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I am very saddened that my 3 about to be 4 year old brother has autism. The people told us he has "high-functioning autism." I really want to cry, all I want to see is him having a normal life, going to normal schools.
Before, he would never talk, say a word or anything since maybe 1-2 years old. At 3 he started saying a bit more complex words and now he is actually replying to what we ask him a bit, finally started pooing in the toilet, and even asking a bit of questions himself.
I have been looking everywhere and I couldn't find any direct answers for these few questions, so please anyone on TL who knows a bit about autism please help me!
Can Autism be helped to the point where a person can have a normal social life?
Can Autistic kids like my brother go to a normal school?
Basically all I'm looking for is assurance  . Also can this be passed on to their kids?
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Are you sure this is the right place to look for answers?
I am sorry btw
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On May 22 2010 13:11 grog wrote:Are you sure this is the right place to look for answers? I am sorry btw
Well, their are some very smart people on TL and some are experts at this stuff.
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On May 22 2010 13:09 DallasTx wrote:Can Autism be helped to the point where a person can have a normal social life? Can Autistic kids like my brother go to a normal school? Basically all I'm looking for is assurance . Also can this be passed on to their kids?
Autism can't be cured but through therapy you can get them to talk/interact with their environment a bit more. They can go to a normal school but it's better to send them to a special school as they can be bullied or the work may be too hard for them. And no autism is not genetic.
I can understand your position totally as my younger brother is also autistic.
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I have high functioning autism and traits of schizophrenia.
I am taking a ton of drugs and they aren't doing jack shit besides make me extremely tired to the point of complete exhaustion.
I hate to be a doomsayer but I at least have no hope in life of doing anything you folks would consider "normal" (not that I'd ever want to, really). Ever. I can't even begin to tell you about... anything. There's too much to say.
But it is also highly unlikely your brother will end up like I am because my psychosis is extreme.
As long as you don't live in Canada (specifically BC) you should be a lot better off than I am. Our mental health care is... useless, to put it lightly.
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I put up a Blog post a little while ago about my own autistic brother, who is currently 12 years old. It talks a bit about my experience having a brother with Autism and might give you a bit of an idea about what it can be like.
http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=122592
Each autistic child is unique and the experience will be different, but there are some things that are common. Some are able to be somewhat social, but for the most part they won't be able to interact as everyone else does. It's one of the most common downsides of the condition. My brother currently goes to public school under the special education program there.
If you have any more specific questions, don't hesitate to ask me.
Edit: Oh dang, someone ninja'd me and put my blog up already. :o
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If it would help any, I would say whenever hes at the park he loves playing with kids and is VERY smart. He remembers all the line in a hello kitty movie word for word.
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On May 22 2010 13:24 DallasTx wrote:
If it would help any, I would say whenever hes at the park he loves playing with kids and is VERY smart. He remembers all the line in a hello kitty movie word for word.
It's good he likes playing with others. 
Every one of them truly is unique. Some can speak perfectly fine with people while others can't even properly pronounce words.
One thing you can bet on is that helping to raise your brother won't be easy. You'll be constantly faced with new challenges and upsets. He will do things that won't make sense to you and sometimes you honestly don't know what you can do. But just stay with him, love him, care for him. He will make you grow in ways many people can't even imagine, and in the end, you two will have done more for each other than you'll ever really realize.
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I dont want to be insensitive, but im pretty ignorant on the subject. Is it true that autistic kids are usually super talented/smart in one way or the other?
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On May 22 2010 13:54 TheAntZ wrote:
I dont want to be insensitive, but im pretty ignorant on the subject. Is it true that autistic kids are usually super talented/smart in one way or the other?
No that's not an actual trait of autism but some can be savant's in memory, maths, etc. And even then they're not normally autistic but have traits of asperger's syndrome.
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On May 22 2010 14:04 maps wrote:Show nested quote +On May 22 2010 13:54 TheAntZ wrote:
I dont want to be insensitive, but im pretty ignorant on the subject. Is it true that autistic kids are usually super talented/smart in one way or the other? No that's not an actual trait of autism but some can be savant's in memory, maths, etc. And even then they're not normally autistic but have traits of asperger's syndrome.
ah alright, thanks, was really curious about this
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On May 22 2010 13:54 TheAntZ wrote:
I dont want to be insensitive, but im pretty ignorant on the subject. Is it true that autistic kids are usually super talented/smart in one way or the other?
Some people might call me smart (depending if they've seen my mods, novel, or not) but in a way I am a total retard.
