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[Girl blog] These feelings don't make sense.

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Garnet
Profile Blog Joined February 2006
Vietnam9033 Posts
August 17 2023 13:45 GMT
#1
There is a girl who is my colleague at work. She has a crush on me, she's cute but I don't really like her personality and her voice, which is a huge deal because I'm a sucker for sweet voices. We haven't had any face-to-face interaction, just some work-related chatting online. The thing is, I've just found out that she is leaving in a week and for some reason I'm feeling quite sad. Why am I feeling sad? Is it simply just the feeling of losing something that's always been there? Or am I actually attracted her, even though I keep telling myself I don't?

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bITt.mAN
Profile Blog Joined March 2009
Switzerland3693 Posts
August 17 2023 14:46 GMT
#2
Probably it's the loss of familiarity / emotional support.

Our 'type' or what we're attracted to is highly malleable. You can think someone is a no, but simply by spending enough time with them we can become attached and learn to like them. It's not much different from repeatedly seeing Ads eventually makes us feel good towards something.

This means both that those feelings aren't entirely reliable (or 'true') and that they can be changed through circumstance & effort.

Therefore, if you catch feels for someone, that's quite common. Instead it's good to focus on shared values and life comparability. This being a person you've never even actually met, it's unlikely you'd have enough to go on to develop an actual relationship. But we can still feel the void of someone's absence despite not being super keen on them.
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JoinTheRain
Profile Blog Joined September 2018
Bulgaria409 Posts
August 17 2023 14:47 GMT
#3
I don't think you're attracted to the girl. I think you're just one of those losers, there's a bunch of them everywhere, who crave and like girl attention. And now that you are going to be deprived of it, your sadness takes over cause you realize no other girl in the office will pay attention to you. That's what makes you miserable, I think.
The subject-matter of the art of living is each person's own life.
Garnet
Profile Blog Joined February 2006
Vietnam9033 Posts
August 18 2023 01:03 GMT
#4
On August 17 2023 23:47 JoinTheRain wrote:
I don't think you're attracted to the girl. I think you're just one of those losers, there's a bunch of them everywhere, who crave and like girl attention. And now that you are going to be deprived of it, your sadness takes over cause you realize no other girl in the office will pay attention to you. That's what makes you miserable, I think.

Nah she's not the only one who likes me, but yeah I do enjoy her attention and that's probably why I'm not feeling good about her departure.
Turbovolver
Profile Blog Joined January 2009
Australia2396 Posts
Last Edited: 2023-08-18 02:09:55
August 18 2023 02:09 GMT
#5
Last Year, Garnet wrote:
Yesterday my female co-workers were having fun and accidentally compared me to another guy in our company whom they have a massive liking for. They compared him to "seafood" and me to "river food", then when I asked why one of them said, "because seafood is more expensive". I got a little annoyed at first, but a few hours later got REALLY MAD at it. I am the only "man" in this team, which has 5 other women. I've been really nice to them, doing all kinds of tasks like replacing the water tanks, going 10 stairs down to take their online orders, solving their computer problems, even occasionally drop by their house to carry stuff for them. That other guy, on the other hand, hasn't done crap for them. He is just really tall and muscular (while I'm skinny and about 6 inches shorter).
Later that night I posted a story on Facebook saying "don't waste time on women. Use that time to improve yourself instead", which got me into a heated conversation with them. I know I was wrong for lumping all women into it, but I was really mad. In the end, we agreed that no one was at fault and that I'm simply not their "type".

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mathenalin
Profile Joined June 2011
United Kingdom120 Posts
August 18 2023 07:39 GMT
#6
On August 17 2023 23:47 JoinTheRain wrote:
I don't think you're attracted to the girl. I think you're just one of those losers, there's a bunch of them everywhere, who crave and like girl attention. And now that you are going to be deprived of it, your sadness takes over cause you realize no other girl in the office will pay attention to you. That's what makes you miserable, I think.


Holy shit OP fucking destroyed.

Probably true though
Mizenhauer
Profile Blog Joined February 2015
United States1916 Posts
August 18 2023 11:03 GMT
#7
On August 18 2023 16:39 mathenalin wrote:
Show nested quote +
On August 17 2023 23:47 JoinTheRain wrote:
I don't think you're attracted to the girl. I think you're just one of those losers, there's a bunch of them everywhere, who crave and like girl attention. And now that you are going to be deprived of it, your sadness takes over cause you realize no other girl in the office will pay attention to you. That's what makes you miserable, I think.


Holy shit OP fucking destroyed.

Probably true though


This guy has been writing these sorts of Girl Blogs since 2009. At this point it's just great comedy.
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JimmyJRaynor
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
Canada17362 Posts
August 18 2023 15:04 GMT
#8
this blog deserves its own shirt.
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Mizenhauer
Profile Blog Joined February 2015
United States1916 Posts
August 18 2023 17:21 GMT
#9
On August 19 2023 00:04 JimmyJRaynor wrote:
this blog deserves its own shirt.
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Should just read, "Don't believe anything I say."
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Garnet
Profile Blog Joined February 2006
Vietnam9033 Posts
August 20 2023 03:07 GMT
#10
Yeah I think my Emotional Intelligence is just too low. I've hurt too many people because I just didn't know what to do with them. Like when an old friend excitedly said hi to me and I just ignored her. That was cruel.
RickyHorny456
Profile Joined June 2023
7 Posts
August 21 2023 08:16 GMT
#11
On August 20 2023 12:07 Garnet wrote:
Yeah I think my Emotional Intelligence is just too low. I've hurt too many people because I just didn't know what to do with them. Like when an old friend excitedly said hi to me and I just ignored her. That was cruel.


You are Grade A stalker material
Vivax
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
22245 Posts
August 21 2023 13:18 GMT
#12
Regret cause all you had were not face-to-face interactions ?

This thread could use some cooling paste tho
Garnet
Profile Blog Joined February 2006
Vietnam9033 Posts
August 21 2023 13:37 GMT
#13
On August 21 2023 22:18 Vivax wrote:
Regret cause all you had were not face-to-face interactions ?

This thread could use some cooling paste tho

I don't really feel anything anymore. I guess it was just the feeling of losing something that has always been there.
castleeMg
Profile Blog Joined January 2013
Canada786 Posts
August 21 2023 16:56 GMT
#14
On August 17 2023 23:47 JoinTheRain wrote:
I don't think you're attracted to the girl. I think you're just one of those losers, there's a bunch of them everywhere, who crave and like girl attention. And now that you are going to be deprived of it, your sadness takes over cause you realize no other girl in the office will pay attention to you. That's what makes you miserable, I think.


This is essentially what I believe as well, although this was worded kinda harshly.
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iPlaY.NettleS
Profile Blog Joined June 2010
Australia4395 Posts
August 22 2023 12:34 GMT
#15
On August 20 2023 12:07 Garnet wrote:
Yeah I think my Emotional Intelligence is just too low. I've hurt too many people because I just didn't know what to do with them. Like when an old friend excitedly said hi to me and I just ignored her. That was cruel.

Move to a new city, change your name and begin a new life.
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KrillinFromwales
Profile Blog Joined March 2022
68 Posts
August 26 2023 22:12 GMT
#16
I feel like it's because I'm extremely good looking but I never have these experiences with girls. I have a sort of weak personality in the sense that I don't really care what happens to them if nothing goes my way. If she hasn't donated anything to you then she probably doesn't like you. At the end of the day you can nitpick whatever you want but you're the customer. She's not interested in your being. She's interested in your affection.


If you have no history with her then just let her leave. If you care what happens after that you're hurting yourself needlessly.
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