The LiquidLegends Lounge - Page 1193

On April 27 2016 06:04 Alaric wrote:
Hey, you can tell a guy he's pretty without being gay.

On April 27 2016 05:10 iCanada wrote:


But here is the thing, those things don't really change or fix them at all, they just create segregation. They separate two groups and make them work by different rules. How are those two groups ever going to identify with the other when they can just sit there and point at the different rules they play by? I'll let you into my world view for a second here.

For all intents and purposes, I lived under the poverty line my entire childhood. My dad worked his balls off, i never saw him. He was there, he cared about me, but he worked 80 to 90 hours a week. His wage was likely above median, but my younger brother has a disease called Muscular Dystrophy in which he sees atrophy in his muscles due to his cells lacking the ability to replenish their energy the same way most people do. This is a legitimate disease, and today all his medical care would have been government funded. At the time, it wasn't looked at as a legitimate disease or disability. People in charge of funding would ask "He can walk, how is he disabled?", and scoff at doctors claims that this funding would greatly improve his quality of life. He had a choice, allow my brother a shot at a comfortable life and live with nearly nothing, or allow my brother to die by the age of 12 and live comfortably. The only reason I could eat many times, is because of going to the food-bank with shame.

My dad was basically forced to pay nearly 6 figures a year for all of his surgeries, his wheelchair, his medications, modifications to our vehicles and house, modifications and fancy ass stuff to help him save energy and increase his quality of life out of his own pocket. To do this he worked absolutely obscene hours.

My Family spent my entire life barely getting by. I wanted to go to Uni, and I couldn't go because I couldn't afford it. Literally every avenue to get funding, I was disqualified for. I am not Aboriginal. I am not a minority. I am not an immigrant. My 93% high school average is not enough to fund your education through grants. Therefor I had to pay. I could not get government loans because my parents made too much money (which was spent on basic quality of life provisions). I had to work for 2 years before i could raise enough money, then work full time during school. My average week while taking engineering consisted of 40 hours of work, 35 hours of classes, 25 hours of commuting, ~25 hours of studying, and then pretty much the rest just not dying and sleeping. Honestly, those years were the most hellish 4 years of my life and burned me out ridiculous amounts.

Yet, most people who I talk to assume that I didn't have to work for it at all, and it was all handed to me because of my skin colour. Ironically, if I was Native, statistics are likely I'd have lived a nearly identical childhood and actually just had a free ride through university. I'd have graduated sooner, had no debts, lived largely care free in comparison to the amount of work i ended up having to do. Somewhat ironically, in that scenario people would consider me a brave trail blazer who forged a path and worked his ass off, despite not having to work nearly as hard as I actually had to.

And as much as I know it is wrong, there is resentment there. I dont want it there, I don't blame those that do benefit from it, but it is not fair. It wasn't fair. Yet if I acknowledge that I am considered racist and intolerant. At the same time, it is natural for that resentment to be there. Not only did I work my ass off, but people assume i didn't. Not only did I have to because the rules are skewed based on arbitrary things I have no control of, but people assume i won the lottery anyway. And then people who had just as much as me got an essentially free ride.

I also think it is kind of strange how some people are allowed to play the victim card, and some aren't. I've had numerous people personally blame me for slavery. Forget about the fact that my Canada contributed basically nothing but safe refuge for African American Slaves, my family is Ukrainian. Ukrainians havn't victimized shit for nearly 500 years. Looking at my direct descendants, my fathers side escaped Ukraine before they joined the USSR and came to Canada, where they had their land stripped away and my great grand father was "interned" in a labour camp where he died in WW1 (Their old farm was sold a few years ago by the government for tens of millions to Conoco-Phillips, nice how that works). My mothers side of the family suffered through joining USSR, and fled to Canada during the Holodomor.

Yet still, if i were to try and play the victim card people would laugh at me. But someone 5 Generations removed from american slavery can play the victim card? They started from nothing 150 years ago? My family started from nothing 70 years ago! Why can they play the victim card but I cannot?

At some point, it doesn't matter who you are, you have it worse off than someone else. On the flip side, no matter who you are, some one else had it much worse than you and accomplished 3 times as much. As far as I am concerned, all you can do is make yourself better off yourself by playing by the same rules as everyone else.

The most inspirational people and greatest achieving people i have ever met all had quite serious disabilities which as far as I am concerned hurts you in ways that are infinitely worse than being any colour any where in the world possibly could. This is my world view.

On April 27 2016 10:03 ComaDose wrote:
my less educated answer is to just train a different muscle group. but i believe training the same group while you have doms is not the end of the world but generally not allowing for full recovery. so like if its full body or w.e. training is still better than not but its probably not the greatest idea.