My disabilities grew considerably worse from the age of 16 onwards (sometime after I dropped out of school and actually began "growing"). For example, my verbal speech used to be good but over time it has become very bad. Now I stumble over words constantly. Likewise, my typing used to be very strong (I type with two fingers at around 70-100wpm) but now that has degraded and I constantly make typos whereas before I did not. My motor skills in general are decaying.
I will never be able to do things like drive a car or maintain a long verbal conversation even though technically I am capable of both (I have driven around in a parking lot before heh, but I'll never even attempt to get a license, I know I would end up crashing). But above all, my abilities to focus and concentrate are completely destroyed. I also have severe learning disabilities; long have I desired to learn programming (specifically C++) and 3d modeling/animation but I have always failed in even getting started, and despite nearly a decade of playing with 3d programs I have hardly penetrated the very surface of the subject.
The mere presence of another person, even one I may know, incites a massive psychotic episode inside. The end result is unbearable anxiety attacks. This may not even be a person - it could be something I hear or see, totally unrelated to people at all. I an extremely sensitive person emotionally, so the chronic depression that comes with the job is often unbearable.
I like to think of myself in some ways brilliant, but the blade is double-edged and most vicious. Yes, I am intelligent. Will I ever get to harness that intellect? No.
Maybe I'll make a post about it sometime.
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I believe on the news a few nights ago I saw a segment on Oxygen therapy utilized to combat Autism in children.
Essentially the child and another occupant (Usually a parent) sit inside a hyperbaric pressure chamber and breath pure oxygen for about an hour. The theory behind it is that the oxygen will allow blood vessels to better develope in the brain allowing for more oxygen to reach it, thus reducing the symptoms. In theory it sounds reasonable however this therapy is still in experimental stages, and there is little evidence other than anecdotal to support it. Either way you may want to check it out.
Good Luck
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Autism is a social disorder, not learning disability. There are vast differences between a learning disability and someone who has social functioning disabilities, which thus affect his ability to learn. Someone with Autism, cannot function the same as you or I in a social setting. They have trouble communication their needs, or even deciphering what those needs are. Therefore, schooling can be a very stress full environment for an autistic child. They are sensitive to touch, light, noise, and many other factors which would make it harder for them to learn. They have no problems with absorbing the information, many autistic people have IQ's that are off the charts. Its a matter of getting the information past the mental block and around all the environmental elements that will play a part in their ability to concentrate. It sounds the same as someone with a learning disability, but as for treatments, and therapys, not so much.
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Eh, I don't have a name for that aspect. But it's there. What you describe is pretty much what I concluded. Light especially, as in daytime, has a huge negative impact on my abilities.
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On May 22 2010 14:41 IskatuMesk wrote:
Eh, I don't have a name for that aspect. But it's there. What you describe is pretty much what I concluded. Light especially, as in daytime, has a huge negative impact on my abilities.
You keep sounding more and more like a vampire.
Hope things go well with your brother. Family love is so important.
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My cousin is autistic as well. He just turned 18.
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my mom's an expert on child autism, and i've picked up a few things along the years...
basically, most autistic people throughout their lives have "routine" or "schedule" and don't like change. If things change they have really irrational reactions. Also, it's good to go to a clinic for therapy, because things such as speech impediments can be fixed within 2-3 years with proper therapy.
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Some useful stuff has already been mentioned. The key point, I think, is to not view autism as that much of a mental illness. Depression (or anything related) is not a natural trait of autism. By themselves, people with autism are perfectly fine (as fine as you can be) and do not endanger themselves or others, really. Their problems, however, arise from their incompatibility to "normal" life and "normal" people; from what you are describing, your brother seems to be alright, but in general, it's mostly the early treatment of children with autism that decides whether they can one day lead an unproblematic (yet probably still different) life.
A special school and expert help to help him build the abilities to interact with the "normal" world on his own (when he is older) are certainly very useful things to do. The importance of early childhood intervention can hardly be overestimated, as far as I know.
My mother studied social pedagogy and a friend of hers, who unfortunately lives a few hundred km away, gave birth to an autistic child, too. She suffered a lot from psychoses in her life, though, and the development of the child turns out to be rather a catastrophe, according to my mother's rants, because her friend could barely raise a normal child, and autistic children need a lot more care, without giving you back so much (because huge spontaneous emotions aren't exactly their domain).
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Autistic children lacks some of the intuition normal people are born with. Therefore they often have problems with for example their fine motor skills, identifying all non direct communication and understanding that other people are people with thoughts and such as themselves and not just
input->output machines.
