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Aerisky
Profile Blog Joined May 2012
United States12129 Posts
February 02 2013 08:53 GMT
#21
Man, I don't have any advice or perspective to give you (in any event, it seems like you kind of know where you are right now as well as where you've been, if not where you want to go), but I've seen you around and you seem like a really great person. I can just wish you the best of luck, and once again give the tired-but-oh-so-important statement to do what you love if at all possible. Don't take up a lifestyle you hate. Ultimately, the most important thing is to be happy. It doesn't mean you have to love your job, but don't do anything you'll loathe.

Also Integra that is a dark, dark story...wow :X
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Kuni
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Austria765 Posts
February 02 2013 09:02 GMT
#22
You cannot waste your lifetime. Everything you do provides you with more experience. You live, no matter what you do. There is no wasted lifetime. You only waste time towards reaching a specific goal and goals are replacable, self-imposed steps to make you feel like you have a meaning, but it is never too late to change, never too late to change your goals.

As long as you don't ruin your body or your mind, the rest is not really that important.
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Scarecrow
Profile Blog Joined July 2009
Korea (South)9172 Posts
February 02 2013 10:52 GMT
#23
It doesn't matter how useless your degree is, it'll still allow you to teach English in a foreign country (e.g. Korea). Enjoy yourself, save some money and get some perspective.
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alwinuz
Profile Joined September 2011
Netherlands77 Posts
February 02 2013 10:59 GMT
#24
No worries man, there are so many people that take a detour to what they want to do. I'm a med student myself and have almost 4 years study delays. There's a fellow student here that started med school when he was 30 years old. Sometimes I worry about my delays. But I will get there in the end, it just takes a little longer. It may take some time but I will get there. And so will you.
don_kyuhote
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
3006 Posts
February 02 2013 11:03 GMT
#25
It's never too late man. 23 is not that far in life, and you certainly didn't waste all of it. I mean how many people can really say that they lived their life with 100% productivity? Focus on the things you can control instead of lamenting what you did in the past. Everybody makes wrong turns in their life here and there.
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eSen1a
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
Australia1058 Posts
February 02 2013 11:03 GMT
#26
1. finish your masters
2. start going to the gym
3. once you finish your masters, go travel

don't waste another 10 years in uni. just go out and do something. always be positive
DanielHetberg
Profile Blog Joined August 2011
141 Posts
February 02 2013 11:08 GMT
#27
To state it bluntly: you're most likely still feeling like shit because you were dumped.

When you're down emotionally, it's easy to see the worst aspects in everything and it seems like nothing in your life is good or makes sense. Give yourself the time to get over it, and meanwhile continue doing what you did before to the best of your ability. Chances are, your decision to start doing that wasn't all that idiotic (most of the time, one doesn't make bad decisions, given the available information).

The (sad?) truth is, your life is of course drastically influenced by what you did ten, five or two years ago and now you have exactly one chance of making the best of it, and making your peace with the choices you made in the past. I suggest reading Ken Grimwood's "Replay" in that context, it moved me quite deeply and made me realize a couple of things about my own life.
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bobsire
Profile Joined December 2011
Canada296 Posts
February 02 2013 11:50 GMT
#28
Im 23 as well.. almost 2 years ago my girl dumped me too. We dated for 5 years. It was a very difficult time to get over. But let me tell you.. there is hope, you will feel better. Time heals everything. Start going to the gym, get into a routine. Going to the gym will make you feel better about your self cause you will get stronger and your body will look good. Who cares if you failed or had low grades. Sign up for a program something you like doing, and start doing it. Start to do it is the key. And when you start doing it you will start to realize girls are a headache and you don't need a serious relationship until you build your life. Go out there and fuck some random bitches and have fun. Go out with your boys and go experience stuff that you haven't because you late teens were preoccupied with unnecessary bullshit (girlfriend). You will soon realize that life is awesome and you are awesome. Thats pretty much were i am. The past 2 years i started going to the gym, went back to university (almost done my degree), got back into playing competitive soccer, had a lot of fun with girls. I've learned so much about my self and what has to offer it is just amazing. Don't give up, you can do it.
Arcanefrost
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
Belgium1257 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-02-02 11:57:38
February 02 2013 11:54 GMT
#29
Every gift in life that's worth having is wrapped in layers of temporary pain. You cannot become a doctor without putting in the work. You cannot find the girl of your dreams and be happy without putting in the work. This is your life, if you want to be something grab your fucking nuts and be it. Don't make excuses for anything, this is life, it's never gonna be a clear cut moment where you're like "oh well, I guess this is the perfect time to improve myself and strive for my dreams". It begins when you put one foot in front of the other. Bet on yourself, you can never lose when you bet on yourself.
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r.Evo
Profile Joined August 2006
Germany14080 Posts
February 02 2013 12:43 GMT
#30
On February 02 2013 14:43 Djzapz wrote:
I would like to go to med school because I have a lot of admiration for doctors and I can see myself actually feeling good about what I'm doing if I were a doctor. I wouldn't do it BECAUSE it hard, I would do it because I would like to do that - and it happens to be a difficult domain to get into.

