She told me she wants to. She's scared nervous excited so I want to make it as memorable and awesome as I can. Something she can always remember and be glad it happened. And what sort of fucked up girl would go out with a guy who doesn't want her, anyway? relationships are a two-way street. She's gotta make me happy, and I gotta make her happy. We are exclusive, just not fb official till the pants get dropped. and if I'm not happy then its over. youre acting like women don't like sex which is only true if you absolutely suck balls in bed and/or have weird unnatural judgemental attitudes about it so then you never get to have it in the first place

If she is so special to you, what could possibly make you want to sleep with these other girls?

Because I'm not having sex with anybody. One of my friends once told me a quote "Sex is like breathing. I only think about it when I'm not doing it."

ps Are you a guy? wtf lol

You sound like a total man-whore.

finally someone noticed

If this girl is good enough to warrant a real relationship, accept her for what she is and embrace that. If she isn't special enough for you to make the sacrifice for her, go be a horn dog else ware. Honestly though if some guy had your mentality around a friend or sister of mine he'd be dead before he touched her.

I don't think I'd wanna touch your gal friends if you have any but do you have a sister? How old is she?

Update: She'll be here for Friday. Parties don't become open until 12 so she's not allowed over until then. I'm making an ice luge I'll prob be setting it up ~10. I want it to last till she gets here and I also wanna see her before 12 but thats a slap to the face of the homecoming sorority im paired with and all the girls will be pissed so I haven't figured out what I'll do yet. I also have to evade mrs bed invader and keep the other girl happy but not too happy. one way or another this is gonna be a memorable friday lol

danl9rm

United States3111 Posts

October 13 2010 15:44 GMT

#22

On October 13 2010 11:43 VonLego wrote:
If virginity is something this girl values, why can't you be happy for her? What sort of sick bastard makes arbitrary demands of a girl that in order to "be exclusive" with a girl she's required to drop her pants despite not wanting to.

If she is so special to you, what could possibly make you want to sleep with these other girls?

You sound like a total man-whore. If this girl is good enough to warrant a real relationship, accept her for what she is and embrace that. If she isn't special enough for you to make the sacrifice for her, go be a horn dog else ware. Honestly though if some guy had your mentality around a friend or sister of mine he'd be dead before he touched her.

Honestly, I'm going to have to agree with this guy here.

Also, it seems like you're the one with

weird social conditioning about sex

because...

I don't want to go official until I've fucked her, but I'm not telling her this. I don't want her to think thats all I want out of her cuz its not, but whether you fuck or not is the difference between being friends and lovers.

This is false on so many levels. If you want to know what I think, I'd be glad to share, but I'm not gona laundry list it here and now, I'll just say that it's not true.

danl9rm

United States3111 Posts

October 13 2010 15:50 GMT

#23

She's scared nervous excited so I want to make it as memorable and awesome as I can. Something she can always remember...

It will be memorable no matter whether she enjoys it or not. It will be her first time.

...and be glad it happened.

Now, the only way she'll be glad it happened, in the future, is if you guys end up staying together, like, as in, getting married, and staying married. Otherwise, she'll regret it. It makes absolutely no difference how pleasurable it was to her physically. Sex is way more mental than physical, no matter how much you may want to believe. It sounds like you're new to it.

Rekrul

Korea (South)17174 Posts

October 13 2010 15:52 GMT

#24

"The reason you haven't felt it is because it doesn't exist. What you call love was invented by guys like me, to sell nylons. You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one."

-Donald Draper from the show Mad Men

rezoacken

Canada2719 Posts

October 13 2010 16:14 GMT

#25

On October 13 2010 08:57 eLiE wrote:
lol, fair enough. it's a fine balance. and if that was a shot at me, don't worry my balls are plenty big, but some of us don't have the looks to have girls clawing at us, so we must use our superior brains!

Haha no wasn't aimed at someone in particular, just though it funny to think it that way. Of course this is not that simple anyway

KurtistheTurtle

United States1966 Posts

October 13 2010 16:17 GMT

#26

On October 14 2010 00:50 danl9rm wrote:

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It will be memorable no matter whether she enjoys it or not. It will be her first time.

I know

"as memorable as possible"

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Now, the only way she'll be glad it happened, in the future, is if you guys end up staying together, like, as in, getting married, and staying married. Otherwise, she'll regret it.

I believe I can give her an experience she's glad she had regardless of whether we stay together long-term or not. I might be wrong but I'll try everything in my power not to be

It makes absolutely no difference how pleasurable it was to her physically.

I agree it isnt terribly important, but you have to be somewhat competent..

Sex is way more mental than physical, no matter how much you may want to believe. It sounds like you're new to it.

a way into a woman's soul is through her ear. I agree with everything in this statement but being new doesn't make me wrong

On October 14 2010 00:52 Rekrul wrote:
"The reason you haven't felt it is because it doesn't exist. What you call love was invented by guys like me, to sell nylons. You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one."

-Donald Draper from the show Mad Men

how apt