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So, my parent's asked me to do a simple thing last week, to stop playing. They also gave me two simple reasons, the first is that I've been addicted so much to the game, the second, it's part of growing up.
So, the first one may be a little hard to explain, but StarCraft was the only thing that removed the stagnancy of my life. Before I played, everything was just academics, academics, and oh look what I found, more academics; of course the mandatory chores and periodic help to the family business were also there. I never really played any other game competitively, sure I'm one of the other high school kids that was a regular to the shops across our school to play DotA, but that game sucked, especially when flame wars go in the in game chat. After playing StarCraft with a couple of friends on a map I barely remember now, and after being stomped by my Zerg friend (who continued to eat everyone on that FFA game, which looked like 1v7), and after chancing upon StarCraft as a feature on National Geographic, I knew I just had to play the game and I made the right choice. So why stop now? Well, my parents are concerned with my health, they say that I'm tensed when playing StarCraft, well at least my heart beat rate rarely increases in an average game. My parents also told me that StarCraft is acting like drugs already, because after I play, I'm emotionally high. Well, the "emotionally high" that they're referring to is my emotions when I'm just happy. Maybe it's partly my fault for acting so reserved and "limited" around the house; I show my happiness to a certain level only. They don't want me playing around anymore because of the reason that StarCraft has already acted as a drug to me. Oh well, so much for having fun.
Now, for the "growing up" part, I understand that. I'm taking driving lessons and my parents postulated that I might keep a childish/gaming mindset while driving, which of course, is suicidal. Oh yeah I'll have to add something in here since I was a little drowsy while writing this (it's almost midnight). My parents really have a bad perception of how I do things. When I was a child, I'm always occupied by something that my mind isn't where it's supposed to be, I'm absent minded. Maybe now that I have something to occupy myself with, something that they think is bad, they want me to stop it. Plus, they told me that I needed to let go of some stuff that won't contribute to a better me if I want to grow up. Damn, this part really sounds bs to me, I think my parents made up this "growing up" part, it's not entirely my fault if I have a whole lot of time, it's summer break ffs. But yeah, maybe I'll reduce playing competitively from time to time. I also have to focus on studies, so yeah, basically I won't have time to play anymore..
So what to do now? I've sneaked a few handful games at night and when my mom is off handling some business stuff (my dad is at the office in weekdays). Aside from the usual advice giving and noob/ignorant flaming in Garena, I've never pressed on that "Start Game" button for a whole week now, and I'm happy that I did. Why? I've noticed a couple of things, one of which is what I usually have in my conversations. When my dad gets home I usually tell him about a game I had and looking at it, it's a little immature to do that, I mean, is that the only thing that's occupying my life? Games? Well maybe this is part of growing up, but this does not mean that I'll really quit on StarCraft, I'll still watch those games and give advices on newbies. Once a gamer, always a gamer.
"Through this book, I want to convey how someone worthless like me was able to stand up to the world; my own 'dreams and hopes' that I never gave up even when everyone ignored me. I want to share my bloody tears with those who cry because the road they chose was too difficult, or those that gave up their dreams to take the road that was a little easier." - Lim Yohwan
Maybe people like him are one in a million, to be able to stand up to the world and all. So yeah, better read the rest of his book.....
 
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... And then, I saw the holy light. Quake 3. I knew my life had gone out the shitter. My parents kicked me out, but ill show them.
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If starcraft makes you happy, why quit it?
Although if you think you need to take a break, by all means do so.
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Sounds like you have good parents
Good luck
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maybe a few years down the line, when you're not living with your folks anymore, you'll pick it up again.
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So um, what do you do now?
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"Now, for the "growing up" part, I understand that. I'm taking driving lessons and my parents postulated that I might keep a childish mindset while driving, which of course, is suicidal."
That's made up, but if you've got to quit to achieve other things go for it. My problem is too much academics, not enough StarCraft.
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On June 14 2009 00:05 ghermination wrote:
If starcraft makes you happy, why quit it?
Although if you think you need to take a break, by all means do so.
Hmm, there are other things than can make me happy..:D Like hanging out with my siblings, which I haven't done in a good while...
On June 14 2009 00:10 armed_ wrote:
So um, what do you do now?
Well, maybe I'll stop playing but I'll still follow the proscene, no one can leave that. Of course when we're like 30~40 we can't play as we are playing now, but we will still follow it. Damn, what if like 10~30 years later and this forum is still running the conversations go like..:
Veteran: "Oh, that's Oov's kid? Kids got daddy's macro."