Someone has to tell you: You're lying to yourself. You don't want to go to medschool. You want to be able to say "I would have gone to medschool if this or that would have been different" to feel better about yourself.

You don't sound stupid from what I'm reading here. You just sound lazy as fuck. Get your shit together.

(<3)
"We don't make mistakes here, we call it happy little accidents." ~Bob Ross
Djzapz
Profile Blog Joined August 2009
Canada10681 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-02-02 14:24:09
February 02 2013 14:23 GMT
#31
Thanks everyone =)

On February 02 2013 18:02 Kuni wrote:
You cannot waste your lifetime. Everything you do provides you with more experience. You live, no matter what you do. There is no wasted lifetime. You only waste time towards reaching a specific goal and goals are replacable, self-imposed steps to make you feel like you have a meaning, but it is never too late to change, never too late to change your goals.

As long as you don't ruin your body or your mind, the rest is not really that important.

I think you make an interesting point and it summarizes what many people have been saying in a rather eloquent way. The problem though is a harsh reality - I'll need to start working sooner or later. If I've been taught anything by my grandparents, it's that you have to "invest in your old days".

On February 02 2013 21:43 r.Evo wrote:
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On February 02 2013 14:43 Djzapz wrote:
I would like to go to med school because I have a lot of admiration for doctors and I can see myself actually feeling good about what I'm doing if I were a doctor. I wouldn't do it BECAUSE it hard, I would do it because I would like to do that - and it happens to be a difficult domain to get into.

Someone has to tell you: You're lying to yourself. You don't want to go to medschool. You want to be able to say "I would have gone to medschool if this or that would have been different" to feel better about yourself.

You don't sound stupid from what I'm reading here. You just sound lazy as fuck. Get your shit together.

(<3)

I'm not saying I would have gone to med school if things had been different, I'm saying I would have gone to med school if I had been BETTER. I'm not complaining about circumstances - I'm talking about my own failures. But you're still right about the second part. Cheers.
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Elegance
Profile Blog Joined February 2009
Canada917 Posts
February 02 2013 14:28 GMT
#32
You should look into going into nursing (the 4 year program). I'm currently 20 and will be 21 when I graduate and will be making decent bucks coming out of university. There are some universities in Ontario that offer the 4 year R.N program in a fast-track version that crams it all into 2 years so you can save your years (the only requirements are that you have 2 years of university experience and a couple of courses).
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r.Evo
Profile Joined August 2006
Germany14080 Posts
February 02 2013 14:28 GMT
#33
Just because you didn't do good enough to achieve something doesn't mean that you are not good enough to achieve something.

Also damn, your desk is pretty cleaned up for a lazy person.
"We don't make mistakes here, we call it happy little accidents." ~Bob Ross
Djzapz
Profile Blog Joined August 2009
Canada10681 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-02-02 14:44:56
February 02 2013 14:42 GMT
#34
On February 02 2013 23:28 r.Evo wrote:
Just because you didn't do good enough to achieve something doesn't mean that you are not good enough to achieve something.

Also damn, your desk is pretty cleaned up for a lazy person.

No it's messy as hell, you just don't see it, there's usually just one clean spot in front of me to put a book there.
Typical desk day: (add a few beers at night).
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That said I'm not saying I can't do good enough... but now I'm mourning those 6 years, and I wish I had been better in the first place. And now if I do the switch I may screw myself further. There are financial elements to consider for instance...
"My incompetence with power tools had been increasing exponentially over the course of 20 years spent inhaling experimental oven cleaners"
r.Evo
Profile Joined August 2006
Germany14080 Posts
February 02 2013 14:58 GMT
#35
... It looks better than mine and I cleaned up yesterday. FML.


Mourning is fine. Wishing that things had been better is fine, too. It's when you dwell too much over things that are already done that it effects your future that it becomes an issue.

