girl's confidence.
And I hate the ridiculous double standard. My gf will sometimes get mad and punch me. I outweigh her by 70 lbs so it's obviously not going to hurt, but I don't know anyone who'd call that abuse. Even though what she's doing is exactly the same as an abuser. A loss of self control leading to a violent act.
On November 30 2009 20:54 StorkHwaiting wrote: The problem is this youtube video is a few seconds long yet doesn't seem to emphasize that these behaviors are problems ONLY when they are chronic. Teasing/making fun of your gf is absolutely fine as long as it's not some kind of constant destruction of the girl's confidence.
And I hate the ridiculous double standard. My gf will sometimes get mad and punch me. I outweigh her by 70 lbs so it's obviously not going to hurt, but I don't know anyone who'd call that abuse. Even though what she's doing is exactly the same as an abuser. A loss of self control leading to a violent act.
I would call that abuse. At the very least, that's a very serious issue, and that's a complete lack of respect and perspective on her part. That is really not something that you should ignore (you probably have brought this up to her but that's bad) :\
I agree with the top paragraph, there's actually a LOT more to abusive relationships than this video sheds a light on, such as when it's actually not a sign of abusive behavior.
On November 30 2009 20:12 Magic84 wrote: Didn't read the OP, but I think it's a nice way to destroy culture and society to equalize everyone to everyone, man to woman, boy to girl, this to that, etc. That's fake, that's against the nature, that's not how humanity existed through all it's history.
What exactly are you trying to say here?
He wants to say that historical inequalities are "Natural" (capital N) and thus it is wrong for us to try to equalize and rationalize equal rights and attitudes. Egalitarianism is bad.
Yeah making laws to try to force people to view each other as equal can lead itself to abuse (such as a hypothetical law that enforces employers to pay women and men the same wage, which can be abused), but we're talking about abusive relationships and the assertion that "women aren't equal to men," in this context (which I thought Magic84 might be making, which was why I asked) is ridiculous.
Uhh about the manboobs, I'm pretty sure they're talking about ones that are caused by a medical condition, not just being chubby. Those people can work out every day and they'd still have man boobs.
On November 30 2009 21:28 meeple wrote: Uhh about the manboobs, I'm pretty sure they're talking about ones that are caused by a medical condition, not just being chubby. Those people can work out every day and they'd still have man boobs.
ya theyre talking about gynecomastia, working out wont solve this problem. when "man boobs" are caused by high body fat, then the solution would be working out.
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