[Girl blog] Disappointment - Page 2

On March 20 2012 15:06 Garnet wrote:
. We were meeting basically 5 days a week for over 2 years (we're classmates) and I barely noticed her existence. There's really no doubt that if she was not pretty I wouldn't even remember her name.

That was when I really started to think about our situation and my feeling for me. I ended looking at her pictures and stalking her on Facebook, to try to know more about her. Didn't get much info.

But when she's not around, I kinda miss her and think a lot about her. What an annoying paradox.

I think a good way to solve this problem may be to ask her out, do something together etc. But that would mean showing her my true, nerdy self which could potentially make it worse.

On March 20 2012 15:23 Lucumo wrote:

Quite narcissistic, aren't we?

Anyway, I do agree with Ghin. Don't make her wait and create a situation where you either take or dump her.

On March 20 2012 20:59 Monsen wrote:
Have you ever felt any attraction to women at all? Do you actually fantasize about women, sexually?
I mean if you're not into her, then that's cool. If you're not into women that's cool too- you just need to figure out what you like. Reading that wall of text basically saying that you're not attracted to a girl- how is that a problem?

So either a) You don't want her but you still want her to be interested. That's a dick move and you should stop. Or b) you're gay/asexual (does that really exist?) and just don't like women that way. That's fine and the sooner you realize and accept that the better. Or c) you're such a pussy that you can't even admit to yourself (and TL) that you ARE into her in which case your self improvement should start with looking for some resemblance of balls. You don't need to be that bullshit alpha/PUA whatever macho type. But if you can't even admit to yourself what you want- how are you ever gonna get anything?

On March 20 2012 16:00 r.Evo wrote:


You're shy and you have little self-confidence.

You're not "not attracted", you're just so scared that she might not like you at one random point in the future and that is what keeps you keep from being honest with yourself.


a) Admit that you're being a scared pussy. To yourself and, after you spent some quality time as boy & girl together, to her. Feel free to be honest to her starting right now about how you're a bit further on the shy side but that you enjoy spending time with her.

b) Play it tough. Build that shell that you kept your entire life and build it further up. Enjoy sex and being with her and then getting dumped becaue she learned to love someone you don't really want to be.

c) Keep doing what you're doing. Enjoy seeing her kissing and cuddling with a random male of your class. Enjoy her not wanting to spend a lot of time anymore with you (except to tell you what a great guy you are and how much her bf sucks).


It's your life & your choice. If you aim for a), I'd gladly help you out on the way. If you go for b) I'd understand the choice and wish you gl. If you chose c), you haven't been hurt enough in your life to start changing your behaviour.

On March 20 2012 19:25 Caphe wrote:

He is in Vietnam, in Hanoi I believe.

Asians don't ask girls out fast if they have true feeling for her. Thats come natually and may take months or even years . I know how you feel dude. Well just ask her out now, if still you can't make a conversation with her, just let it go. There are plenty more girls out there.