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Who the fuck do they think they are? The only purpose of this alien race is that they can fucking mess with life all the time. They whine, they bitch about every single thing there are and come up with weirdest shit ever just to be heard.
What's my reason for venting like this? Well, there is this dog of ours and the baby that is 8 months old now. Obviously the baby are always going around since he understood month ago that he can move and hasn't stopped ever since. Well, our precious little dog, which has been attacked by my mother-in-laws dog almost killing him, is shitscared about every single dog in the world. He always barks at them while passing since he’s afraid that he’s gonna get bitten again.
Well if this wasn’t enough there is the other issue that has occurred during the 5 years of this our dogs life. My girlfriends sisters has picked on the dog since it’s birth and teased it without being told to stop. Now since I’ve been with my girl for 2½ years for now the problem has been since the start, the dog tries to defend against children who are going towards him, mostly growling and trying to bite if he’s expecting being teased or just lifted up and down without ANY REASON. If he ever bites my boy, and I’ve made this perfectly clear to my girl and she agrees aswell, the dog will have to put down because aggression problems.
The one problem comes down to this, my girlfriend doesn’t want to give the dog away since she’s way too attached to him and are too selfish to give it to even her parents, which doesn’t take good care of their 2 dogs, both of them has dreads all around them and they should have none and both have some fucking bugs all around, oh and the fact that my girl always deals their fingernails and toenails and brushes their fur etc. The other solution would be to give it to my girls grandma but the problem is that it will most likely to get fat due to very bad eating habbits. While our dog is atleast trying to ignore their dogs, the other are growling instantly when seeing ours.
The fact is that after her pregnancy she has been quite alone since I’ve been at school and at work and she doesn’t have anything to do at days, now she’s found a new friend to spend time with her at daytime with her own baby and they get along almost too perfect makes me so happy to see her feeling better about having more social life than myself. And now if she starts to train SOMEHOW the aggression while having to deal aggressive dog that can’t be given to anyone because her attachment and wanting the dog to be on too good hands in our family, and she doesn’t want to give it to any stranger. She might lose her new found social contact over this, since she wouldn’t have time to spend since to be having take care of the dog and not spending time with people, which she have missed so much.
Now what is the most fucked up thing is that my mother-in-law is trying to get the dog to her place to be taken care of. So there would be two dogs, one that have already attacked to him, and one that our dog are scared of since the incident. Now this mother-in-law is trying to pressure us to give the dog to her for a day or two and is trying to ensure us that he’ll be entirely safe in the house and nothing will happen. My girl would be devastated if she’d see the dog that got him past very hard depression at parents house which is the one of the reasons what caused the depression in the first place. I am so fucking clueless what to do, I will stand at 110% at my girls back and if there will be a third world war between my girls and her family then there will be. The dog will never go to their place to get slacked and ignored and most likely to torn apart.
I am the one who would like to handle this peacefully, like my girl, but seems that they don’t even believe that our dog is aggressive they just don’t even believe video where the dog growls and tries to bite our little one while he’s crawling on the floor. They are saying that my girl is stubborn, which she can be, and so selfish, which I would be in her case also, and also that they won’t accept this. They even have a key to our apartment and if they fucking dare to go so low and tries to “take it” while we’re away I will report my mother-in-law to police for breaking in and theft.
I am so sick all of this bullshit that we’re dealing… Fucker won’t see from my girls point of view, EVER. Oh, better yet my mother-in-law has practically said that my girl can’t be good mother to our baby, which she has been, more than I ever expected.
Are there any suggestions how to deal this fucking shit? I don’t even mind the suggestions to get baseball bat and beat the shit out of… oh great and now I am already thinking these kinds of things. WHAT TO DO?! Does anyone in TL have these "UNIQUE" creatures that you just want to kill?
fyi, admins, before banning me entirely I am not going to kill anyone, I am so mad about the situation , I just seek some advices............ I MAD BRO'S. NO NEED TO EVEN ASK. I won't apologize for my vocabulary/grammar but I'll fix them if found.
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Hey,
I believe I can relate - my mother in law always tries to be very controlling of what me and my significant other do. It was in fact much worse when I first moved in to live with my significant other. Sadly enough, we live very close to our mother in law, so she could basically pester me all day long. I think, what is important, is to not let your mother in law to get the assumption that she can say anything to you and get away with it. I personally, when it got really awful, to the point she even critized the fact I play games, hell, even calling me on my appearance, basically insulting who I was, told her to fuck off and mind her own damn business. Literally. I'm not going to take crap from anyone. Some people feel, they are entitled to tell you what to do, just because they happen to be related to you. It's really important to show them they are not. There's giving an advice; that is perfectly ok, we all sometimes need a little advice there and there, as we are not all-knowing, and then there's being a constant bother and trying to force stuff on you, repeating it again and again, until you just 'shut up and go with what she wants'. While it may seem rude to tell someone to 'off', in some cases, you simply have no other option to get the message across. And whenever she even tries to pull this crap away, I am kind enough to remind her of minding her own business.