They can live a quite normal life but it requires a lot more work to get it right than with most normal kids. Emotionally labile persons who behave irrationally are extremely hard to understand for autistic people and will just scare them away from people, you need to teach them the social world as if he was an alien visiting from another planet.
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On May 22 2010 13:09 DallasTx wrote:I am very saddened that my 3 about to be 4 year old brother has autism. The people told us he has "high-functioning autism." I really want to cry, all I want to see is him having a normal life, going to normal schools. Before, he would never talk, say a word or anything since maybe 1-2 years old. At 3 he started saying a bit more complex words and now he is actually replying to what we ask him a bit, finally started pooing in the toilet, and even asking a bit of questions himself. I have been looking everywhere and I couldn't find any direct answers for these few questions, so please anyone on TL who knows a bit about autism please help me! Can Autism be helped to the point where a person can have a normal social life? Can Autistic kids like my brother go to a normal school? Basically all I'm looking for is assurance . Also can this be passed on to their kids?
DallasTx I also have high functional autism.. err I used to have anyway.
When I was about 18 years old I found out that I was different from all other people. After asking my parents it turned out that I was autistic. Now there is allot of bullshit about what autism is and is not.
Autism is NOT a medical condition nor a disorder, It is a syndrome. What it means is that it belongs on a spectrum based on behavior. For my case I had stoneface (problem expression emotion), Agnosia (senory overload and trouble recognicing faces), social awkwardness (nerd syndrome) I also had problem understanding other people siuation which made it very hard for people to connect to me. All this was related to behavior and expression and it was tied to my neurology (my brain and the way I perceive the world).
This only related to my Autism or my spectrum. Other people might have other traits at their spectrum. each person is unique.However this is just that, Behavior.
When it comes to understanding things at a logical level (the intellect) a person who only has autism function just as well as a "Normal" person.
NOTE allot of the autistic people you see in the sensation press or heard of does not only have autism, they also have other diagnoses in form of mental disorders like retardation or insanity. Just like a normal person can get mental disorders so can people with autism. BE weary of this when you read about autism. AUTISM only relates to behavior. If it says that they killed people or are insane it's just that they have something else besides autism.
Regarding the treatment of autism It is very treatable, in a way anyway. For me it was a question about improving a skillset that I was naturally bad at, namely social skillsets. In my case when i was around 19 a bunch of science people wanted to assign a assistant to me because they didin't think i would function in society. That's how bad it was. However I turned it around and I've now 10 years later been declared as "healthy mental state" with high than normal social skill and empathy towards other people. I have no problem socializing and understanding people. Nor do I find it hard in any way. I'm finishing my Masters in System Science where I've been working on my thesis for around 1 year now. I've also been a payed assistent on my university where I've helped by teaching and planning new courses that relates to system Science. This takes allot social wise and I'm coping just fine.
If the only thing your brother has is autism then I wouldn't worry about it. If he has something else, like ADD or ADHD etc it might be a little more problematic. Again I AM PURE autism. The only thing I had to work on was my behavior which basically only takes time. I have no actual medical condition.
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Wow thanks for all the reply's.. Now I'm confident if our family works with out brother that he can have a normal life. He is very smart and has already started interacting with us, so I really believe in him.
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I have many symptoms of Asperger's, and I am perfectly normal, as you see.
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On May 23 2010 00:45 DallasTx wrote:
Wow thanks for all the reply's.. Now I'm confident if our family works with out brother that he can have a normal life. He is very smart and has already started interacting with us, so I really believe in him.
my sister has autism and she's the greatest thing thats ever happened to me or my family.
its really difficult to deal with at younger ages until like 6 or 7 but it gets easier
how serious is the autism? more along the side of aspergers or what?
feel free to PM me whenever you like if you have questions ^_^ i'd love to help out a fellow big brother
EDIT: oh high functioning i see, so you're in the exact same boat as me! yeh pretty soon you'll learn how to communicate with your brother.
