Get in touch with her, find out what kind of person she is now, see if she's happy, get closure or get opportunity, either way, finish this dream sequence so you can walk new dreams.

quirinus

Croatia2489 Posts

September 17 2014 08:02 GMT

#22

Find another girl. You'll see that when that happens, thoughts about this one girl will start to fade away, along with your infatuation. They'll still probably remain, but more like a good memory than an obsession.

Don't bring girls up on a pedestal. That shit can fuck you up good if you don't know what you're doing.

Have fun with other girls, talk to them, make friends, you don't even need to hit on them, go out with them. Once you start doing this, you'll probably end up liking some friend of theirs. When you do, don't dawdle - go for it with all your mind.

Your world seems narrow right now, but you have to go out there, trust me, there's many amazing girls like that one. Even more amazing. You just have to let loose and find them.

edit:
Oh yea, and concentrate on your life and yourself. When your life is going well, usually good stuff will start happening almost on their own, including girls.

Garnet

Vietnam9056 Posts

September 17 2014 10:04 GMT

#23

Thanks everyone for your advice. I have decided to make it a life goal to meet her at least once, doesn't matter if she's married or not. Like you guys said I need a closure. But this will be a non-important priority, since I'm already too late to have any real chance with her.

I guess the 10-year-old her was perfect for the 10-year-old me, but that's it. I was too naive back then and didn't know anything about "relationships". Maybe I was so obsessed with her because it was my first love, and there was no ending so I just lingered on for so damn long. I wish I had a time machine so I can go back to that time again, it was definitely the best period of my life.

Time to focus on my life I guess. Lots of pretty girls in this school.......

Capped

United Kingdom7236 Posts

September 17 2014 15:14 GMT

#24

You get alot of this kind of thing with teenagers (say 14-18) but 10? Thats pretty damn young lel.

FFGenerations

7088 Posts

September 17 2014 15:49 GMT

#25

just find a different 10 year old....

Frumpysnoo

United States247 Posts

September 17 2014 20:05 GMT

#26

Idk bro. The last time you guys had contact you were 10 years old in elementary school. I'm being completely honest, and I'm sorry if it comes across really shitty, but this is borderline creeper. If you're looking her up and reminiscing the "times" you had in middle school, feeling empty and sad because of pictures of her and her boyfriend/fiance - that's a bit out of line. You should message her, see how she's doing and if she remembers your old friendship. But don't overstep your boundaries, especially if she has someone in her life right now. You're not feeling anything because you don't have the right to feel anything about seeing her grown and having a life with someone. She's a completely different person now compared to her 10 year old self, and I imagine you are too.

In all honesty, and it's been said before in this already, I feel that you're just in love with the idea of her. I also liked a couple of girls very much when I was in elementary school, as did just about every other person. I even had a few dreams as well about them as I was growing up. But if you're 22, and you're reminiscing the "relationship" you've had with your 10 year old friend... again I'm not trying to be rude, especially in your blog, but these aren't healthy thoughts. I imagine she would be very creeped out if she read this.

Garnet

Vietnam9056 Posts

September 19 2014 14:07 GMT

#27

On September 18 2014 00:49 FFGenerations wrote:
just find a different 10 year old....

But I'm 22 now.

Garnet

Vietnam9056 Posts

September 19 2014 14:11 GMT

#28

On September 18 2014 05:05 Frumpysnoo wrote:
Idk bro. The last time you guys had contact you were 10 years old in elementary school. I'm being completely honest, and I'm sorry if it comes across really shitty, but this is borderline creeper. If you're looking her up and reminiscing the "times" you had in middle school, feeling empty and sad because of pictures of her and her boyfriend/fiance - that's a bit out of line. You should message her, see how she's doing and if she remembers your old friendship. But don't overstep your boundaries, especially if she has someone in her life right now. You're not feeling anything because you don't have the right to feel anything about seeing her grown and having a life with someone. She's a completely different person now compared to her 10 year old self, and I imagine you are too.

In all honesty, and it's been said before in this already, I feel that you're just in love with the idea of her. I also liked a couple of girls very much when I was in elementary school, as did just about every other person. I even had a few dreams as well about them as I was growing up. But if you're 22, and you're reminiscing the "relationship" you've had with your 10 year old friend... again I'm not trying to be rude, especially in your blog, but these aren't healthy thoughts. I imagine she would be very creeped out if she read this.

I figured so after reading the comments here. I'm just gonna try to talk to her one more time, make it a bucket list thing or smt (but not on Facebook, I can't feel anything through texts).