So, my message to you, would be simply to tell her to shut the hell up and to mind her own damn business. And make sure, that she knows, that her business is NOT controlling your life.
Good luck. 
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Tell the bitch (mother in law) to back down. When dealing with agressive mother-in-laws, you need to stand up to them or they'll shit all over you.
The dog whisperer analogy also works on humans, show who is the alpha male. Be dominant
Edit: What this guy says ^^
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Honestly... I had a hard time following you. Is the problem with your m-i-l or dog or your GF?
+ Show Spoiler +..to anyone with any kind of dog problems: watch some dog whisperer. Maybe if you were able to help your dog you wouldn't have some of the other issues?
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On March 29 2012 18:26 PeZuY wrote:
The one problem comes down to this, my girlfriend doesn’t want to give the dog away since he’s way too attached to him and are too selfish to give it to even his parents, which doesn’t take good care of their 2 dogs, both of them has dreads all around them and they should have none and both have some fucking bugs all around,
I don't understand this part.
Would you mind clarifying whether or not 'he' should be 'she' and 'his' should be 'hers' or if one of the 'him' is a dog or ... ?
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If you have a problem with anyone, just tell them to get the fuck out of your life. It really is that simple.
My father once literarly kicked my grandma (his mother-in-law) from our house when she was on a visit and was being mean as usual, esentially solving all the problems forever (she never came back). One of the best things he has ever done (sadly).
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y0su, our dog has agression issues towards kids and are scared of other dogs. And fyi, my girlfriend has tried to watch Cesar Milan, who in her eyes he mostly abuses dogs while I agree probably helps them IN A WAY. She doesn't share the same method to train dog as Milan especially the parts of using electric collars etc, which he does.
And in EU or the country that I'm living, they have edited all the... well the most provocative things out from tv to not get animal rights to their asses. But I do agree that dealing with agressive dog it's not about giving treats all the time, and I overall don't understand the whole training myself since it's my girlfriends dog and she wants to take care of the dog.
ps. I get it my text is awful to read, I read it multiple times but I just can't get it out better than it is. + Written with being pissed doesn't really help: )
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On March 29 2012 19:31 aebriol wrote:Show nested quote +On March 29 2012 18:26 PeZuY wrote:
The one problem comes down to this, my girlfriend doesn’t want to give the dog away since he’s way too attached to him and are too selfish to give it to even his parents, which doesn’t take good care of their 2 dogs, both of them has dreads all around them and they should have none and both have some fucking bugs all around,
I don't understand this part. Would you mind clarifying whether or not 'he' should be 'she' and 'his' should be 'hers' or if one of the 'him' is a dog or ... ?
:D I apologize firstly, secondly it shoud read she and hers, as I bolded, I will edit it out.. and him meaning the dog. Sorry for messing it <.<
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Is it possible to section off your apartment?
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how old is the dog? if he's still rather young, i'd suggest going hardcode training mode on him, like stay next to him and the second he starts getting aggressive grab him, tell him to calm down and wait until he does, then hold him, close to the child(obviously not close enough so he can bite if you don't trust the situation yet), and then just hold him still in this situation until he becomes calm. That won't necessarily solve being afraid of children in general, but it should get him to accept your child at least. There's no reason to start with electric shock collars or anything that drastic right of the bat, especially because such train through pain measures would probably give the dog the impression that he should stay away from children instead of just not getting aggressive. Just forcing him everytime to confront the situation until he calms down is certainly a better approach.
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I'm sorry to repeat this, but i can't understand this blog, its like it was google translated to english, which is still fairly ok on the translation, but its just so hard to understand  .
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Wow, interesting situation - actually, I find the situation a bit bizarre since it usually happens differently. The mother-in-law is usually the guy's mum who is very controlling and demanding whilst the wife gets put under pressure. While, your situation is the mother-in-law is your girl's mum whose is controlling towards her (and not you).
Anyways, as the man, there is a solution. Firstly, it's your house, your rules. Secondly, your girlfriend (soon to be wife?), once married, will be accountable to you, and not her. Tell your mother-in-law that keeping the dog in the house is YOUR decision not hers. Don't make it it your girlfriend's vs mum decision.
Tell your mother-in-law that the care of your baby is you and your girlfriend's responsibility - not hers. If you are happy, then that is good enough.
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look, its obvious that your mother in law is concerned about the safety of the baby. to your mother in law, having a dog around your baby may seem like having a sharp object lying around the room. your mother in law will never back down in this argument because she will believe that she is doing this for your baby, which in turn, for you and your wife as well.
And another thing to consider. You've known your wife for just a little more than 2 yrs, but your mother in law has known her for her whole life. In her eyes, she will forever be a little kid who wants everything without any sacrifice. your mother in law protected her daughter through her growing up and she probably expects her daughter to do the same.
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I would just like to take a moment to be anal and point out that it's "mothers-in-law," similar to "attorneys general" or "passersby."
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