like my sister uses phrases from TV shows and movies when a character is displaying a certain emotion. like in Shrek when shrek is angry, he says "OGRES ARE LIKE ONIONS" at a certain part. so whenever my sister gets pissed she says "ogres are like onions!!!" and if confuses the hell out of anyone else but my family, cuz we just get it 
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On May 22 2010 21:28 Integra wrote:Show nested quote +On May 22 2010 13:09 DallasTx wrote:I am very saddened that my 3 about to be 4 year old brother has autism. The people told us he has "high-functioning autism." I really want to cry, all I want to see is him having a normal life, going to normal schools. Before, he would never talk, say a word or anything since maybe 1-2 years old. At 3 he started saying a bit more complex words and now he is actually replying to what we ask him a bit, finally started pooing in the toilet, and even asking a bit of questions himself. I have been looking everywhere and I couldn't find any direct answers for these few questions, so please anyone on TL who knows a bit about autism please help me! Can Autism be helped to the point where a person can have a normal social life? Can Autistic kids like my brother go to a normal school? Basically all I'm looking for is assurance . Also can this be passed on to their kids? DallasTx I also have high functional autism.. err I used to have anyway. When I was about 18 years old I found out that I was different from all other people. After asking my parents it turned out that I was autistic. Now there is allot of bullshit about what autism is and is not. Autism is NOT a medical condition nor a disorder, It is a syndrome. What it means is that it belongs on a spectrum based on behavior. For my case I had stoneface (problem expression emotion), Agnosia (senory overload and trouble recognicing faces), social awkwardness (nerd syndrome) I also had problem understanding other people siuation which made it very hard for people to connect to me. All this was related to behavior and expression and it was tied to my neurology (my brain and the way I perceive the world). This only related to my Autism or my spectrum. Other people might have other traits at their spectrum. each person is unique.However this is just that, Behavior. When it comes to understanding things at a logical level (the intellect) a person who only has autism function just as well as a "Normal" person. NOTE allot of the autistic people you see in the sensation press or heard of does not only have autism, they also have other diagnoses in form of mental disorders like retardation or insanity. Just like a normal person can get mental disorders so can people with autism. BE weary of this when you read about autism. AUTISM only relates to behavior. If it says that they killed people or are insane it's just that they have something else besides autism. Regarding the treatment of autism It is very treatable, in a way anyway. For me it was a question about improving a skillset that I was naturally bad at, namely social skillsets. In my case when i was around 19 a bunch of science people wanted to assign a assistant to me because they didin't think i would function in society. That's how bad it was. However I turned it around and I've now 10 years later been declared as "healthy mental state" with high than normal social skill and empathy towards other people. I have no problem socializing and understanding people. Nor do I find it hard in any way. I'm finishing my Masters in System Science where I've been working on my thesis for around 1 year now. I've also been a payed assistent on my university where I've helped by teaching and planning new courses that relates to system Science. This takes allot social wise and I'm coping just fine. If the only thing your brother has is autism then I wouldn't worry about it. If he has something else, like ADD or ADHD etc it might be a little more problematic. Again I AM PURE autism. The only thing I had to work on was my behavior which basically only takes time. I have no actual medical condition.
please get the fuck out you absolute moron. you couldnt be more wrong about everything you're saying.
you do not "find out" you have autism. it is a DISORDER from the very beginning and it affects physical aspects as well as behavioral.
just shut up. i cant believe you posted that garbage.
you dont treat autism. you deal with it. dear god you are so wrong, did you urbandictionary this shit or something?
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On May 23 2010 06:41 mOnion wrote:Show nested quote +On May 22 2010 21:28 Integra wrote:On May 22 2010 13:09 DallasTx wrote:I am very saddened that my 3 about to be 4 year old brother has autism. The people told us he has "high-functioning autism." I really want to cry, all I want to see is him having a normal life, going to normal schools. Before, he would never talk, say a word or anything since maybe 1-2 years old. At 3 he started saying a bit more complex words and now he is actually replying to what we ask him a bit, finally started pooing in the toilet, and even asking a bit of questions himself. I have been looking everywhere and I couldn't find any direct answers for these few questions, so please anyone on TL who knows a bit about autism please help me! Can Autism be helped to the point where a person can have a normal social life? Can Autistic kids like my brother go to a normal school? Basically all I'm looking for is assurance . Also can this be passed on to their kids? DallasTx I also have high functional autism.. err I used to have anyway. When I was about 18 years old I found out that I was different from all other people. After asking my parents it turned out that I was autistic. Now there is allot of bullshit about what autism is and is not. Autism is NOT a medical condition nor a disorder, It is a syndrome. What it means is that it belongs on a spectrum based on behavior. For my case I had stoneface (problem expression emotion), Agnosia (senory overload and trouble recognicing faces), social awkwardness (nerd syndrome) I also had problem understanding other people siuation which made it very hard for people to connect to me. All this was related to behavior and expression and it was tied to my neurology (my brain and the way I perceive the world). This only related to my Autism or my spectrum. Other people might have other traits at their spectrum. each person is unique.However this is just that, Behavior. When it comes to understanding things at a logical level (the intellect) a person who only has autism function just as well as a "Normal" person. NOTE allot of the autistic