EPTOn October 12 2013 08:00 HappyZerGling wrote:
yes, you are right, surgery wasnt as hard to come over! You know that it's happened, you know that there are a few reasons why it could had happened, you know that the surgery was ok, successful, you know that you'll be fine, you just need some time. You know exactly that you can start training in a month, eat something fried, some alcohol etc.
But in relations... damn :D that's hard, it's not only about you, it's also about the other person
You perceive the objective reality, situations, actions subjectively. The other person may perceive the same stuff differently.
You have different plans for life, and when you meet someone, you have different plans, some people want to spend the whole life with this person, others just want to have fun, you need to be 100% sure about the other person's plans.
The problem is - when you are in love, you may forget about yourself, you may want to do everything for your beloved, you see only the best things, you make ur belove ideal inside your head, but in fact this person appeared to be different.
I understood that I was blind in many aspects, I compromised a lot, sacrificing my wishes, I saw only the best things, made a great picture inside my head. When I heard about the idea of breaking up, I started making a puzzle from all of my memories, all the actions. I have always seen everything from first person, but you always have to see everything from 3rd person, to analyze everything!
When you play starcraft, you make decisions based not only on what you see, but you are thinking about your opponent, what is his situation etc. Same in relations, but it's not your opponent :D
I made so many conclusions, right now I am still fighting thoughts about reunion, fixing stuff, getting everything better, start over again, I've never said that it's easy. It is fucking not. It's really hard, but you can go hard, or you can go home ^^;
yes, you are right, surgery wasnt as hard to come over! You know that it's happened, you know that there are a few reasons why it could had happened, you know that the surgery was ok, successful, you know that you'll be fine, you just need some time. You know exactly that you can start training in a month, eat something fried, some alcohol etc.
But in relations... damn :D that's hard, it's not only about you, it's also about the other person
You perceive the objective reality, situations, actions subjectively. The other person may perceive the same stuff differently.You have different plans for life, and when you meet someone, you have different plans, some people want to spend the whole life with this person, others just want to have fun, you need to be 100% sure about the other person's plans.
The problem is - when you are in love, you may forget about yourself, you may want to do everything for your beloved, you see only the best things, you make ur belove ideal inside your head, but in fact this person appeared to be different.
I understood that I was blind in many aspects, I compromised a lot, sacrificing my wishes, I saw only the best things, made a great picture inside my head. When I heard about the idea of breaking up, I started making a puzzle from all of my memories, all the actions. I have always seen everything from first person, but you always have to see everything from 3rd person, to analyze everything!
When you play starcraft, you make decisions based not only on what you see, but you are thinking about your opponent, what is his situation etc. Same in relations, but it's not your opponent :D
I made so many conclusions, right now I am still fighting thoughts about reunion, fixing stuff, getting everything better, start over again, I've never said that it's easy. It is fucking not. It's really hard, but you can go hard, or you can go home ^^;
mm, thanks for this. I'll be thinking about this stuff for a while. I hope things work out for you, whatever that may look like.
