Girl Help !! - Page 7

On August 02 2011 06:51 FFGenerations wrote:
u know what today she explained how she was getting annoyed and tired of my company because i havent been taking the iniative and lead in the day to day things. this is a very very typical thing that turns women off like nothing else (not all women though - but this girl especially it seems).

i already knew this to an extent but honestly didnt realise to what extent. she absolutely needs direction (i said "lets go shopping" when i meant "i just wanna browse around randomly and hang out" but she got extremely pissy because she felt like i was just faffing around being indecisive and lame. she hated it when i looked at some clothes but didnt comment enough to her satisfaction (she wants a YES or NO or some strong feedback whereas my general response is to think things over too much).

another example of how this affects us is when i might suggest a movie and then spend 5 minutes saying shit like "mm you might like it because of blah but it does have blah in and the overall tone of the movie is blah and maybe we should watch this other thing instead blah blah". when i really i should just be like "WE WATCHING THIS NOW STFU AND ENJOY"

so these kinda things REALLY and i mean really tick her off and she gets moody and her whole attitude towards me in general becomes very negative, which in turn makes me feel fucked up and because im the classic "conflict-avoider" i just back down and make the situation even worse.

so the major lessons for today kids are that being decisive and leading is way more important than you think - you should ALWAYS be one step ahead of another person and you should ALWAYS be very direct and PRECISE (no faffing around) in anything you do, from buying shit at the shop to knowing when you're going to eat or pick the place to eat.

you should INSTANTLY speak your mind or do whatever comes into you head as soon as you think it. you might think you're very clever and interesting in your head, but no one else fucking knows that unless you shout it out and do it. if she says something that makes you feel like shes pissy, dont hang around wondering and analysing and hoping itll go away. fucking say something - SHE WANTS YOU TO even if she never asks you to. when you dont say something she just thinks "wtf isnt he saying it, he is weak and/or stupid??"

give feedback. all the time. dont fucking overthink everything and spend 10 hours trying to decide whether you like the taste of the ice cream or fancy taking the dog for a walk now or in 30 minutes.

some women are VERY good at doing what they feel like as soon as they think about it and expressing how they feel as soon as they feel it. this makes them natural-born leaders and with that comes an elevated status. if you cant live up to that standard or surpass it then you'll appear unattractive and get poor responses from them. theyll think you are indecisive, poor at communicating, or theyll just think you have an empty head with no opinion or no balls.

i knew all this but i guess i forgot how important or challenging it is with some people. many of my other friends are indecisive and dont really give a fuck about anything, so i get out of practice.

this is why having shit like a car, or inviting a girl to YOUR place rather than going to hers (where you dont know jack shit or even the language) is an immediate bonus. of course, these are superficial things and its great that im able to learn the "hard way" haha.

u know what today she explained how she was getting annoyed and tired of my company because i havent been taking the iniative and lead in the day to day things

On August 02 2011 08:26 FFGenerations wrote:
i dont wanna go into personal side of her but im pretty sure there is/can be attraction from her when im doing shit right. that question (and my OP) is out of date now sadly however haha

basically if you act attractive then you can attract any girl , its not really a question of "does she like me" but "am i doing it right" :/

On August 02 2011 12:26 [Atomic]Peace wrote:
Don't be this guy:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CkoMbxHQmuM

On August 02 2011 06:51 FFGenerations wrote:
u know what today she explained how she was getting annoyed and tired of my company because i havent been taking the iniative and lead in the day to day things. this is a very very typical thing that turns women off like nothing else (not all women though - but this girl especially it seems).

i already knew this to an extent but honestly didnt realise to what extent. she absolutely needs direction (i said "lets go shopping" when i meant "i just wanna browse around randomly and hang out" but she got extremely pissy because she felt like i was just faffing around being indecisive and lame. she hated it when i looked at some clothes but didnt comment enough to her satisfaction (she wants a YES or NO or some strong feedback whereas my general response is to think things over too much).

another example of how this affects us is when i might suggest a movie and then spend 5 minutes saying shit like "mm you might like it because of blah but it does have blah in and the overall tone of the movie is blah and maybe we should watch this other thing instead blah blah". when i really i should just be like "WE WATCHING THIS NOW STFU AND ENJOY"

so these kinda things REALLY and i mean really tick her off and she gets moody and her whole attitude towards me in general becomes very negative, which in turn makes me feel fucked up and because im the classic "conflict-avoider" i just back down and make the situation even worse.

so the major lessons for today kids are that being decisive and leading is way more important than you think - you should ALWAYS be one step ahead of another person and you should ALWAYS be very direct and PRECISE (no faffing around) in anything you do, from buying shit at the shop to knowing when you're going to eat or pick the place to eat.

you should INSTANTLY speak your mind or do whatever comes into you head as soon as you think it. you might think you're very clever and interesting in your head, but no one else fucking knows that unless you shout it out and do it. if she says something that makes you feel like shes pissy, dont hang around wondering and analysing and hoping itll go away. fucking say something - SHE WANTS YOU TO even if she never asks you to. when you dont say something she just thinks "wtf isnt he saying it, he is weak and/or stupid??"

give feedback. all the time. dont fucking overthink everything and spend 10 hours trying to decide whether you like the taste of the ice cream or fancy taking the dog for a walk now or in 30 minutes.

some women are VERY good at doing what they feel like as soon as they think about it and expressing how they feel as soon as they feel it. this makes them natural-born leaders and with that comes an elevated status. if you cant live up to that standard or surpass it then you'll appear unattractive and get poor responses from them. theyll think you are indecisive, poor at communicating, or theyll just think you have an empty head with no opinion or no balls.

i knew all this but i guess i forgot how important or challenging it is with some people. many of my other friends are indecisive and dont really give a fuck about anything, so i get out of practice.

this is why having shit like a car, or inviting a girl to YOUR place rather than going to hers (where you dont know jack shit or even the language) is an immediate bonus. of course, these are superficial things and its great that im able to learn the "hard way" haha.

On August 02 2011 07:01 Discretionary Duck wrote:
By the way, don't even try to explain it to her. Just stop calling, texting, etc. Just disappear. If you're alpha enough in two months to six months' time, then it won't matter. Chicks are simplistic. She won't be like: "Where were you for the last x months." She'll just be overjoyed with your manly presence in her life her hormones will take over and you can start the thrusting.

On August 02 2011 07:24 FFGenerations wrote:
personally i believe ive come a LONG LONG LONG way with this girl, its annoying i have to fuck up right now but im glad we're talking about it (me and her) and i still have hope in myself even if she doesnt (can only change her opinion by proving it to her and thats what i intend to do )

still, i wish she wasnt so hard up on it, but thats life. if you wanna cash the cheque you gotta put the hours in

On August 02 2011 14:35 Servius_Fulvius wrote:


This is a terrible mindset. Please vacate it immediately.

You haven't come a LONG LONG LONG way with this girl. You've gone nowhere.

Ever think that maybe she's frustrated because she likes you and you're not decisive enough to do anything about it?

On August 02 2011 13:08 CosmicAC wrote:

You are doing the all caps thing on purpose right? To make fun of that article? Can't tell.

On August 02 2011 14:48 FFGenerations wrote:


yeah i have felt like this. but right now shes unhappy with my lack of manliness so i have to build that back up again *sigh*. yes, "again"