people you see in the sensation press or heard of does not only have autism, they also have other diagnoses in form of mental disorders like retardation or insanity. Just like a normal person can get mental disorders so can people with autism. BE weary of this when you read about autism. AUTISM only relates to behavior. If it says that they killed people or are insane it's just that they have something else besides autism. Regarding the treatment of autism It is very treatable, in a way anyway. For me it was a question about improving a skillset that I was naturally bad at, namely social skillsets. In my case when i was around 19 a bunch of science people wanted to assign a assistant to me because they didin't think i would function in society. That's how bad it was. However I turned it around and I've now 10 years later been declared as "healthy mental state" with high than normal social skill and empathy towards other people. I have no problem socializing and understanding people. Nor do I find it hard in any way. I'm finishing my Masters in System Science where I've been working on my thesis for around 1 year now. I've also been a payed assistent on my university where I've helped by teaching and planning new courses that relates to system Science. This takes allot social wise and I'm coping just fine. If the only thing your brother has is autism then I wouldn't worry about it. If he has something else, like ADD or ADHD etc it might be a little more problematic. Again I AM PURE autism. The only thing I had to work on was my behavior which basically only takes time. I have no actual medical condition. please get the fuck out you absolute moron. you couldnt be more wrong about everything you're saying. you do not "find out" you have autism. it is a DISORDER from the very beginning and it affects physical aspects as well as behavioral. just shut up. i cant believe you posted that garbage. you dont treat autism. you deal with it. dear god you are so wrong, did you urbandictionary this shit or something?
This is what I mean, so many people have no idea what they are talking about.
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On May 23 2010 07:07 Integra wrote:Show nested quote +On May 23 2010 06:41 mOnion wrote:On May 22 2010 21:28 Integra wrote:On May 22 2010 13:09 DallasTx wrote:I am very saddened that my 3 about to be 4 year old brother has autism. The people told us he has "high-functioning autism." I really want to cry, all I want to see is him having a normal life, going to normal schools. Before, he would never talk, say a word or anything since maybe 1-2 years old. At 3 he started saying a bit more complex words and now he is actually replying to what we ask him a bit, finally started pooing in the toilet, and even asking a bit of questions himself. I have been looking everywhere and I couldn't find any direct answers for these few questions, so please anyone on TL who knows a bit about autism please help me! Can Autism be helped to the point where a person can have a normal social life? Can Autistic kids like my brother go to a normal school? Basically all I'm looking for is assurance . Also can this be passed on to their kids? DallasTx I also have high functional autism.. err I used to have anyway. When I was about 18 years old I found out that I was different from all other people. After asking my parents it turned out that I was autistic. Now there is allot of bullshit about what autism is and is not. Autism is NOT a medical condition nor a disorder, It is a syndrome. What it means is that it belongs on a spectrum based on behavior. For my case I had stoneface (problem expression emotion), Agnosia (senory overload and trouble recognicing faces), social awkwardness (nerd syndrome) I also had problem understanding other people siuation which made it very hard for people to connect to me. All this was related to behavior and expression and it was tied to my neurology (my brain and the way I perceive the world). This only related to my Autism or my spectrum. Other people might have other traits at their spectrum. each person is unique.However this is just that, Behavior. When it comes to understanding things at a logical level (the intellect) a person who only has autism function just as well as a "Normal" person. NOTE allot of the autistic people you see in the sensation press or heard of does not only have autism, they also have other diagnoses in form of mental disorders like retardation or insanity. Just like a normal person can get mental disorders so can people with autism. BE weary of this when you read about autism. AUTISM only relates to behavior. If it says that they killed people or are insane it's just that they have something else besides autism. Regarding the treatment of autism It is very treatable, in a way anyway. For me it was a question about improving a skillset that I was naturally bad at, namely social skillsets. In my case when i was around 19 a bunch of science people wanted to assign a assistant to me because they didin't think i would function in society. That's how bad it was. However I turned it around and I've now 10 years later been declared as "healthy mental state" with high than normal social skill and empathy towards other people. I have no problem socializing and understanding people. Nor do I find it hard in any way. I'm finishing my Masters in System Science where I've been working on my thesis for around 1 year now. I've also been a payed assistent on my university where I've helped by teaching and planning new courses that relates to system Science. This takes allot social wise and I'm coping just fine. If the only thing your brother has is autism then I wouldn't worry about it. If he has something else, like ADD or ADHD etc it might be a little more problematic. Again I AM PURE autism. The only thing I had to work on was my behavior which basically only takes time. I have no actual medical condition. please get the fuck out you absolute moron. you couldnt be more wrong about everything you're saying. you do not "find out" you have autism. it is a DISORDER from the very beginning and it affects physical aspects as well as behavioral. just shut up. i cant believe you posted that garbage. you dont treat autism. you deal with it. dear god you are so wrong, did you urbandictionary this shit or something? This is what I mean, so many people have no idea what they are talking about.
as if i havent lived with an autisitic sister, played with the other kids in her class that are autistic, talked to doctors about her autism, read research on autism, etc, for 13 years.
you're right. you know way more than me. please continue to spew your bullshit.