Veteran: "Lol @ commentator 'Those marines should get a purple heart.' I bet that's Tasteless' kid."
And the forum newbies are at lost on the conversations..
It's really a bad time to quit, actually it's always a bad time to quit, because there are new guys out there that are really talented and can learn fast. Oh well, all good things come to an end.
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Part of growing up is learning to be rational and not simply accepting everything your parents say as fact. "My parents postulated that I might keep a childish mindset while driving"...are you kidding me you seriously believe games could have any effect on your ability to drive? LOLOLOL
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I play starcraft to fill in my dead hours. My question to you is what you're gonna substitute with. What else is there to do when you're bored besides playing games or jerking off? "Hang out with friends" seems an obvious answer but I have a feeling yours are either playing starcraft or are inaccessible during your dead hours.
The growing up part was bs btw. The reason you told dad about games is because that's what you spent your time doing, gaming. He in turn might have told you what he did at work that day, because that's what he did, he worked. What would you talk about if not what's happened in your lives lately? Maybe your parents want you to quit gaming because they'd rather have you get a job so they can relate to you rather than start gaming themselves :p
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Now, for the "growing up" part, I understand that. I'm taking driving lessons and my parents postulated that I might keep a childish mindset while driving, which of course, is suicidal. I also have to focus on studies, so yeah, basically I won't have time to play anymore..
That's kind of... Over the top, don't you think? I mean, if you have problems separating driving from StarCraft, you might wanna get that checked out by a doctor lol.
I guess you're kinda forced to listen to your parents in a way, but the reasoning here is kinda stupid.
Okay, so StarCraft is addictive, yes. But like a drug? I think that's a little bit blown out of proportion. It makes you happy? Then why stop? It's not really THAT harmful. Being tensed up while playing? Increased heart rate? Unless you're like a 75 year old man or something I don't think it's that big of a concern.
But there is merit in their argument.
Choosing to study instead of play StarCraft = good.
And the talking to your dad about your StarCraft games when he comes home is a little much, unless he's interested in the game.
But why quit altogether? Couldn't you just play for as long as you have time for? (I.E. 4 hours a day instead of 8?) Games are a good way to have fun, and fun is an important part of life.
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Oh yeah, I didn't write the growing up part good...and it's almost midnight, I think I can still edit that..
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So basically you're admitting that you haven't learned shit in your life, and therefore must rely on your parents to decide for you.
Is that it?
(If you want to be a grown-up, it requires making judgments on your own and accepting the consequences. Not blindly following whatever your parents say. Your parents may be right in this case, but you have to evaluate what they say.)
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Yeah, unless SC is having a serious adverse effect on your studies or something(which you haven't mentioned), your whole post just reads like you trying to justify something you realise has no real justification. ;<
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My parents are actually supportive of my SC addiction. Even though I am terribly bad at this game, they ask every day during a WCG Qualifier how I did and when am I going to win one so they can go to NYC to watch me play there.
I don't have the heart to tell them I have no chance but it's nice to know that they support me in whatever I'm doing.
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I stopped playing starcraft long ago, now I just do it from time to time to stomp some friend. My parents are supportive as well when it comes to starcraft , because of my efforts to create some gfx stuff in photoshop. My mum is a graphic designer and still considers I'm focusing my attention in the wrong place but I'm sure she realizes that I could use my experience as a bench mark and do some serious stuff in photoshop someday...
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dont quit starcraft. It's not an addiction, its just a good habit. I AM addicted, I play ten hours on weekdays and 16 hours on weekends. You have NO problem lol. If its fun, and your not consumed by it, why give it up? Sure, cut it back if its interfering with other things, but dont end it. Your parents [no offense of course] seem to be a little old fashioned from what I've read. Growing up is not about giving up games or things you enjoy, and its not an addiction to do something you love.
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On June 14 2009 00:36 armed_ wrote:
Yeah, unless SC is having a serious adverse effect on your studies or something(which you haven't mentioned), your whole post just reads like you trying to justify something you realise has no real justification. ;<
aka where are the ladies?
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On June 14 2009 00:44 Dazed_Spy wrote:
Your parents [no offense of course] seem to be a little old fashioned from what I've read. Growing up is not about giving up games or things you enjoy, and its not an addiction to do something you love.
Well yeah, they're a little old fashioned when it comes to games. I guess they're afraid that nothing will happen to my life if I continue playing (which I won't when school arrives).
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Just learn to moderate? I think thats more part of growing up than just blindly following your parents' advice about something they dont even know.
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