Loved ones die, we miss opportunities, we aren't the best ourselves that we could have been. That's part of life and you're aware of that. In the end what really counts is with which way you can become the most happy with yourself and your life - while one year to finish your master doesn't sound like a too long time, if it's too long for you and you'd rather work towards something else starting tomorrow is entirely your choice. No one can make that choice for you.

However, also no one made the choice for you that you have to live a horrible life with a horrible job when you're done. That shit is in your head, no where else. If you want to work towards a different career, you can do so. You might have to work at the same time or you might have overcome some additional burdens but it's up to you. Maybe, just maybe, you might also find a great job around great people with your current path. You won't find out until you give it a try. And yes, that includes stuff like internships.

Besides that it's not that uncommon (at least over here) to see people at 40+ in med schools. You're young, stop sounding like my own grandfather. =P
"We don't make mistakes here, we call it happy little accidents." ~Bob Ross
Grettin
Profile Joined April 2010
42381 Posts
February 02 2013 15:12 GMT
#36
On February 02 2013 20:03 eSen1a wrote:
1. finish your masters
2. start going to the gym
3. once you finish your masters, go travel

don't waste another 10 years in uni. just go out and do something. always be positive


This is a great advice. There is so many people unhappy in their jobs and normal lives but they do it just to get to travel somewhere for a brief moment.

When i read your blog Djzapz, i can relate somewhat. I was lazy in school, didn't care what i was doing so i rather played games with my friends than study. Awful grades (especially math and physics) every year till i finished grammar school. Got into a vocational school with no effort simply because they spots left. I didn't mind, at least i got into somewhere. Well, in the end i graduated with decent grades but i really don't want to continue in the field because it was boring and not for me.

While my situation is easy, i'm few years younger than you are, education is free where i live, i still am lost and sad that i didn't care about my grades. Lots of schools that i might be interested in, i wouldn't have chance. At least not just yet.

Back to the travelling. I've always loved it and if this whole situation turns out the way i'm afraid, that i will end up in a job that i don't like to do, i will use my time travelling even harder than i have planned.

Good luck man. I hope you find the right way!
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mynameisgreat11
Profile Joined February 2012
599 Posts
February 02 2013 15:28 GMT
#37
You are overreacting. Maybe TL showcases a demographic which gives a skewed perspective, but almost everyone has a crisis like this sometime in their young adult life. Most people do it when they are older than 23. I was 25.

Some of your realizations are just part of life. Your dreams will not pan out the way you thought or hoped when you were 14. You will probably make less money, and your job will probably not be as exciting. These issues aren't unique to you, and everyone deals with them as they become an adult.

Main point: buck up, it ain't so bad. You'll enjoy your 20's more with a positive attitude.
cLAN.Anax
Profile Blog Joined July 2012
United States2847 Posts
February 02 2013 16:28 GMT
#38
I can relate to a fair bit of this. I would argue you think too much and do too little. That sounds harsh, but I have the same problem. I spend too much time on the computer ranting via the Internet and not nearly enough time seeing my dreams reach fruition.

Time is your most valuable resource. I'm sincerely glad that you've now realized that. But it's time to plan out your goals, learn what you need to do to see them happen, buck up, and just go do it. I don't have a clue as to what that is (perhaps it's med. school like you mention; perhaps it's poli. sci. like you've studied for; perhaps it's something else entirely), but you need to narrow in on whatever good goal you believe is for you and just go do it. May there be a positive desperation with which you work and act, and may you grow a motivation and mentality that not only says "No" to the distractions that will impede your progress to your goals, but replaces each of them with a "Yes" towards something else that does advance you. A "No" is not enough; a "Yes" must be given. And when you find what to say "Yes" to, work at it tirelessly till you reach it.
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Firnafth
Profile Joined January 2013
United States20 Posts
February 02 2013 16:52 GMT
#39
As others have pointed out, you sound like you are still reeling from breaking up with your gf, which is totally reasonable. Things will improve.

Do not quit your masters. You may regret quitting it later, the exact same way you are regretting neglecting your earlier schooling. IMO The only circumstance you should quit is if you have something awesome (preferably enjoyable and long-term) already lined up to do instead.

Also agree with the others that you should add some more non-school activities to your life. Exercise is indeed a really good one. Another thing you can try is volunteering: since you say you want to be a doctor, go hunt down a hospital and look into volunteering there. This will allow you to meet new people, do something you care about, and have something else to do that isn't your master's degree. If the thought of doing this doesn't at least mildly interest you, I'm going to go with the guy upthread and say you don't really want to be a doctor.
JOJOsc2news
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
3000 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-02-02 18:28:51
February 02 2013 18:10 GMT
#40
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