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The range of function for autistic kids/adults is absolutely huge ... every individual is different.
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On May 23 2010 07:10 mOnion wrote:Show nested quote +On May 23 2010 07:07 Integra wrote:On May 23 2010 06:41 mOnion wrote:On May 22 2010 21:28 Integra wrote:On May 22 2010 13:09 DallasTx wrote:I am very saddened that my 3 about to be 4 year old brother has autism. The people told us he has "high-functioning autism." I really want to cry, all I want to see is him having a normal life, going to normal schools. Before, he would never talk, say a word or anything since maybe 1-2 years old. At 3 he started saying a bit more complex words and now he is actually replying to what we ask him a bit, finally started pooing in the toilet, and even asking a bit of questions himself. I have been looking everywhere and I couldn't find any direct answers for these few questions, so please anyone on TL who knows a bit about autism please help me! Can Autism be helped to the point where a person can have a normal social life? Can Autistic kids like my brother go to a normal school? Basically all I'm looking for is assurance . Also can this be passed on to their kids? DallasTx I also have high functional autism.. err I used to have anyway. When I was about 18 years old I found out that I was different from all other people. After asking my parents it turned out that I was autistic. Now there is allot of bullshit about what autism is and is not. Autism is NOT a medical condition nor a disorder, It is a syndrome. What it means is that it belongs on a spectrum based on behavior. For my case I had stoneface (problem expression emotion), Agnosia (senory overload and trouble recognicing faces), social awkwardness (nerd syndrome) I also had problem understanding other people siuation which made it very hard for people to connect to me. All this was related to behavior and expression and it was tied to my neurology (my brain and the way I perceive the world). This only related to my Autism or my spectrum. Other people might have other traits at their spectrum. each person is unique.However this is just that, Behavior. When it comes to understanding things at a logical level (the intellect) a person who only has autism function just as well as a "Normal" person. NOTE allot of the autistic people you see in the sensation press or heard of does not only have autism, they also have other diagnoses in form of mental disorders like retardation or insanity. Just like a normal person can get mental disorders so can people with autism. BE weary of this when you read about autism. AUTISM only relates to behavior. If it says that they killed people or are insane it's just that they have something else besides autism. Regarding the treatment of autism It is very treatable, in a way anyway. For me it was a question about improving a skillset that I was naturally bad at, namely social skillsets. In my case when i was around 19 a bunch of science people wanted to assign a assistant to me because they didin't think i would function in society. That's how bad it was. However I turned it around and I've now 10 years later been declared as "healthy mental state" with high than normal social skill and empathy towards other people. I have no problem socializing and understanding people. Nor do I find it hard in any way. I'm finishing my Masters in System Science where I've been working on my thesis for around 1 year now. I've also been a payed assistent on my university where I've helped by teaching and planning new courses that relates to system Science. This takes allot social wise and I'm coping just fine. If the only thing your brother has is autism then I wouldn't worry about it. If he has something else, like ADD or ADHD etc it might be a little more problematic. Again I AM PURE autism. The only thing I had to work on was my behavior which basically only takes time. I have no actual medical condition. please get the fuck out you absolute moron. you couldnt be more wrong about everything you're saying. you do not "find out" you have autism. it is a DISORDER from the very beginning and it affects physical aspects as well as behavioral. just shut up. i cant believe you posted that garbage. you dont treat autism. you deal with it. dear god you are so wrong, did you urbandictionary this shit or something? This is what I mean, so many people have no idea what they are talking about. as if i havent lived with an autisitic sister, played with the other kids in her class that are autistic, talked to doctors about her autism, read research on autism, etc, for 13 years. you're right. you know way more than me. please continue to spew your bullshit.
We are talking about the same thing, right as in high functioning autism?
