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I have a feeling my new roommate and I are not going to work well together.
By that I don't mean we will argue or dislike each other cause he's a great guy and I've had fun hanging out with him so far!
His name is Sam and he's Indian, and he's really nice. But the first thing I've noticed is that after just a few days here he is very free with the food that I've bought. That said, he just made a delicious dinner (with the chicken that I made the other night) and is very quick to offer it to me. It seems he's used to communal living. I'm not. Me and my other roommate have been by ourselves in our 3-bed for 5 months now and we're very accustomed to keeping things separate. This could take some getting used to, especially since I have no money, and what I buy is usually for myself.
He's so nice but his accent is so thick that I'm afraid to discuss it with him. His english is good but I fear miscommunication and I don't want to get started on the wrong foot with him. And maybe it's not such a bad thing, especially if he doesn't care that I don't really buy my fair share of the food stuff. I typically don't cause I don't have enough money.
What should I do?? Haha.
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This is totally normal. Try to be accommodating and see how it goes. If things really don't work out make a change but making a change now is just stupid. Give it time.
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especially if he doesn't care that I don't really buy my fair share of the food stuff. I typically don't cause I don't have enough money.
i dont get it. so you are saying he is free with 'your food' but your food is mostly not your food.
either that or you are explaining it wrong.
i'm indian, and ill say we are generally chill as fuck so if you bring up issues in a nice way he will likely not get mad.
likely. lol.
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JOEY DOESN'T SHARE FOOD!!
But really, just talk to the guy, he shouldn't get so angry tbh
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i believe he's saying "i don't have a lot to eat as it is" not "i starve"
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If he eats your food, why don't you eat his food?
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On June 30 2010 14:54 nath wrote:
especially if he doesn't care that I don't really buy my fair share of the food stuff. I typically don't cause I don't have enough money.
i dont get it. so you are saying he is free with 'your food' but your food is mostly not your food.
either that or you are explaining it wrong.
i'm indian, and ill say we are generally chill as fuck so if you bring up issues in a nice way he will likely not get mad.
likely. lol.
The food that I do buy, which is not that often, he has been free with.
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Situations like this only get worse the longer you wait on bringing them up. Just be honest and let him know. He'll understand, and if he continues eat his food and bring it up with the RA or something (I assume you live in a dorm).
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it doesnt sound like he lives in a dorm, probably an apartment on campus
"Me and my other roommate have been by ourselves in our 3-bed for 5 months now..."
but eiserne, so if you dont buy food 'that often' does that mean you use food that you don't buy sometimes? or do you not just eat? or am i missing something? just to clarify.
either way just bring it up.
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You could either trying rolling with it and enjoy him cooking meals for you, or just bring it up to him and say you'd rather keep things separate, he'll understand. I've done both... I guess I prefer keeping things separate besides milk and such.
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dude if you're white just say white people don't share food and that you're not cool with it. blame your Culture not him
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this is the less conflictive of the roommates blogs ive seen.. i dont know just tell him you arent as used to share food? i dont really know why its a problem if you have good reasons then just straight up tell him... its still a bit confusing why its uncomfortable..
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My roommate and I lived communally you could say. It's important to set clear boundaries though and expect fair treatment. My roommate took a lot of advantage of me at first, not because he had any sort of malicious intent, but he just didn't think about things. It's important if it bothers you to talk to him and discuss your feelings, as lame as that sounds.
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Just subtly hint that you like it when he makes food. And then have delicious free food
or confuse him with your iPhone whenever he makes a move for your food
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Jaedong would call you a cheapskate.
But seriously, just tell him with a smile on your face and it'll go through easily.
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Just talk to him about it.
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whats the issue? if anything id reccommend you all gather round for a food budget so you all survive rather than being stingy with your food and my food. xD
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"Hey, we have to figure something out about food, I'm on a really tight budget, so maybe it would be easiest to just keep our stuff seperate?"
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wow I don't understand what's the big deal yo. You come to ask for an advice from internet?
Just tell him that you'd like both of you to take care of your own food. Tell him that you like to eat at your own time and it's easier to calculate your money that you eat just for yourself.
He is a roommate not someone who you want to share your life with.
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just tell him that normally you love sharing food, but recently you have less money, so you are unable to.
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EPT