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+ Show Spoiler +Hey guys.... how do I know if I have or "had" autism?? Reading this thread and looking up some info on wikipedia of everything related to autism is creeping me out but now that I think about it, I sorta can relate to my whole life so far.... for example: My parents mentioned to me before and I think I remember from my memory as well that I didn't really talk or had speech language skills until I was 5 (which was when I came to US). Before then, I don't think nor recall any memories of myself actually talking, saying words or anything and I have a good past memory that I can remember of my time when I was 3 or 4 which was when I was in Korea (since I was born there). Then according to my memory, I remember saying my first words in English on the first day in US, but don't remember anytime before speaking in any language, especially Korean... The next thing I realized is that I didn't really became active and talk to many people, I was one of those quiet folks throughout elementary and even middle (though I can safely say I'm not like this anymore) where I'll have 1 or 2 friends. I would frequently be quiet and do w/e I want to do. (ie. playing games like Pokemon by myself for like a 12 hours straight) My parents + relatives did mention that I was also very quiet when I was like 3-4 in which I can sorta relate and remember. Hmm... another thing I recall was I was super OD with few things at different parts of my life. The most common one was during High School, I was super OD of unable to sleep in my own bed unless I took a shower. I would never sleep on my bed unless I clean myself and since I was lazy many times, I would often sleep on the floor of my room instead of the bed because I didn't take a shower before I went to bed... Now that I recall this, I laugh and all but after reading a whole article, research, and etc on autism, it bugs me... I also can recall in relate to this topic is that I am (still is) a very very selective eater which apparently has some parts of autism... I would NOT eat seafood whatsoever (though there were times where i forced myself to eat and this was only recent to mingle in social events), would NOT eat anything related to sweets (chocolate, candy, etc but I do eat and enjoy sweets now ^_^), and just am picky with this and that type of food. Also I know stacking is a big thing in autism.... I just loved to stack random things during my freshman year in college (I don't really remember of doing this in my memory though I know I've done it some part of my life) where I would just stack water bottles on top of each other just for the heck of it. I mean I was an engineering major and I was thinking of like stacking on top of each other to see how high it would go. But I stopped doing that b/c I realize how stupid I was during my 2nd year. Finally, in the case that I feel many of us just plainly have it and doesn't relate to it (though it did state it could be part of autism) is extreme physical laziness. Like I would thought out and make plans of any given situations, imagining of how to execute and do this plan but I end up always failing to do the plan. My body wouldn't let me do some of the stuff I want to do b/c I suppose I'm just down right lazy? This includes especially to assignments, plans for meet up and etc in which would benefit me but I just wouldn't go for it sometimes despite thinking about it for hours of how to do it.... I have several other examples that I can tell and possibly relate to the topic of autism but they're just kinda pointless. They're interesting and also somewhat embarrassing stories or situations I've dealt with but perhaps in future blogs if my fellow TL readers would be interested in me...
Now, back to my main topic. My parents never told me about autism (and I sorta have a doubt they even know what it means) nor has anyone. I never had to attend special schools or anything since I went all public from elementary to high school, lived a normal life (well not normal if you read what I just wrote), and is in college perfectly "fine". But I never really knew about what autism means or who it effects until I just did some brief research on wiki... hmm... so are these enough proof that I have autism or am I just weird? Also, while on topic, are there any celebrities in US who has autism and are successful? Since my field is Broadcast Journalism and I am planning to take on the road of media world so will my chances to be a famous broadcaster in both TV and radio will be affect by this??
Posted my entire story in a separate blog since it's personal and LONG but I spoiled it in case anyone wants to read it... I would like some feedback on this on my blog or here if I do or don't have autism... because gosh, I never knew what autism really was nor thought about it hard until now...
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On May 23 2010 07:26 Integra wrote:Show nested quote +On May 23 2010 07:10 mOnion wrote:On May 23 2010 07:07 Integra wrote:On May 23 2010 06:41 mOnion wrote:On May 22 2010 21:28 Integra wrote:On May 22 2010 13:09 DallasTx wrote:I am very saddened that my 3 about to be 4 year old brother has autism. The people told us he has "high-functioning autism." I really want to cry, all I want to see is him having a normal life, going to normal schools. Before, he would never talk, say a word or anything since maybe 1-2 years old. At 3 he started saying a bit more complex words and now he is actually replying to what we ask him a bit, finally started pooing in the toilet, and even asking a bit of questions himself. I have been looking everywhere and I couldn't find any direct answers for these few questions, so please anyone on TL who knows a bit about autism please help me! Can Autism be helped to the point where a person can have a normal social life? Can Autistic kids like my brother go to a normal school? Basically all I'm looking for is assurance . Also can this be passed on to their kids? DallasTx I also have high functional autism.. err I used to have anyway. When I was about 18 years old I found out that I was different from all other people. After asking my parents it turned out that I was autistic. Now there is allot of bullshit about what autism is and is not. Autism is NOT a medical condition nor a disorder, It is a syndrome. What it means is that it belongs on a spectrum based on behavior. For my case I had stoneface (problem expression emotion), Agnosia (senory overload and trouble recognicing faces), social awkwardness (nerd syndrome) I also had problem understanding other people siuation which made it very hard for people to connect to me. All this was related to behavior and expression and it was tied to my neurology (my brain and the way I perceive the world). This only related to my Autism or my spectrum. Other people might have other traits at their spectrum. each person is unique.However this is just that, Behavior. When it comes to understanding things at a logical level (the intellect) a person who only has autism function just as well as a "Normal" person. NOTE allot of the autistic people you see in the sensation press or heard of does not only have autism, they also have other diagnoses in form of mental disorders like retardation or insanity. Just like a normal person can get mental disorders so can people with autism. BE weary of this when you read about autism. AUTISM only relates to behavior. If it says that they killed people or are insane it's just that they have something else besides autism. Regarding the treatment of autism It is very treatable, in a way anyway. For me it was a question about improving a skillset that I was naturally bad at, namely social skillsets. In my case when i was around 19 a bunch of science people wanted to assign a assistant to me because they didin't think i would function in society. That's how bad it was. However I turned it around and I've now 10 years later been declared as "healthy mental state" with high than normal social skill and empathy towards other people. I have no problem socializing and understanding people. Nor do I find it hard in any way. I'm finishing my Masters in System Science where I've been working on my thesis for around 1 year now. I've also been a payed assistent on my university where I've helped by teaching and planning new courses that relates to system Science. This takes allot social wise and I'm coping just fine. If the only thing your brother has is autism then I wouldn't worry about it. If he has something else, like ADD or ADHD etc it might be a little more problematic. Again I AM PURE autism. The only thing I had to work on was my behavior which basically only takes time. I have no actual medical condition. please get the fuck out you absolute moron. you couldnt be more wrong about everything you're saying. you do not "find out" you have autism. it is a DISORDER from the very beginning and it affects physical aspects as well as behavioral. just shut up. i cant believe you posted that garbage. you dont treat autism. you deal with it. dear god you are so wrong, did you urbandictionary this shit or something? This is what I mean, so many people have no idea what they are talking about. as if i havent lived with an autisitic sister, played with the other kids in her class that are autistic, talked to doctors about her autism, read research on autism, etc, for 13 years. you're right. you know way more than me. please continue to spew your bullshit. We are talking about the same thing, right as in high functioning autism?
ur cute. i'm done with this.
stop trying to help someone who is going through something incredibly serious by telling them lies and personal opinions.
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Beyonder
Netherlands15103 Posts
Do not worry too much about this (it seems you've already calmed down a lot as your posts progress.. good!). As mentioned, it is not a terrible disease or something that that takes away (all) happiness in life. It is however a big thing for him and his environment and it will require some special attention from everyone-- himself, family, school and perhaps professionals such as psychologists.
Autism however varies alot across and within the different spectrums. High functioning autism however sounds like a 'good thing'-- good in the sense that it could be a lot 'worse'; good in the sense that he does not have intellectual problems to go along with it. Because the combination of social problems AND intellectual problems is is worrysome.
His future should be alright if he develops somewhat normally. Social problems are to be expected, but really, if his IQ is normal and he has a good, safe and well-structured environment, he can do a lot if not all of the things us normal people do.
Regarding your question on school, it kind of depends where you live and how he develops. I know that schools in a lot of countries try to get these kids in normal schools even if it develops more serious. Hell, here that's even done for kids with an intellectual deficiency.
It is however really hard to say how he will develop, especially at such a young age. Predicting development really becomes much more reliable once he ages a bit. Reading however that he already starts communicating and learning, it should be alright
you dont treat autism. you deal with it. dear god you are so wrong, did you urbandictionary this shit or something?
You can however 'treat symptoms', teach the individual and try to reduce the effect of autism. Even more the case if it's a form with intellectual deficiency, but that's not the case here.
Anyway.. good luck It should be fine.
(Beyonder, soon to be developmental psychologist.. or well, maybe educational psychologist!)
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Beyonder
Netherlands15103 Posts
Also, a practical tip just in case you haven't heard it by now: make sure you, and most of all your parents, read up on this. The internet is full of practical tips on how to make the environment and interaction more structured for him, stimulating his development and creating a safe environment.
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